Seriously...... how do you manage with 2 or more? Lol

[Kate3150]

My DS is 15months, he is the most lovable happy little boy but he doesn’t nap or sleep brilliantly at night. I have a wonderful Husband and we’re a great team.
I would like another baby but wonder if I would get any sleep at all with another one LOL.
Hats off to those of you with 2 or more 👍🏻 Xx

No way would I want a second when my first was only 15 months. We have a 3 yesr age gap and that's about as small as I would want. Oldest reliably sleeping, out of nappies, doesn't need a buggy, can entertain themselves for 5 minutes.

a lot of help! i have four aged 11 months, 2, 7, and 13. i couldn’t do it without an amazingly supportive partner, and parents that have my kids most friday or saturday nights so that we can have some time to ourselves. it was easier with my eldest two because of their age gap, but luckily my younger two have both slept through since around four months old so i haven’t had to deal with too many sleepless nights!

Had 5 kids.

Last 3 all under 4 yrs old

They all slept with me and DH slept on sofa

It was only way we all got sleep

@ChocOrange1

No way would I want a second when my first was only 15 months. We have a 3 yesr age gap and that's about as small as I would want. Oldest reliably sleeping, out of nappies, doesn't need a buggy, can entertain themselves for 5 minutes.

This.

15mo is basically still a baby, they can do so much more a year later and it makes all the difference.

Have loved reading all your responses. You are superwomen!!
After a night of 2 hourly waking I think it’s too soon for another 😂.
Thank goodness it’s Easter weekend and I can eat chocolate at any time of day with a good excuse ha ha xx

I had my 2nd just as my first started playgroup at 32 months so the timing was perfect as 1st was tired after playgroup and I also had some time on my own with the baby during the morning.

It was full on though, I remember thinking before the 2nd was born that I had no free time anyway so it couldn't get worse, I was wrong, so very wrong 😁 I didn't have a moment free until the 2nd dc started playgroup another 32 months later. But I'm a single mum, it would have been easier if my husband and I had still been together.

@happinessischocolate- gosh you really are superwoman! Hope you still had and continue to have some support?
I absolutely love your name, chocolate is everything when you have little ones xx

DS1 didn’t sleep through the night consistently until he was 17 months, exactly 1 month before DS2 arrived

DS2 slept through at 5 months

Just because your first doesn’t sleep well doesn’t mean the second won’t. And eventually the first will sleep better

@Ilikecheeseontoast I think my uterus just jumped back up inside me at the idea of 3 under 3...you deserve a medal!!

My first was a crap sleeper and we thought we may as well just crack on and have the second since we weren't getting any sleep anyway! Had a 2 year gap and, of course, no sooner had I had the second than the first started sleeping through 12 hours every night. Second actually hasn't been nearly as bad although did go through a hellish phase just as I returned to work when he was 10mo of waking 3 times a night and being up for the day at 4.30am! That was harder than when he was a newborn and I had to go to work. Nightmare.

I think I’m making the assumption that any future babies will also be poor sleepers.
I mean my DS has some good nights, but we’ve never achieved those famous words of “consistently sleeping through”. It’s always teething, regressions, snotty noses, etc...... x

We had exactly the same as you op - the odd night or few nights of good sleep and then back to waking. But then one day it just stopped...

And as I said, DS2 was the opposite. He wakes for teething and illness but on the whole he’s slept through from 5 months

Each one is sooooo different that you can’t guarantee

I’m scared to have a 3rd in case they just don’t sleep at all

I would say in my experience at that age though, a few months make all the difference. My first was a great sleeper anyway. My second was awful right up until about a month ago (he's 22 months now) so I wouldn't worry too much yet

It’s when you hear friends/acquaintances have babies much younger who sleep through! I’m very critical of myself so always think it’s something I’ve done wrong with his sleep x

Mine were 8 years apart... both good sleepers and eaters... very much appreciated the second child as I was 42 when I had him, I knew it would be my last! Loved every minute of the baby days and beyond
You don't know you have until it's gone xx

Big gap. 2 close together is my idea of torture. Ds is 7 and dd is 16months. Both slept through from 3 months luckily, although we thought ds was a fluke and wouldnt manage it again! I was worried after never really having the sleepless nights for very long, if dd HAD been a rubbish sleeper, it would of been very hard. I take my hats off to those mummys dealing with non sleeping children, however many they have!

@Velouria

Yup big age gaps, even then it can get very stressfull, I had 3 years between mine, still remember having a little cry on a bus because they were being monsters and I had no idea what to do .

It's a strange phenomenon though, if you have three (or more idk) if any one of them is away for the day/night it feels really peacefull and calm. Has anyone else found this?

I think you’re referring to the n-1 phenomenon. The ideal number of children is always one fewer than you have. We have 6 and a weird calm falls upon our household when one is out. I popped to the post office with 3 yesterday it felt quite easy.

I have 4 and I’m a lone parent, I manage because I have no choice 😬

I have dd2.5 years and 3 month old ds. Dd is an amazing sleeper at night, upto bed at 7pm, 1 or 2 stories and then left to settle herself which she does and don't hear from her til morning. I personally couldn't have had another if she had still been a crap sleeper, and tbh I'm very lucky with ds as he only wakes for a feed once during the night mostly

3 kids 3 and under. Roll them out fast before you have time to process what you are doing. Live in zombieland for a handful of years then it is all good.

There is no ‘right time’ trust me
I’m gonna have 15 months between my two. DS was 6 months when I got pregnant and currently 29 weeks!

When I got pregnant he was sleeping really well and in a pretty easy stage, then he stopped sleeping so well and started getting mobile so turned into a proper handful (just in time for the morning sickness ) but now he’s somewhat shifted back and isn’t particularly difficult. I’m sure that will change again soon!

I think you either go for it before they’re at school and take your chances, or wait till they start school which is a tiny bit safer but gives you a bigger age gap.

For me and DH we just want to get the ‘baby stage’ out of the way and both agreed we’d feel like we were ‘back to square one’ waving DS off to school then starting all over again!

I had three under four and two of them (DC1 and DC3) were not great sleepers. I liked getting the baby phase over with all in one go - those early years are a sleep deprived haze It's all much easier now they are pre teen / teens.