If money, space etc wasn’t an issue how many children would you have?

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I totally understand now I’ve got ds how the Radfords etc happen

Just been sorting through his baby things and already things don’t fit ... probably never be worn again. And he looks so tiny on newborn pics!

I’d want four but think it’ll be one or two. Desperately hoping for two. How about you?

3 or 4

I have 2. Got pregnant with a third when DS was 9 months old. Ended up having an abortion at 9 weeks as with a heavy heart DH and I realised we'd most likely lose the house with a 3rd 😢

Three kids probably (have 2) - we have enough space and money but the desire is wavering!

I like it in theory but in reality I don't want to go back to the days of searching for Cheerios and pacifiers in an oversized bag amongst the wipes and spare clothes...

Just 1.

I stopped at four but would have liked six.

backinthebox has nailed it. The world is massively overpopulated already and nobody should be aiming for more than two children.
Every extra child causes more than 50 tonnes of Co2 equivalent emissions per year of their life. It’s the single worst thing you can do to the environment. You may be able to afford it - but the planet can’t.

1. Mine do tons of extra curricular stuff which I'm happy about but takes two of us at times to ferry them around. A nanny could do it I guess. Lol

Just my one.

I'm about to have a third and it feels right. I don't imagine once I've given birth a third time that I'll be wanting to do it ever again! And I have enjoyed this pregnancy less, and do want to get into other goals at some point like career etc. Babies and toddlers are lovely but I enjoy them getting older and more independent too.

But in my fantasy world back when I only had one DC, I liked the idea of siblings being the same sex and probably would have kept going until nobody was on their own, which could have been a bit nuts

I will have 3 boys, so might have stopped here anyway, but for example if it had been BBG I would have kept going until the girl had a sister as well :o

As it is DH has made noises about trying again for a girl. I'm really not keen on this for several reasons, mainly that I don't want to be that person who keeps on having babies until one comes out the "right" sex!

Just 1. You still have to go through pregnancy and birth!!

Just our one thanks

Just my one ta!

Just two. I wouldn’t have the energy or time to give another child the level of individual attention I think they need if I had another child.

@backinthebox, that graph is shocking!

5

1. Wanted 2, have 2. Ready to be done with small kids. I'm a great mum to 2, I'd be a mediocre mum to 3. I simply wouldn't be able to give be them the love and attention they need. One big factor is my eldest has ASD (diagnosed) so I'm fighting for the services that he needs but have been failed by so far. I've not a moment's hesitation since my youngest was born about having another child.

Just the two. We wouldn't be able to give any more children enough time, effort or opportunity. I grew up not being able to do things because we couldn't afford it and don't want my kids to experience that.

Oh and my back is knackered after two massive babies.

@backinthebox

If everyone keeps breeding like rabbits, this is what the housing will be like. There simply isn’t enough space for everyone to have lots of children AND live longer. Abuse our planet enough and it will find ways to limit our numbers, either by wiping out the very old or cutting back on the very young. People are outraged that the Covid pandemic has swept through the elderly population. Imagine how dire it would be if a disease cut back our children instead. People need to consider what they are doing when they have children - more is not merrier in the long run.

But people aren't breeding like rabbits The fertility rate in the UK is below 2.

And in answer to the question, one.

agree with @raskolnikova who has a very valid point.

Also OP asked if SPACE wasn't an issue- not just in my house but globally- then 5/6.

8

I have so much love to give.

I don’t know. Before kids I used to think my ideal would be three, but that I would settle for two for reasons of finance etc. But now that I’ve actually had my son, I feel like I would be pretty happy with one. I can’t imagine how I could ever love another baby as much as I love him, and he’s so wonderful (and such an easy baby) that I fear a second would inevitably be more difficult.

I’m only 4 months in and I expect a lot of these feelings are hormonal, so I may go back to thinking I want two one day!

4 or 5! Stopped at 2 though for money, environment and space reasons! !

I have two but would have had three if space and money allowed.

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