The 2 (or more?!) Under 2 Support Thread!

[GrrrlWith2Boys]

Post your woes (or joys) here if you're currently tackling 2 kids under 2 (please say i'm not alone!)

DS1 is super wingey today and driving me batty...the slightest thing and he's whining and crying.

Have managed a 10 min walk with pushchair to get out of house. DS1 watching far too much TV, i haven't brushed my hair and the dog won't stop barking.

I need some gin.

It' s the hardest stage. I found 3 under four of different ages however much harder than twins under 2. My brother had 2 under 2 too and my sister did too (as she had twins as I did). It gets better. Wait until you have 3 at university as I have. It's nice they're close in age and can be friends and do things together.

sorry find it hard to get time to post as im also on another thread. its soo hard isn't it, just feels like theres always a long list of things to do. my ds3 is four months old but is still a new born as he was 2 months prem and feeding 3oz every 2 hours, he is due to have an operation on the 24th which im not looking forward to, its for his cleft lip and palate bless. my ds1 isn't in nursery yet so ive always got all three to run after.
my ds2 doen't say bye bye yet all he says is hiya hiya lol

Hi Supergrrl, love the new name and glad to hear things sound better.

I'm trying to work up courage to go to a m&b group tomorrow while DD is at the childminder's (not that I think that DS will get much out of it, although he's just getting into toys). Not that I'm shy or anything usually quite the opposite but the other mums will probably think I'm a complete nutcase .

Sorry to hear about your DS needing an operation, tasha. It must be so worrying (I get worried if one of ours gets a fever...).

Probably am a complete nutcase, btw. It's one of my charms .

Chaotica- it is quite worrying on so many levels. think you should go for the m+b group, i loved it when i went it gets you out of the house and you can have a proper adult conversation which is normally very limited lol id love to go back but just have too many kids to have to control now, so im afraid to leave the house with them on my own lol

tasha - good luck for your lo's op. Will be thinking of you...

Chaotica - I'm with tasha that you should go for the adult conversation! I go to a toddler group with my 2 Monday am. There is a baby group but unfortunately also on a Monday when I have ds1 who is def not a baby at 23 months!

Hello everyone else!

hi, hows everyone getting on today? my ds1 has already thrown alot of tantrums and demands at me and ds2 has decided he is going to wear a wooly hat in the house everyday and ds3 is feeding alot more often than normal, dont even get me started on the house work!

hi there -- I'm fine. DD packed off to the childminder's, so now off to m&b group (because you'll all tell me off if I don't go!). Normally take the two of them to playgroup (which I will be later in the week), but I don't really tend to meet people much there as DD is both adventurous and shy (which means she gets to the top of a slide, meets another kid and panics ) so I end up chasing her around or looking after DS. Might be easier to meet people with just one baby.

I know exactly what you mean chaotica, it's really hard to try to make small talk with people when you have a toddler clinging to your leg whining, 'mama siski' (translation "mummy can i have a biscuit, please" - my dd sounds like yours and won't go on the slide unless I'm there to negotiate with the other kids!) and a baby dangling from your arm screaming to be fed/changed/cuddled etc. I went to the m&b group in our village about 5 times before I managed to have a conversation with anyone.
Dh and I have just found out that we are moving at the end of the month (our 3rd time in 3 years, once 4 weeks before dd1 and once 6 weeks after dd2!) as he has a new job, so will have to do the whole m&b group again somewhere else, hopefully this move will be the last for a while, as I think we could all do with being a bit more settled - I keep making friends and then having to move away from them!

BTW Chaotica forgot to say, hope m&b group goes well!
Did use a sling alot in the early days justabout, things should be easier now that dd2 is that bit older, and is a lot happier when around different people than dd1 ever was (Comes from being the second I suppose).
Does anyone manage to do things with the second on their own? I did so much with dd1, like baby massage, swimming etc, poor dd2 just seems to get dragged to toddler groups, and I really miss doing things on my own with her.Are there any other sorts of activities I could do with the 2 of them?

hazeyjane I am lucky that ds1 is in nursery 3 days a week so I get a lot of time with ds2 on his own. Once I go back to work that will all change though as I'll have both of them on my 2 days off so trying to enjoy it while it lasts. We're starting baby massage next week and swimming this week with him.

When ds1 was tiny we went to this place called a sensory room which has loads of lights and ball pools and stuff. I bet both owuld like that now - Ds1 could play more and ds2 would be happy cooing at the lights! Is there something like that near you?

