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Paternal grandparents annoyed at me

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MamaOl93 · 26/04/2021 21:57

My son’s paternal grandfather and step-nan.
I asked them if they wanted to meet up outside, they said yes but asked if that meant they had to still socially distance.
I said yes because of the current rules about restrictions but that I was happy for them to cuddle him before the 17th of May if they took a negative lateral flow test on the day.
They’ve now come back saying they feel disappointed and won’t be seeing him as my family can hug him...
But we’re in a bubble!

Also. I kept saying that I was bringing it forward but they don’t want to take lateral flow test before cuddling him.
They’re both super annoyed at me and this is the first time they’ve been this way with me, now I feel like utter... rubbish

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Vetyveriohohoh · 26/04/2021 22:00

What changes on 17th May?

If they have access to lateral flow tests I think they should stop being stubborn and just get on with it. However if they’ve been vaccinated I’m not sure I’d be bothered

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MamaOl93 · 26/04/2021 22:01

17th May is when you can actually hug someone outside your bubble @Vetyveriohohoh

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BrilloSolar · 26/04/2021 22:03

Are you, your son or anyone in your household vulnerable? How old is your son? Does he go to school/ nursery? Who in this has had a vaccine?

I mean, technically you're right and families hugging and being in close contact indoors is where Covid is likely to spread. But it's been a year now, it's outside, I just can't get worked up about a grandparent hugging their grandchild.

What is it that you are worried about? Your son passing it on to them? Or them to you? Will you suddenly feel ok just because we reach a certain date, or do you have a level of infection in your area that you are working towards to be happy with them hugging?

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MamaOl93 · 26/04/2021 22:06

@BrilloSolar I’m just very covid cautious and I haven’t let anyone who isn’t in our household bubble to go near my boy, my nan and gran hasn’t hugged or been near him either, it’s not like I’m singling them out but they’re making it sound like I am 😬 x

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Vetyveriohohoh · 26/04/2021 22:06

Is it? I had no idea! That seems bizarre given so many restrictions still in place.

Are they vaccinated?

MissyB1 · 26/04/2021 22:09

All these grandparents have presumably been vaccinated. You aren’t handing him round the shopping precinct for cuddles, it’s just his vaccinated grandparents. I think you are being a bit odd.

Kitkat151 · 26/04/2021 22:10

I’m assuming they are vaccinated as they doing the 44s now....I can’t see the problem....unless you are CEV??

PinkCookie11 · 26/04/2021 22:10

Think it’s being abit far to be honest.
Assuming their vaccinated.
You’ll wake up on 17th and allow the hug.
Let them hug their grandchild

Fleetw00d · 27/04/2021 11:00

I told all grandparents (there's 7 blood and step as both our parents are not together) that if they wanted to see our baby they had to take a lat flow test the morning of seeing us, they have all had their first jab and I even asked my mum who is our bubble. No one has kicked off or questioned it, at least not to my face. It's literally a couple of seconds of discomfort and the tests are so easily available now I really don't know why they would be upset by this, if I were you I would be upset with them that they're not willing to do a quick test so you can all be normal with each other and rest easy!

Whiffle77 · 27/04/2021 11:29

@MamaOl93

17th May is when you can actually hug someone outside your bubble *@Vetyveriohohoh*

That isn't right, its the June date that restrictions for hugging are lifted. Will you really make them wait until June?

Whilst you are staying within the rules I can see why they are upset, unless you are vulnerable it does seem a bit unfair. Being in a bubble doesn't reduce the risk of catching covid from your parents, it just means its legal.

SeaTurtles92 · 27/04/2021 11:31

It's not unfair at all.

You can easily access lateral flow tests now and if they're are unwilling to take one then they don't hug your son.

Your son, your rules.

SeaTurtles92 · 27/04/2021 11:32

Didn't mean to act the extra *are

SeaTurtles92 · 27/04/2021 11:32

Add* 🤦🏻‍♀️

namechangemarch21 · 27/04/2021 11:36

I think its odd OP - we're being cautious to protect the grandparents. Not particularly to protect us or our toddler. I think assuming you didn't give them the option of being in a bubble with you, rather than your family, they have a point.

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MamaOl93 · 27/04/2021 14:24

Hi all - my point is, if they aren’t willing to take a flow test to be negative to hug my son or be near him - to protect him, I think it’s unreasonable of them.

Thank you all for your replies, I just want to protect my son x

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PinkCookie11 · 27/04/2021 14:28

But what happens when your actually allowed to hug? With no tests needed.
Would you still want them to test?

SakuraEdenSwan1 · 27/04/2021 14:30

You really asked them to take tests to see their own Grandson?

Get a grip

MeadowHay · 27/04/2021 14:34

I think you are being ridiculous but I also think if I was them I would just do the test and see him. Although you of course run the risk that they could just lie and say they did one and it's negative and not actually bother to do it anyway, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt by assuming you wouldn't be demanding to see the negative test...!

SakuraEdenSwan1 · 27/04/2021 14:34

@Fleetw00d

Do you ask your family to take inaccurate tests for Flu, Pneumonia and all the rest of the Respiratory illnesses that are floating around? You are utterly ridiculous considering just how many people you come into contact with on a day to day basis. Typical hysterical sheep

Chickenlickeninthepot · 27/04/2021 14:40

Unless your baby is CEV, I think you're being a bit over the top. They're likely to be vaccinated, cases are pretty low across the UK, children (especially young children) weren't affected much anyway by Covid.

DonutsAllRound · 27/04/2021 16:57

You could stop having your parents as a bubble and have your son's father's parents as your bubble instead.

Fleetw00d · 27/04/2021 18:04

@SakuraEdenSwan1 sorry but I'm not going to risk my newborn baby catching covid, if that makes me a sheep so be it. Flu and colds have symptoms and my family are considerate enough that they wouldn't see her if they had a cold etc, however covid can be asymptomatic or still transmissible before symptoms show, so a quick free test is no bother and they all agreed that it was sensible so things could be normal. Once she's a bit older I wouldn't be asking this but she was a week old with barely an immune system so yeah, I'm going to take precautions.

JustDavesWife · 27/04/2021 18:09

Do you think the world is going to be magically safer on the morning of the 17th?! That's only 3 weeks away.. 🤔

They must be feeling very put out with you bubbling with your family..

Chelyanne · 27/04/2021 18:15

I'm not surprised they are annoyed tbh.
A bit shitty for them to see your family in a bubble and have unlimited access. All restrictions will be lifted eventually and they will remember their access being conditional and it will always be a thought that they were the lesser grandparents.
A bit toys out of the pram to refuse LFT's but I see why they feel off about it.

I wouldn't force people to do tests for a cuddle with ours, we have 5 and another due Aug. Covid is here to stay so will be a "risk" going forward, gone are the days of pox parties and the like.

ZoBo123 · 27/04/2021 18:26

So on 16th May they will not be able to hug him but on 17th May it will magically all disappear and they will no longer have any possibility of having Covid, okay

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