Children feeling hurt by something their aunt gifted their grandparents

[AnaAj]

My sister-in-law and I are not on talking terms. She gifted her parents an album with photos of the whole family, she didn't add any photos of me. My children got upset when they noticed it.

How would you approach this kind of situation? I'm thinking of asking my parents-in -law to put away the album when the children come to visit but then again I dont want any more drama.

Well she's a childish knob.
You should just gift their grandparents a lovely photo of your family in a nice frame for them to display right next to that album.

How would I approach?

Not even close to how you suggest!

I’d explain to my children that some people are thoughtless and sometimes even nasty, but I reflects badly on them and not on you.

And then I would move on. And my children (similar ages) would give a toss for a moment longer.

would NOT give a toss...

I get a nice portrait shot done of your family and send it to the PILs as a gift.

I might suggest that we put an album together

And I would include a couple of pics of sister in law and her children. To show the children that it was thoughtless of her, and we don’t do that kind of thing.

But I have a sneaking suspicion, you won’t be doing that kind of thing

Lassy1945, if I didn't have kids I might have done that 😂 but I honestly don't want to play any games with her.

@AnaAj

Lassy1945, if I didn't have kids I might have done that 😂 but I honestly don't want to play any games with her.

But I’m not suggesting you play games. How odd.

Say to your children that some people are thoughtless, but it does not mean we lower ourselves to their standards.

And if you me children do make an album, you DO include a pic of your sis in law. Just to show you don’t lower yourself and not do your children to that pettiness

Of course my approach means that you don’t go done the petty route...

Lassy1945, I'll not give a gift to prove a point, also if I told them, what you are suggesting, they would start to have a negative view of their aunt and it's the last thing they need.

I have told them, I could understand why their aunt didn't include me in the album, since we don't even talk. They also know that we don't even know the reason she didn't include me and that we shouldn't jump to conclusions.

Your parents have probably stirred or said something to the kids thoughtlessly.

@AnaAj

Lassy1945, I'll not give a gift to prove a point, also if I told them, what you are suggesting, they would start to have a negative view of their aunt and it's the last thing they need.

I have told them, I could understand why their aunt didn't include me in the album, since we don't even talk. They also know that we don't even know the reason she didn't include me and that we shouldn't jump to conclusions.

So leave it then. You’ve been open with them

No need to now pursue the point.