My 4 year old son keeps choosing mostly girls characters, anyone with kids who have been through this?

[Leonor888]

Hi Mums. I have a 4 year old son that since 3 yers and a few months chooses girls characters from movies to pretend play. He keeps the days pretend playing and mostly he only chooses girls in the movies. When he is playing these characters (all of them, animals, whatever) he can’t be called by his name. So it’s the same, when he’s a girl we can’t call him a boy. His Dad is getting upset and this is really hard to deal with. He also loves cars, dinos, trucks, fighting... I love my son above everything but I am worried that he wants to be a girl. I just would like to know if there are other kids/boys going through this, because from what I hear from other mums and kids boys are really ‘masculine’ and love superheroes.
Thank you.

DS2 is 5.5 and loves pink, rainbows etc. He has a pink lunchbox and water bottle and calls his teddies things like “chick” and “cupcake”. He loves other more traditionally boy stuff too, like Pokemon and transformers.

I think if anyone ever laughed (they haven’t yet) he would probably tell them that you can play with whatever toys you like.

Its perfectly normal behaviour at this age

My DS at 3 and 4 loved pink and purple and dressing up as a princess. A year later he liked blue, painting his nails and dressing as a dinosaur. He is 6 now and currently loves hot wheels, fighting and hates dressing up as anything. He wouldn't be caught dead with painted nails Small children are very changeable indeed - your DH is being ridiculous.

My son actually says he wants to be a girl. He’s 4yo and he loves rainbows and Elsa and Gabby’s Dollhouse, Shopkins etc. but he also loves transformers, trucks and other stereotypical boy stuff. He just likes what he likes. I suspect he wants to be a girl because so many of the strong protagonists in kids’ TV today are girls - a lot has changed.

Your DP is a caveman and he should be ashamed. If he had a daughter, would he kick up a fuss about her pretending to be a boy? I bet he wouldn’t. It’s just girls who are deficient. He’s a misogynist and he’s trying to turn your son into one as well.

Is your son still this way? Mine has started to pick all female characters as well. Anything he plays, or anything he watches, he chooses to play pretend as the girl character.