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AIBU family want to keep their kids on US time zone!!!

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Bethany1121 · 29/05/2021 19:06

My family lives all over the world and we are all planning to meet at my Mums this summer. We all have young kids and it’s going to be great fun but obviously a mad house.
The only issue is that my brother lives in America and is insisting that he will keep his kids on that time zone.
Therefore his kids will have an 11pm bed time and be getting up at 10/11am.
Therefore no adult time and extremely long days for the parents who will be up 7am with their own little ones. Not the mention upsetting the kids who live in the UK when they still have to go to bed the normal 7pm and not stay up late with their American cousins.

I have tried talking to my brother but he is adamant his kids will stay on US time and not suffer jet lag, he even suggested we alter our kids schedule to suit.
I am absolutely dreading the visit because of this reason. Days with toddlers are long enough already.

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chickenyhead · 29/05/2021 19:10

He is crazy, sorry. No arguing with his sense of entitlement. How long are they staying?

His intentions and reality are likely to mismatch as kids will do what other kids are doing.

I would just say yes dear you do you, and let it play out in reality.

Wuurg · 29/05/2021 19:16

How old are they? This is bananas.

ManxRhyme · 29/05/2021 19:16

Just nod and smile. Tell him to sort his own kids meals out. Let him deal with the wailing kids when they can have their tea like their cousins and have to wait 3 hours.

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 29/05/2021 19:17

Are you all staying together? Won't they get woken up in the mornings?

TheMotherlode · 29/05/2021 19:19

I’d probably just not say anything and let him try, there’s no way that plan is going to work. As if they will be able to sleep until 11 in a house full of other children making noise.

purplesequins · 29/05/2021 19:20

how long is this going to be and how old are the children?
if for a short stay, like 3 days, the jetlag could be bad.
tbh I would meet in the middle, it's holidays after all.

chickenyhead · 29/05/2021 19:20

Just don't facilitate it please. His kids, his choice, his responsibility. Not yours.

Soontobe60 · 29/05/2021 19:20

I’d be sending him details of local air bnb places.
He’s being totally rude trying to control everyone. I’d make damned sure the first night my kids went to bed at their usual time, and I’d be following them too, and getting up at my usual time making my usual noise.

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Bethany1121 · 29/05/2021 19:20

They are back for 2 weeks which is the crazy thing.
I think your right that they’ll just naturally adjust to the UK time.
Love my family but still dreading it.

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Ducksurprise · 29/05/2021 19:20

Agree, just keep to your schedule, whatever happens with his is not your problem

chickenyhead · 29/05/2021 19:21

Dinner is at say 5pm uk time. If he wants otherwise, he sorts it. Not your problem.

Aquamarine1029 · 29/05/2021 19:21

Your idiot brother is in for a rude awakening.

Notonthestairs · 29/05/2021 19:21

I predict that the kids will exhaust each other and zonk out somewhere between your ideal of 7 and their ideal if 11. There will be tears and your brothers plans will go out the window. Don't stress.

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Bethany1121 · 29/05/2021 19:21

Kids are 3, 2 and 5

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UhtredRagnarson · 29/05/2021 19:22

Not the mention upsetting the kids who live in the UK when they still have to go to bed the normal 7pm and not stay up late with their American cousins.

Why won’t you let your DC stay up later whilst on holidays? I would suggest a compromise. You bush your DC bedtime back to 9pm and he brings his DC bedtime forward to 9pm.

murbblurb · 29/05/2021 19:22

Fine. You'll meet him at his holiday cottage /air BnB where he can run all that. Stupid sod.

IggyAce · 29/05/2021 19:23

Ha he’s delusional if he thinks that’s going to happen. Let him crack on and don’t keep yours quiet on a morning, I’m sure his kids will fall in line with their cousins pretty quickly.

romdowa · 29/05/2021 19:24

He is fooling himself if he thinks that this will actually work 🤣🤣 his kids will be out cold hours before 11pm and up at the dawn with the rest of the kids. Id let him to it though and just keep your own routine!

Winkywonkydonkey · 29/05/2021 19:25

Let your kids play with an air horn at 7am on the second day

SofiaAmes · 29/05/2021 19:25

I traveled back and forth between london and los angeles from when my kids were only a few months old. It never took more than a day for them to adjust to the new time in either direction, so he's a bit silly for insisting that that will be easier. However, having said that, it's much more standard in the USA to feed the kids with the adults at 6 or 7pm and schedules were planned around that. My dc's never went to bed before 8 or 9.

I wouldn't overthink it....let your bro figure it out when he arrives.

Feather12 · 29/05/2021 19:26

I have lived in the US since my kids were tiny and I don’t recall them ever being jetlagged for more than a day. The overnight flight can be a bit brutal but after one sleep the kids adjust themselves, especially if they are preschoolers. Is he east coast?

OrangePowder · 29/05/2021 19:33

I wouldn't send kids to bed at 7pm on holiday though, so you might find it doesn't work out too bad and everyone who wants it gets a lie in.

Sarahandco · 29/05/2021 19:40

I would not worry about this as I suspect that it will come to pass and the kids will naturally move to UK time

hilarymantlepiece · 29/05/2021 19:42

Wouldn’t worry. Smile and nod. The kids will sort themselves out: when their cousins are up by 8.30, they will be too.

LolaSmiles · 29/05/2021 19:42

If he wants to be silly and keep his children on UD time, he can and he can facilitate it by making sure their meals are on US time.
It's not just your children who he would want to shift to cater for him, it would be everyone, assuming you're all eating together and going out for the days as well.

Could you say "OK, we'll be going to the park and will be back at UK lunch time. See you at 12. Hi Brother we're back. We're having lunch. Are you and the children eating lunchor will you be making them a separate meal in 3 hours?"

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