crying constantly because of my newborn

[nina3638]

i feel so ridiculous for this. i had my daughter on monday so she’s 5 years old. i was fine until i brought her home on wednesday and since then i just constantly find myself tearing up or crying at the thought of her growing up and not being my little baby anymore one day. i love her so much and i just want to freeze time, i don’t know how to stop getting upset about this

When ds was about that age I cried huge ugly tears because he was wearing some little trousers with sea creatures on and there was one particular octopus (note there were several of the same print but it was this particular one) on his right knee that was so cute and happy and all I wanted was for my baby to be as happy as that sodding octopus. Dh came down alarmed, burst out laughing whilst trying comfort and take me seriously, so I started crying and laughing because it was so ridiculous.

It will pass

I cc'ed a lot at the thought of them growing up. The hormone don't help, but it's also because of how wonderful and lovely and overwhelmingly beautiful they are.

If it helps, my nearly 2 year old is currently sleeping on my shoulder after rocking get to sleep, and I should put her down but she's so snuggly and beautiful that I'm just going to hold her for a few more minutes first.

They grow and do all sorts of wonderful things, but they stay just as lovely and just as beautiful. It's hard to imagine but they best is still to come my love. For me, it's where they took to you with a beaming some, wrap their arms round you very tightly and tell you that they love you.

I completely sobbed after my best friend left after the visiting because her perfume smell rubbed off all over my baby and my baby didn't smell like herself any more 😂.

Has your milk come in? There are loads of big hormone shifts in the first few days abs weeks after birth.

It passes so hold on in there

I found eating chocolate helped loads.

@meow1989

When ds was about that age I cried huge ugly tears because he was wearing some little trousers with sea creatures on and there was one particular octopus (note there were several of the same print but it was this particular one) on his right knee that was so cute and happy and all I wanted was for my baby to be as happy as that sodding octopus. Dh came down alarmed, burst out laughing whilst trying comfort and take me seriously, so I started crying and laughing because it was so ridiculous.

It will pass

This is the most fantastic summary of baby/pregnancy hormones I've read.

Remember being pregnant and sobbing uncontrollably about my crisps not being vinegary enough, and my Dh attempting to comfort me through stifled laughs.

Ahhhh, I remember that well. It was Day 3 for me. It was so memorable I wrote a blog about it nearly five years later.

Hormonally, your body is realising it's no longer pregnant, so it is pulling all of those hormones out. It then realises it has a baby to feed, so it is flooding you with hormones to push milk in and also heal any birth damage. Plus, exhaustion post birth / c-section.

Result? CRAZY CRYING.

@TinyPickle

Both of my two DSs were born by emergency c section. In those days you were kept hospital for 2 weeks after so the hormone baby blues were supposed to be over by then,.
I still cried when I brought them home though, the first baby and I had almost died during the birth and it was not till I got him home that the reality of what had almost happened hit me. The second time I had the tubal tie done during the birth.I cried when I got home because it hit me then that never would I have a new born baby again despite all the horrible labour and birth complications that made the tubal tie necessary
They are aged 51 and 48 now the younger one is a grandfather and I still worry and cry over them.

It will get better and congratulations! I cried over everything, the first week is emotional. You're body has gone through so much and you have a human to take care of, it's a huge change. Be kind, and take it one day or even one hour at a time. x

Oh OP, I had exactly that. I think I even did a thread about it! It was such a raw, panicky feeling.

I promise it passes. Your hormones will settle which helps enormously, and you will discover the joy of watching your baby learn new things and seeing their emerging personality. Give it a couple of weeks and you’ll feel excitement about the future as well as joy in the present.

Ever watched Friends? Rachel cries because she puts her slippers on the wrong feet, and again later when telling the others about it because she's 'reliving it'. It doesn't need to make sense!

Quite normal, baby blues. It will pass.

Congratulations on the birth of your baby. May you both have long and happy lives!

There’s a great thread somewhere on here about what powerful shit the post —birth hormones are. It’s hilarious. I’m sure I remember reading about a mum who cried because her baby was the most beautiful baby. Ever. And she was ashamed to take him out because all the other mums would be so jealous of how perfect he was. 6 months later she saw some photos, and laughed because he looked like every other baby ever. And looked like a potato or something (her words, it it’s the one im thinking of)

It was a Brill thread. Because it was so damned true.

thank you so much everyone. still crying right now 😂 but i’m hoping it’ll get better soon.

and to those asking yes my milk came in today!
xxx