Moving into nursery

[snuzi]

Hi,

What is the age you mover your LO into their nursery?

I know the advice is 6 months to a year but my son is almost too long for his next to me crib at 2 months!!

Not sure what I am to do as his cot would no way fit in our room.

He might have another month or two at max but obviously this only takes us to 4 months

Thanks

Sleep with him in the nursery until 6 months (e.g. single air bed on floor or blankets), possibly take it in turns with DP. You’ll be up all the time whether your bedroom or nursery.

Mine outgrew really quickly too. We kept her in there she’d sort of rotate to stop hitting her elbows. In own room at 5 months but we spend most of our time in there tbh.

Is the snuzpod slightly bigger? If it is, might be worth getting second hand to extend time in your own bedroom.

Good luck! It’s so hard. We had a transition period of cosleeping, which we all hated, baby included! But we agonised over following the advice exactly. Much happier in her own, huge, cotbed. Though we spend most of the night hovering!

We moved my son at 4 months

Advice is babies should sleep with an adult in the room at all times until 6 months to reduce the risk of them dying from SIDS. The U.K. says 6 months as there is a reduction of risk then and the USA are more cautious and says 12 months. Please read the information from the Lullaby trust and other trusted organisations and make your own decision based on what you think is an acceptable level of risk for child. Personal stories dont tell you about the risk level. You could get 10 people on here saying they played chicken on the road as a child and are fine but it’s doesn’t make it more or less safe. Everyone parents differently and what one parent thinks is the best decision for their family isn’t necessarily the best decision for yours.

Practically people move furniture like wardrobes or chest of drawers out or their room, use a space saving or travel cot or sleep in a single bed in their baby’s room.

I didn’t moved DD1 out until she was nearly 2 and DD1 will be moving soon at a similar age but that’s because I’m too lazy to be up and down all night rather than a SIDS issue.

DD is 2.5 years and hopefully will move soon and only because she's too big for our bed and I'm getting to big (pregnant) to get in and out of her cot bed. No way would I have moved her before with the amount of night waking that happened for 2 years after the 4 month regression.

What bedside crib to do have? DD is 87cm and a next to me is about 80cm long. She could lie in the bottom of a Moses basket at one (filled it though).

Oh you have a next to me to, how is your baby so long? His head can't be near the top already?

@olderthanyouthink he was a bigger baby but the main problem is that he has really long legs and sleeps stretched out. He's already moving into 3-6 sleepsuits as his feet get all squashed at the bottom (very annoying as the fit on the body is way to big).

He's not outgrown it yet but there is no way he will last 6 months in it.

Definitely no room for the cot in our bedroom, even if I moved out furniture. We wouldn't be able to get in the room.

Not sure what risk is greater - moving him out early or having him in bed with us

Also I have read the risk of SIDS greatly reduces at 4 months does anyone know if this is correct?

Moving him out early is a bigger risk unless you smoke.

The risk of SIDS drops a lot at 4 months so if I needed to move early I'd do it then.

No neither of us smoke..
He was born full term and a good weight too (over 9lbs)

Are you sure he is too long? We had a next to me and ds who was not a small baby was able to fit in until 8 months old. A quite Google says is it 95cm long.

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@Thesearmsofmine the mattress of the one I have is 80cm and yes I am sure, I can see him laying in it almost touching the top with his head

Ours were both moved in to their own room at 4 months, they outgrew their cribs and the cot wouldn't fit in our room. We used a video monitor and I would check on them a couple times through the night when feeding ect

The risk does drop after 4 months but it doesn't disappear. He may not grow as quickly as you think as time goes on. I don't think it's wise to move earlier than the guidelines as they're there for a reason and it's just not worth the risk in my view.

Sleeping in the nursery with him could be a way around it if you can't fit a cot in your room.

DS1 we moved at 6 months, DS2 is 5 months and he'll be in with us for another 2-3 months I expect as we need to sort his bedroom out first and haven't got round to it yet.

We used a travel cot which had a bassinet level to it once my son out grew his Moses basket. We bought a proper cot mattress for it. It took up less space than a proper cot but gave him plenty of room to spread out.

Not room sharing doubles the risk of SIDS but these are the risks for bedsharing:

SIDS-risk is greatest around two to three months of age.
On average in the UK, the rate is one in 2000.
For smokers the risk is increased five times.
SIDS-risk for sofa sharing is increased 20 times.
Bed-sharing if you are a smoker, or smoked in pregnancy, has a risk increased 12 times, although different studies have produced different stats, but these are UK data.
Bed-sharing if you are not a smoker carries no significant increased risk.

This might be out of date as it's from this MN webchat, which is 11 years old, but I've not found any more up to date sources which break down the risks:

www.mumsnet.com/webchats/helen-ball

I’m guessing you have a different brand and not the Chicco next to me then because they are definitely bigger. No need for the eye roll, I wasn’t being rude, just surprised that a 2 month old would have already outgrown a next to me crib as I went for that brand because it was longer.

@BertieBotts Thank you

I'm by no way saying I'm about to move him at 2 months which seems to be the impression half of you have. He's on the 95th percentile for his height so it isn't surprising to me he's already getting quite long for it. Perhaps his growth will slow down and it'll last longer Than I'm expecting (hopefully as I've paid for 2 cribs one for upstairs and one for downstairs so he is with someone for nighttime and day time naps). If not I will have to evaluate the risk at the time.

My super tall baby fit in her snuzpod until 6 months, I always thought the next to me was bigger. If you think it won’t last until 6 months I’d try to hold off until at least 4 months, because of the reducing SIDs risk as already mentioned, but also because sleep often goes to shit at 4 months anyway so if you’re going to make a change it might as well be then!

You might be surprised how long he'll last. My son was 10lb3oz and 61cm at birth, way of the top of the charts for length and he was fine till just over 5 months, they like things snug 😆. Saying that he has pretty much always refused to sleep anywhere other than in my bed (which is slowing killing me nearly 10 months in) so it didn't get masses of use. Safe bedsharing is worth considering or can you put his cot / a travel cot in your room till he's a bit older?

So he is around 62cm then? Plenty of room if the mattress is 80cm. You will be surprised how much longer he will be ok in it, two of my dc were 59cm at birth.

@snuzi

Also I have read the risk of SIDS greatly reduces at 4 months does anyone know if this is correct?

4 months is the prime age for SIDS

@1940s thank you

Will have to try and make it work until at least 5 months minimum then but hopefully until 6 months

I don't really feel comfortable with sharing the bed with him

I can't understand why co sleeping seems to be the better option when I could easily roll over and squash my baby

The NHS advises against co sleeping but I see plenty doing it

Everyone has different opinions of course re co sleeping or moving to another room etc and think these things are there as guidance and not rules that cannot be broken at any point so we all have to make our own decisions

I was just curious the ages others had moved LO to the nursery

My LO got too big for the next to me about 3 months. I used our travel cot in our room until she was about 7 months and then moved her into her own room into a cot bed.

Ours slept in the carry cot of the pram until 6 months, is this an option if you have one? (Actually they mostly coslept because they fed easier) then from 6 months until 18 months slept with us then into a toddler bed. Lots of options