Seriously...... how do you manage with 2 or more? Lol

[Kate3150]

My DS is 15months, he is the most lovable happy little boy but he doesn’t nap or sleep brilliantly at night. I have a wonderful Husband and we’re a great team.
I would like another baby but wonder if I would get any sleep at all with another one LOL.
Hats off to those of you with 2 or more 👍🏻 Xx

Wait until the 1st is sleeping a bit better.

@Thatwentbadly- I keep waiting but we don’t seem to be turning that corner LOL. Maybe when he goes to school 🤷🏼‍♀️

Big age gaps!

If you have a wonderful husband and are a team, don't wait for the right time because there is never such a time, just go for it now. My first was planned but the next two were not, it was a shock and a struggle at times but we get by and I would not change things. I am on my own a lot as dh works long hours so not a team as such, but I manage. It will be easier for you!

15 months is still tiny. My first slept better when she turned 2 yrs and she dropped her nap. My second is 20 and there is a slow improvement but she still feeds a few times a night.

Have a 5 year age gap. I can't imagine having a 2nd or 3rd while still having a toddler.

I've got 3 aged 3 and under and they're all crap sleepers! You just get used to it. They'll all sleep one day I'm sure!

If you have a great husband then he will deal with toddler at night whilst you deal with baby. That's how it works for us!

Time wasn’t on my side but thankfully my second was so easy going. The small gap means that they are into the same things and mine are still best buddies years down the line.
However, it was hard at times especially as dh worked away a lot.

16 months between my two BUT the eldest was a sleeper, the second one was dreadful and I can assure you there wouldn’t have been a 16 month gap if he had come first!

Big age gaps

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Fast forward a couple of years and the eldest is a crap sleeper and the youngest is amazing. You can’t win so whether you wait or not, doesn’t really matter in the long run!

As others have said maybe wait. My first was a terrible sleeper til he was 2.5. By the time my second was born the first was 3.5 and sleeping much better. My second was a better sleeper at night, not too great through the day. I've just had my 3rd, big gap, boys are now 13 and 9. They were regularly sleeping til 9/10am at weekends and I decided to start again. My daughter's been the best sleeper of the 3 so far, fingers crossed, even at 6weeks old. So they're all different. You might get a better sleeper next time x

Yup big age gaps, even then it can get very stressfull, I had 3 years between mine, still remember having a little cry on a bus because they were being monsters and I had no idea what to do .

It's a strange phenomenon though, if you have three (or more idk) if any one of them is away for the day/night it feels really peacefull and calm. Has anyone else found this?

A big age gap. I have a 9 year old and a 2 year old. It's fab

Really interesting to hear all your stories and nice to hear some encouraging bigger age gaps.
I’ve had a lot of people say to me just have another soon because the longer I leave it, the more I maybe put off. But the reality of having 2 really small ones must be incredibly hard. X

@Thatwentbadly Please tell me you missed the critical word "months" out of your post. My daughter wakes every couple of hours all night still at 13 months, I definitely can't hack this until she's 20 Is that not inconvenient when she comes in from clubbing?

What have you tried to improve his sleep? Rather than wait indefinitely why not be proactive and see if you can get better sleep habits

Mine are 13 months apart🙈

Eldest is nearly 14 months and youngest is 3 1/2 weeks. We didn't plan that age gap and I'd deffo not recommend it to anyone 😂. Saying that I wouldn't change them for anything and think they have an advantage in a built in best friend being so close in age.

We've been lucky that they are both relevantly good sleepers. They aren't perfect and do wake in the night but it's manageable. The hardest part isn't the sleep it's when they both want something at the same time and cry for it.

Would deffo have a bigger age gap we wanted about 2 years it just work out that way. 😊

[quote DuvetCaterpillar]@Thatwentbadly Please tell me you missed the critical word "months" out of your post. My daughter wakes every couple of hours all night still at 13 months, I definitely can't hack this until she's 20 Is that not inconvenient when she comes in from clubbing?[/quote]
I definitely missed out months - although if she was 20 at least it wouldn’t be my problem anymore.

I have 3 years between my girls and it has worked well in terms of being able to give them enough individual attention. DD1 says she would have preferred a smaller age gap.

My eldest 2 are 12 months apart. My 3rd is 12 years younger and now nearly 3. In all honesty it was far easier with the elder ones as they sort of entertained each other a lot of the time. Its MUCH harder with the youngest as its just him most of the time as they other 2 are at school, training, asleep in bed most of the day etc. 2 close in age is definitely easier than 1!

My first is still a rubbish sleeper at 3.5 years. It was very tough the first few weeks when DD was feeding at all hours. Since she was about 12 weeks it’s been fine, she’s a good sleeper. Both do end up in bed with me at about 4 am though.
Day times ok, I just don’t get much done other than childcare. Getting out the house the first few times was hard but now it’s fine. I do have a double buggy and that’s been brilliant. Keeps the 3 year old under control and the baby can sleep. Also somewhere to put the stuff I need, somewhere for them to snack.
I’m madly contemplating a 3rd at some point.

Once the eldest is sleeping though are you going to want to go back to the beginning again? There's a big difference between 15 months and 2 years, chances are even if your eldest doesn't sleep through aged 2 he'll only be waking up once a night. I always think bigger age gaps are harder to manage for longer whereas I had a couple of bonkers years but now dc play together most of the time.

Each baby I had only slept through once I was pregnant with the next. Luckily dc4 slept through quite early because I was not having any more. My gaps are all between 2 and 3 years, which was nice. And as for coping, you just do. It can be a slog at times but there are lovely moments in every day, even the toughest ones. Now mine are all at school, most of our times are lovely.

I find the days harder than the nights! When they’re arguing over a toy or one wants to do one thing and the other something else. Or both falling over and needing a hug at once!

Hospital appointments too... my eldest has a lot and they don’t want siblings there since COVID. So now I have to arrange both time off work and someone to look after baby sister. More organising generally.