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hurtful things you children have said to you......

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MrsSlocomb · 22/11/2007 20:51

I'm not sure if I've posted this in the right section really but I've been 'victim' of dd1's 6 year old view of the world .

Now in a very churlish and immature way I am very sad and sorry for myself.
She asked my this evening why I wasn't married. Dp and are live together and have done since time began. I started off on a spiel about not needing to be married, being please with myself for giving my daughter this invaluable lesson when she butted in and said "Are you not beautiful enough to get married"

She could see that she had hurt me and tried to back peddle
This comes on top of the fact that dp and I have a pretty crap relationship and that he doesn't really fancy me any more (long story).

Anyway, apart from moaning about me I wondered if anyone else had had hurtful things said to them by their kids. Out of the mouth of babes and all that

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MrsSlocomb · 22/11/2007 20:53

please excuse typos v. tired!

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ash6605 · 22/11/2007 20:57

-That i'm a "CUM STAIN" by my dd aged 4
-That i'm fat,ugly and spotty-dd again
-That I have spiders in my mouth(fillings)

......come to think of it,I might find it easier to mention the odd nice thing she's said to me

Kathyis6incheshigh · 22/11/2007 20:57

You are taking your dd's silly comment waaaaay too seriously, no doubt because it touched a nerve!
6 year olds have no idea who is beautiful and who isn't, but they probably have a vague idea you have to look like a princess with long yellow hair and long eyelashes, and probably wearing something pink and glittery!

If it's any consolation, when I was putting my dd to bed last night she kept repeating, 'I don't like you. I don't like you. I don't like you. I want Daddy.' It didn't make me feel great, but I reckon it shouldn't be taken too seriously given that she's only 2!

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policywonk · 22/11/2007 21:01

Agree with kathy, I'm sure your daughted just thinks you have to look like a Disney princess in order to get married.

DS1 said the following to DP last weekend: 'Let's play mummies and daddies and babies, except the mummy is dead'

MarkStretch · 22/11/2007 21:01

Mine said 'Mummy when I grow up I want to be big and fat just like you.'

notnowbernard · 22/11/2007 21:01

Really sorry this upset you. From what you say, I imagine it's more about what's going on between you and dp than anything your dd said...

After all, she is only six... she probably thinks only those with physical attributes akin to Cinderella are eligible for marriage

ash6605 · 22/11/2007 21:02

themild-My thoughts exactly!!

Either school or afterschool club I would imagine,I nearly died when she said it.I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.she had no idea what it meant or that it was naughty but she has never said it again

stripeymama · 22/11/2007 21:02

I am "not as nice/kind/insert complimentary word as Daddy"

Daddy left us for an eighteen year old the day after dd's second birthday, sees her once every eight weeks (organised and paid for by his mother), and has not paid us even a penny in maintainance, ever.

I smile and ignore her 99% of the time but every now and then I do show my irritation (yes yes I know its the worst thing to do but...)

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MrsSlocomb · 22/11/2007 21:03

Kathy, I know that I'm too sensitive to this. It has touched a nerve. It's just that when I was a little girl I thought my mother was beautiful and wonderful. Now I know she's a power hungry trouble maker

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 22/11/2007 21:06

LOL MrsSlocomb - just as well you are not like her then!

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MrsSlocomb · 22/11/2007 21:07

stripeymama, hats off to you, you are an amazingly strong woman!!

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corblimeycharlie · 22/11/2007 21:08

Oh poor you- this is all about how you are feeling, I guess any other time you would have laughed it off with DP.

If its any consolation DD(6) looked at our wedding photo a while back and said "who is that with Daddy" when I said it was me she said "no, that's not you you are not that pretty" a sort of backhanded compliment but only to me 7 years ago. She also tells me when she grows up she will be a teacher but not have a fat bum. (usually looking pointedly at me at the time ).

Amethyst8 · 22/11/2007 21:08

When DS tells me he loves Grandma (MIL) more than me plus the way the two of them slop all over each other when together makes me grind my teeth somewhat. DD is still at the stage where she loves me above all others and I LOVE it!

I suppose I am lucky because DS often tells me "You look beautiful today Mummy", no unkind remarks on my appearance from him.

snowleopard · 22/11/2007 21:09

2yo DS likes to point out my zits. He says "Oh dear, a sore, mummy!"

bambi06 · 22/11/2007 21:10

my dd tonight was saying how much sh eloved me but then added ..but i dont love you when youre grunpy!!!

seeker · 22/11/2007 21:11

My ds looked lovingly at me once and said "I love you mummy" I melted and was about to reply telling him how much I loved him when he went on "But I love Daddy, Gracie and the kittens more"

dd666 · 22/11/2007 21:11

dd often tells me dont lub (love) you and the other one she says is hate you go away!
dont know where she has got hate from fgs shes 18mo

Amethyst8 · 22/11/2007 21:12

Oh and also when DS told me he didnt love me anymore because I had shouted at Daddy because he had to go to work. Daddy had actually been on a three day bender. Hard to be the bigger person on occasions like this I think.

stripeymama · 22/11/2007 21:13

MrsSlocomb - not especially! Its just one of those things where you have to laugh etc...

I have also been told I 'look like the Fat Controller'.

And that 'strange smells are coming from your mouth Mummy - yuck'. Well if she will get into my bed the morning after I drank a bottle of red wine

geekgirl · 22/11/2007 21:14

aw slocomb, sorry you got so upset sometimes they can talk such rubbish and really touch a nerve.

I think one of mine told me I was really big & fat a few months ago (I am so not! - cheeky little blighter) - laughed it off at the time but a few years ago when I had a lot of problems with body issues it would have upset me a lot.

I excitedly told my mum that she looked like a clown once when she got back from the hairdressers with a red short perm. She cried.

stripeymama · 22/11/2007 21:18

I do speak as the child who once told her stepdad that his 'willy looks like an owl pellet'.

See similar recent thread for more of our little buggers' darlings' home truths.

yama · 22/11/2007 21:22

Snowleopard - pmsl. I had a spot on my chin for a while. My dd (2) kept asking 'What's that Mummy?' 'Is it sore?'

I kept saying 'It's a mark' and 'No'. I couldn't bring myself to say say 'spot'.

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MrsSlocomb · 22/11/2007 22:48

Stripeymama and geekgirl,pmsl at your last comments, that was excellent, a clown!!!! Owl pellets!!!! I shall try and make it better with dd tomorrow.Thanks so much for your comments

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onebatmother · 22/11/2007 23:14

ds "mummy i really love your yellow teeth"
dd (2) "stop saying you love me"