Chaotica hope m&b group went well!

Hello ladies, hope you're having a good tuesday.

m&b group went well yesterday -- it was quite small and seemed quite friendly. I had to wake DS up (decided that he wasn't going to get to sleep through it all!) but then he was quite the little baby socialite and really enjoyed himself (well, as much as you can tell with a 3m old ). I think there was a fellow mnetter there (it's a small town) but I didn't let on... Don't want to blow my cover yet

Glad that m&b group went well. We have just come back from a toddler group in the next village, I haven't been to it for ages,and I hardly talked to anyone! It's wierd how different groups have different 'vibes', this one had a new group of mums that made it feel pretty cliquey. I hope that there are some good ones when we move, it makes life much easier when you know you have a friendly place to go and eat custard creams twice a week.
Alicet, I've googled sensory room and there seems to be something that sounds similar in Swindon, which is near to where we're moving, so I will try to check that out, it sounds great.
Hope everyone is having a good day.

I like the sound of a sensory room too. I'll google to see if there's one near us.

It must be really hard moving all the time, Hazeyjane. We moved 3 weeks before DD's due date because we'd been shifted around in rented accommodation (3 times in a year) and realised we just couldn't face moving that much once we had a child. Haven't moved since though I still feel like I'm new in the area.

Don't have too many good ideas for entertaining both together (I go on a lot of (toddler length) walks though). I'm like Alicet in that i get ds on his own a lot until I go back to work. Anyway, I think the youngest gets quite a lot out of watching toddlers rushing about.

AAgh have just spent an hour and a half sat in bedroom whilst dd1 goes to sleep, whenever she has just got over being poorly, she is a nightmare at going to sleep, every time I try to leave the room, she screams, "mama, sit", I'm starting to feel like an obedient dog!

Hello ladies,

Chaotica glad the m&b group went well. Agree that diff groups have diff vibes. I have been to some where I felt really excluded and others where the mums couldn't be more welcoming...

Hazeyjane good luck with your move. Must be pretty tough. Muppetgirl on here lives in Swindon - I know her from the Oct postnatal thread and she seems to be a lovely lady - maybe CAT her and ask about Swindon? Sure she wouldn't mind!

I have a night on my own tonight as dh is in London with work. A mate came over to help with bath / bed for the 2 boys as I'm not brave enough!!!! Will have to manage tomorrow though as dh won't be back till 8 or 9. Wish me luck!

HJ good luck with dd too x

Poor you, HJ. I wish our DCs realised that their sleep is required for our sanity.

But lol at you turning into a dog... Sometimes i'm amazed at the commands DD comes out with, then I realise most (all?) other toddlers do it too (it's often worse when DD decides she's going to do something for herself though, even though she's no idea how). DD has been having trouble sleeping too for the last couple of nights and I'm not sure why; actually she's been a bit touchy ever since the christmas tree went -- don't know whether it's a coincidence. She'll try everything, now she's older and can talk (calpol, nappy, nose blowing, noisy wind frightening her, noisy car frightening her, banged eye, banged head (both done months ago), teddy calpol, panda calpol... actually, I did give teddy some calpol a couple of weeks ago and DD went straight back to sleep...)

Good luck on your own alicet. I've only done it a few times, and I'm always amazed when I get them both in bed.

Can I apply for the "most pointless spending on a toddler and baby adventure" prize of the week please? (Meant to add this to the previous post, but forgot.) I just spent 2 pounds parking at a country park (=walk in the woods + adventure playground with stuff for toddler as well as big kids) and DD had a great time: jumping in and out of a puddle at the edge of the carpark . She did like the walk and the slide etc, but she looooved the puddle... I could have just saved the money and petrol and walked to the nearest field. (DS on the other hand really enjoyed his outdoor nap )

pmsl Chaotica at the puddle story!!!! We had similar - went to the library for the first time today as ds1 LOVES books. Did he look at a single one? Did he hell! Played with the toys and sat on the steps!!! Oh well never mind!

Well touch wood but both boys settled OK... Ds1 was a star - just got on with it and enjoyed being allowed to play after his bath while I settled ds2!!! Dh thinks this now means he can go for beers after work every night!!!! (I hope he's joking anyway )

Off to cook tea now before they start shouting - feeling nervous as at the mo it all seems too good to be true....