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The 2 (or more?!) Under 2 Support Thread!

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GrrrlWith2Boys · 04/12/2007 14:50

Post your woes (or joys) here if you're currently tackling 2 kids under 2 (please say i'm not alone!)

DS1 is super wingey today and driving me batty...the slightest thing and he's whining and crying.

Have managed a 10 min walk with pushchair to get out of house. DS1 watching far too much TV, i haven't brushed my hair and the dog won't stop barking.

I need some gin.

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SuperGrrrl · 06/02/2008 10:29

have made a pact with myself to make more of an effort Chaotica. From now on, i MUST wash/moisturise face, brush teeth/hair by 10am. And i'm going to get a pile of cheap vest tops from Primark for easy puke-top changing.

totally nothing to do with thread, but i have smear test later- not looking forward to that. childminder having DS1 while i go. didn't fancy toddler running round during that.

Will ask about contraceptive jab too while i'm at it

katyt1 · 06/02/2008 16:14

justabout - best of luck with giving up MN for lent, def an impossible one for me!

in-laws collecting ds1 from nursery, ds2 asleep, so grabbing a quick moment on here.

my birthday today, been out for lovely lunch with in-laws & wander about the shops - knackered now tho! - and ds2 slept the whole time, fab.
people think i'm strange but actually i find just having a baby liberating! when ds1 is at nursery there is no routine to the day and i love it no thinking oh we must be home for such a time for lunch or tea, or i must remember a cup and snack if we'll be out that long, etc. making the most of it, hehe.

feel a bit of a fraud on here juat at the mo as won't be on my own with the 2 boys for a few more weeks yet. so plenty of time to blowdry my hair (omg)...

right must get on

Chaotica · 06/02/2008 16:48

Sounds like a good idea, Supergrrrl. I'll make a pact with you I'm determined to make more effort (but I always get the impression that nobody notices with DD I started looking and feeling a whole load better once I went back to work because then I had to at least look kind-of smart) (and be able to do more than wave toys about and read books about penguins).

Happy Birthday, Katyt1!

And make the best of the newborn stage of DS2 while it lasts. I'm just beginning to get an inkling that life will be a whole new prospect once I actually have to entertain two of them all the time. No more going out to have fun with DD and taking DS in the buggy on the assumption he'll just be asleep. Now he wants to join in too... On the other hand, the DCs are beginning to enjoy each other's company which is really sweet (and make it worthwhile having two of the little terrors hanging about )

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Chaotica · 07/02/2008 17:53

OHHHH NO! Nobody is posting but me!

(We're having a melodramatic day over here -- DD is rather good at exclaiming Oh No! over every insignificant thing. It started the day by getting on my nerves but I'm beginning to think it's funny...)

Did you keep your pact, Supergrrrl? I just about managed to make myself look human (I think my opinion only). (Who knows, maybe when DP gets in he'll be shocked and pleasantly surprised... ) Did you go for the contraceptive jab, BTW? I've not sorted long term contraception yet but I really need some it would do my head in to end up with 3 under 3

Is anyone else on the thread actually wanting more DCs straight away? (Perhaps if I was younger and richer I wouldn't think it was such a mad idea )

Cazwa · 07/02/2008 19:42

Is anyone on this thread wanting ANY more DCs I thought is a more pertinent question?!? I definitely dont want any more, although my friend with a 13 month gap still fancies another although DH has other ideas.

Not got much to say or report as I am so knackered right now. Neither LO is sleeping well at moment, seems to be making me even more tired than usual.

Contraception-wise Im getting a coil fitted next week. Im terrified when 'doing it' in case I get pregnant again, that is my ultimate fear

Happy Birthday Katy1!

SuperGrrrl · 07/02/2008 19:50

Have made an appointment for jab- it'll cover me until DH has the snip. I DEFINATELY don't want any more pregnancies. (Although we might foster/adopt if we get broody)

Have had great day- DS1 at childminders, DS2 actually slept a bit. Did some washing, made a good bolognese, SIL and nephew came over for tea.

DS2 is quite whingey with teething and won't be put down, but i put him down on the sofa and sang to him and he was chuffed- DS1 used to love hearing me sing 'Chain Gang' by Sam Cooke, so tried that. Turns out they are alike in one way- he loved it!

DS2 been laughing and grinning like mad, looking me right in the eyes- i filled up with tears it was so lovely...it made me realise i need some time just DS1 and me- he's always having to fit round me and DS2, i want some me and PFB time i think.

And i did manage to look half human today- and walked to Sainsburys to get some shopping, and walked back with it in a rucksack- about 40mins walk in all. I will have an arse of steel in no time! And i got some new jeans and tops with 25% off.

