Second child making our lives a misery don't know what to do

[Londonlady92]

I'm really struggling with my second child she is almost 3 and has been hard work since she was born, my first is no trouble at all so I feel like I should have expected it but she is making us all so miserable with her hitting, tantrums every half hour and night waking, especially now its the 6 weeks holidays my poor son has to listen to her screaming all day and has even asked "when will she change mum? Im fed up of it now"

We've tried everything, time out, ignoring, praising when shes good, reading toddler taming books.

Me and my husbands relationship is suffering too.

I cry everyday im just at a loss.

3 yr olds are pretty much Attila the Hun usually. Mine came out screaming and didn't stop until he started school, but he lives with autism.

However, they do stop. I used to just walk the back legs off him as much as possible on reins until he was knackered.

Ear defenders are good for your eldest.

It's important your eldest gets some alone time with you though. Don't worry about getting a sitter for the youngest and going out with eldest for a few hours. He'll treasure those times.

It WILL pass though. The screaming tantruming stage anyway. I don't have much experience with poor sleepers so cant comment.

My dd was getting up a lot in the night. We couldn't figure out why and nothing seemed to work. We were decorating and swapped her old bed for a proper single and now most of the time she sleeps through. So if you do have a bigger bed it might be worth a try.

@NerdyBird this is our plan I really hope it works as good as it did for you

@Londonlady92 I've read through all your previous threads but can't find a recent update. If you're reading this I would love to know how you're getting on? So much of what you've written resonates with my own situation!xx

Shes almost 5 now starts school next week it has got so much better. Still has her moments but nothing like before, it will pass! X

@Londonlady92 can't thank you enough for replying, I really really really appreciate it. Its given me a real lift. All the best with starting school x

You are so welcome, it's a really horrible place to be completely sympathise x

Mine is nearly 9 now and he's a sweet, kind, funny, affectionate little lad. Still stubborn as hell and knows his own mind but he's actually fun to spend time with and is really in tune with the emotions of people around him.

Hang in there, it gets better!

@Invisimamma hello!! Thank you so much for coming back aswell, am so grateful. Hope new term treats you well x