crying constantly because of my newborn

[nina3638]

i feel so ridiculous for this. i had my daughter on monday so she’s 5 years old. i was fine until i brought her home on wednesday and since then i just constantly find myself tearing up or crying at the thought of her growing up and not being my little baby anymore one day. i love her so much and i just want to freeze time, i don’t know how to stop getting upset about this

5 days old*

5 days is the worst for hormones! It will all calm down soon, try and enjoy the newborn snuggles in the meantime.

When I came home from the hospital I cried because the new sofa had been delivered and I loved it so so much. I cried when my DH bought me tea in bed. I cried at everything.

Then the next day my milk came in and I started feeling more normal 🤣 it will definitely settle down.

Congratulations OP, sounds like baby blues, it’s all the hormones and is completely natural. I remember being so totally overwhelmed with being responsible for such a tiny perfect little person. It will pass, be kind to yourself.
If it doesn’t go away (I’m not sure how long the period is for but usually (pre covid but not sure how it works now) the health visitor does a questionnaire later on to check it hasn’t progressed to post natal depression.

It’s your hormones! They’re truly crazy things post birth and you’re at the prime time for it. I’m not much of a crier but I was in floods of tears when DS was about three days old looking out the window at the people outside the hospital and how sad I felt for them that they’d never get to meet the most perfect baby in the world . Very many congratulations on the birth of your DD, she sounds smashing

i really can’t get a grip on it! she just wants to be held 24/7 and i can’t imagine the day she rejects a cuddle and doesn’t want to be held anymore :( i feel so stupid haha - can’t wait for it to settle down it’s awful

Awww you've got the baby blues It'll be ok, it's hormones doing their thing. Do you have DH/family support?

It usually passes quickly but if it doesn't, talk to your midwife (are they still doing home checks on new mums?) or you HV

Hugs (and congratulations on your beautiful baby)

I cried terribly for about 3 months when I thought about DS growing up, or he did something new or I had to leave him for half an hour. Everyone kept saying ‘it’s normal, it’s fine, we all felt that way’ but in my mind, I thought no one understood, nobody has ever loved a child as much a I love mine 😂

But it eases, I still cry sometimes that he’s growing up (18m) or that I love him so much and so does my partner. But day to day I’m not so soppy anymore (I don’t think)!

I cried because I was too happy

It’s hormones, lack of sleep and the overwhelming realisation that you are now responsible for this gorgeous baby. It passes and my teens still climb into my bed for cuddles if I go to bed before they are asleep.

My dc was born in the third week of the month. When the next month arrived I was sad because it was no longer the month she was born!

i thought baby blues were more about being sad about your old life being gone etc etc. not this shit show 😭 ughhhh. never knew i could love anyone this much and i never knew how much it would hurt to love her this much too

Congratulations @nina3638 you can’t stop it it’s your hormones. Embrace it and it will calm down in a few weeks (she says one year on abs cries at drop of a hat!)

Ah it's definitely mainly hormonal, having said that, my daughter is 6 months now and I still get tinges of this every day! On the up side, the newborn stage is delicious with all the gorgeous baby cuddles but every stage is lovely (and hard to let go of!). I haven't got a squishy newborn any more but I'm getting lovely smiles and giggles that just melt my heart. You still have all that loveliness to come!

It’s totally normal. It should settle within 2 weeks.
Congratulations

It should settle after 2 weeks (hopefully before!), I cried because the world just wasn’t good enough to have him.
It’s still not really but I’ve long since stopped crying about it

@nina3638

i thought baby blues were more about being sad about your old life being gone etc etc. not this shit show 😭 ughhhh. never knew i could love anyone this much and i never knew how much it would hurt to love her this much too

Baby blues aren’t rational. It’s not “about” anything specific it is honestly a chemical thing. Your mind is making up “reasons” but they’re not real. Your body just needs to cry.

Bless. Another vote here for completely normal baby blues. You will feel better soon but it's totally understandable to feel overwhelmed by love at this special time. Congratulations. x

Bless you OP, they take your grown-up thick skin off you when you have a baby and takes a long time to grow back. Just enjoy the snuggles.

Jesus Christ 5 days old, I'm getting weepy even thinking about it and DS is 15!!!! They change you, babies do.

@nina3638 congratulations on your lovely cuddly newborn!

I cried because the visiting nurse said his umbilical cord was cut shorter than most. I thought he was ruined for life.
I cried because they was a war in Kuwait and l had brought him into a world with war..living no where near Kuwait.
I cried ..and then it stopped. Previously moms stayed in hospital for at least 6 days so nurses were always there to assure you this was normal but facing it alone at home is tough.
Congrats on your new baby.

Yup. Day three the baby blues hit, you’ll be fine, don’t worry 💐

Beware day 5! I remember that I just wandered around the house wailing! It does get better but be sure not to leave it too long to seek help if necessary.

Hormones are a funny old thing I sobbed when my DD was days old incase when she grew up she got a boyfriend who beat her and she wouldn't leave him, FFS she was days old why the hell I was worrying about a situation that may or may not occur 20 years in the future I do not know.

This has taken me back! DD was an emergency c section, we were in hospital for three days and I was exhausted - so we were discharged on day 4 when hormones and milk and everything came in. We got settled, I was in the reclining armchair, DH got DD in her little chair and went to make dinner.

DD had needed a nappy change,
DH did it - I cried when I woke up because I thought I had no mothering instinct as I didn’t wake up the second she did a wee