Enough waffle from me anyway!

padboz · 07/02/2008 22:12

Jeez. I've been sitting here all smug in my year on from you lot tower for the last few weeks - all went tits up last night. We had a perfect - I mean Anne Geddes sort of perfect day - children went to bed. Parents happy and asleep by 10.30

11 pm - WANT A CUDDLE MUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMY!

theres a shark in the garden!!!!!!!!!!!!

zzzzz

12.10 WANT A CUDDLE MUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMY!

frightened of the moooooon mummy!

12.50 WANT A CUDDLE MUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMY!

JUST WANT A CUDDLE MUMMMMMY
GO TO SLEEEEEEEEEEEEP.

1.30 WANT A CUDDLE MUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMY!
hysterical screeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaming. FRIGHTENED OF THE MAN NEXT DOOR!

2-approx 4am £%&(*$&$king bollocks.

6am - MUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMy

8am - at desk supposed to be writing software.

9.50am - proper shouty standup row with senior manager....

WHY THE HELL ISNT THERE A TIRED EMOTICON?

Chaotica · 07/02/2008 22:28

OMG Padboz you have sympathy that sounds like one hell of a night... We all have them, the reasons for ours just don't have such impressive language skills yet (or imagination). But I fully expect it sooner rather than later. (At the moment, DD manages to be rather less clear about her fears.)

A good friend of mine once told me of having her sex life (what little there was at the time) disrupted by her eldest DD arriving in the room and talking about ballet mice... LOL A passion-killer among many possible ones, I suspect.

padboz · 07/02/2008 22:36

ballet mice? ballet mice? ..... What are ballet mice? Maybe DD was just way ahead and was being euphamistic in an embarrassing situation? Might swap the emergency 'special cuddle' conversation file for something labelled BALLET MICE

Chaotica · 07/02/2008 23:04

Don't think the ballet mice had anything to do with the act in progress. More to do with my friend's dd's joint obsessions with ballet and mice. Of the act itself I think she was thankfully oblivious (being only 2 and half) .

padboz · 07/02/2008 23:21

ha ha - chaotica - I assumed as much! not enough emoticons in that post obviously I annoyed the wife of a friend so much I didn't get invited to a subsequent bash on the basis of something like this

pal :wife is good at guitar hero
me : blah blah
pak : shes grade 8 recorder
me : ha ha -can you be grade 8 triangle?
me: lots of back and forth taking the piss assuming its not possible to be grade 8 recorder
me: can you be grade 8 triangle?
pal : you've really upset my wife

seriously - who knew?

padboz · 07/02/2008 23:23

and I really like this woman and she thinks I've put her down now

Chaotica · 08/02/2008 12:45

Sorry Padboz -- I'd have posted again last night but I had to go and practise my recorder (there's a future for me now!). (Actually, I have an ex-flatmate who is just getting divorced from a professional recorder player but that's another thread entirely...) BTW you really must sort out the shark in your garden...

Glad you're having a good time, Supergrrrl. And well said on Custardo's thread (didn't comment myself as the thread was moving too fast to keep up).

Hope they start sleeping better, Cazwa. It's so hard to be patient when you're tired. DS isn't sleeping as well as he did I think he's just hungry hungry hungry (he's only 4m and already the size of one of the England rugby team). I'm just considering whether to start giving him solids... I don't buy the 6m thing completely didn't work with DD although we got to 5m just with bf. DS clearly fancies some solid food (keeps eyeing up ours ) but I don't really think he's ready to eat from a spoon (his neck is none too stable) so I'll hold off for a while yet.
What age did/will your DCs start on solids?

BTW no more DCs for us too if all goes to plan. (Reminds self once again the get to FP clinic)

Chaotica · 08/02/2008 22:38

I think it's time for nominations for the tantrum of the week award:

DD had a tantrum this evening because she wanted to go and see the ducks. At 8pm. (Kept her shoes and coat on and screamed while lying down in the hall by the door for ages...) I'm sure this isn't the most stupid tantrum of the week -- but can anyone's DC come up with a better one?

(Sharks in the garden might not count now!)

Cazwa · 09/02/2008 21:22

THe tantrums blur into one long earache.

Saying that Ive had a lovely day with them both today. Well, DS was asleep pretty much all day so god knows what he'll sleep like tonight. Poor thing has a nasty cough and has developed eczema all across his forehead . Makes me think what is the point in BFing when hes got it anyway, but I shall persevere.

Went to a birthday party and saw lots of friends, all the LOs played together great. DD had a great nap and I sat and read the papers for ages. The weather has been lovely so we went down the park for the first time in ages. I did bathtime myself without too many tears, and even managed to tidy the house before collapsing now.

Off to see Chinese NEw YEar festivities tomorrow in Newcastle, DH off all day so will have help. Feeling good for a rare change.

Also met a friend who has just anounced she is pregnant and felt so chuffed I am not beginning it all again...

Cazwa · 09/02/2008 21:23

Meant to LOLOLOL at your nighttime description Padboz...

SuperGrrrl · 10/02/2008 20:33

DS1 has woken a bit this week- got a cold and he seems to wonder if we are still here when it's dark and quiet i think. Sometimes we just creak a floorboard, and he seems satisfied and goes to sleep again!

Hope you all well!

Had a great few days- DH and i took them for a walk yesterday, and to the park today. DS1 seems all the better for it- apart from the exercise, it's been nice doing family stuff.

I've been much calmer and more patient for a bit now- 2 trains of thought have kept it going. I was waiting outside a house during the week, and i could hear a mother screaming at her kids inside (shut up, f**king stop it, etc etc) on the way home, i saw a mother walking back from school with her DD, maybe 4yrs old. She was trying to tell her mother about her day, and her mother told her to 'just shut up'. I got home and thought, i don't mean to sounds as harsh, but i may do anyway sometimes, if someone was listening as an outsider. I NEVER want to sound like those women- they sounded like they hated their kids

2nd, i suddenly thought DH is bigger than me. If he was being impatient and shouting, seeming annoyed that i wasn't performing tasks well enough, or fast enough, i'd feel like he didn't care about me and that i wasn't good enough. So perhaps that's how i make DS1 feel sometimes, when i'm tired and impatient? Not saying i'll never be impatient and grumpy again, but the last few days have been great, and DS1 has seemed so happy and playful, i wonder if it's partly because i am happier and calmer, and more fun.

Anyway- i lost another 3lbs this week, and i noticed tonight that my stretch marks on my hips have faded alot. DH agreed they had, and said that i look better after 2 kids in a short time, than some women with 1 child from years ago. Aw! Made me feel less grim- my b/day in couple of weeks, and looking forward to fitting into some old clothes (perhaps!) We shall see.

Sorry for waffling- feeling happy and v. blessed.

SuperGrrrl · 12/02/2008 07:16

did i kill the thread with my smoothy ramblings?

if it's any consolation, DS1 has a cold and is getting up at 4am, and DS2 is teething and has an eye infection.

SuperGrrrl · 12/02/2008 07:17

SMOOSHY, not smoothy. God i'm tired!

Chaotica · 12/02/2008 13:26

Hell no, Supergrrrl! The thread lives... it's great to see that we all have a good time sometimes. And wise words about how your DS1 probably sees you -- I try to remember with DD that nearly all her behaviour is a reaction to mine or other people close to her. (I also try to remind myself how amazing it is that little humans can go from being so helpless to so annoying in such a short time ). Not that all this always helps when a tantrum is in full swing and we're trying to get somewhere....

I kept trying to get around to posting, but we went to see DP's mum at the weekend and the sea (which happens to be close). The family relationship is somewhat strained but it's good for DD to get to know her grandma and we all get to mess around on the beach (my mum, otoh, is barking in a completely different sort of way but that's another story). Off to see my sister tomorrow at dd's request it's a long drive on my own with both of them hope I don't start to regret it too much...

katyt1 · 12/02/2008 20:58

had a sneak preview of how life with 2 could be tonight & it wasn't pretty...
ds1 screaming at his bedroom door
ds2 demanding yet another feed only to throw it up all over me
and this with dh here, how will i cope on my own?????

supergrrl - must remember to think of ds's point of view, sure i am a dragon sometimes

Cazwa · 12/02/2008 21:23

Katy1 - its highs and lows all the way Ive found. Some days I think I cannot have another day like that or I will lose the plot or cause injury - and then the day ends and tomorrow is completely different.

HAd a nice but knackering day visiting pets corner with DH and both kids. DD loved toddling round and shouting at the chickens. She refused to nap today despite being up for an hour in the night, argh. Ended up taking both kids to supermarket on my own for first time to make the house quiet this afternoon so DH could nap (he works evenings) and it was suprisingly fine.

Where has everyone else gone on this thread? It seems like only Padboz, Chaotica, Supergrrl and Katy1 are here? Can we remind each other what ages our kids are again please so I dont have to trawl back through the threads?

Mine are DD 18mo and DS 3.5mo.

Cazwa · 12/02/2008 21:25

Forgot to say Supergrrl what a good reflective post. I sometimes have moments of clarity through the fugg and remind myself how lucky I am, or however difficult a situation is its only a phase.

Chaotica · 12/02/2008 22:00

Yes -- I'm still here, Cazwa. (Glad you are too) And mine are DD 20m and DS 4m...

I guess it's a hard thread to keep going -- who has time to post? (Actually I find bf and one handed typing go together.) So no wonder people disappear, although Hazeyjane is moving and Justabout has excused herself for religious reasons

Chaotica · 12/02/2008 22:03

BTW Katyt1 -- You'll cope... Somehow. (We all seem to be managing (just ))

And Cazwa -- shouting at chickens sounds like a great activity. (Might try it myself.)