At what age did you put your baby in their own room?

[marti2]

Exactly the title really, ds is 8 months old and starting to think about moving him to his own room 😊

6 months on the dot, and we all immediately slept better for it.

I do think there needs to be more nuance when talking about baby risks in general. If you can't get any sleep when the baby is in the room with you and you end up unable to cope from sleep deprivation that's a risk too.

At about one for my three. It was round about then that I was night weaning so it made sense. Then DH would go to them if they woke in the night so they wouldn't be smelling my milk etc.

daisy

I promise I am not dismissing guidance at all. Guidance is there for a reason. But it is guidance at the end of the day and people need to make their own informed decision about what is best for their family

As to your question....There is a reason why sleep deprivation is such an effective torture technique.

daisy and to give you a less hyperbolic response to your question, I fell asleep standing up, holding my baby at the side of the road. I woke as I staggered and went into the road. Luckily the car stopped in time.

We re going to try it at 6 months, he sleeps through most nights but his kicking wakes me up sometimes, if he sleeps gets bad again we ll move him back with us.

4 and 8. Years not months. They chose when they wanted to move into their own spaces.

@marti2

Exactly the title really, ds is 8 months old and starting to think about moving him to his own room 😊

we tried it at 6 months but it didn’t work and even now at 15 mths he cosleeps. We probably should try it again.

6 weeks! 8 years ago
It was like sleeping in a farmyard with all the snuffling!

I know todays but I guess I’m not totally sure how having a baby asleep in your room would lead to that level of sleep deprivation (as if he was awake and crying you presumably wouldn’t leave him to it!)

@daisyoranges

How on earth did putting a 3 week old in a room on her own “keep you both alive”?

My worry is always that people read posts like this and think the NHS guidance is just over cautious scaremongering, and it isn’t. It’s up to individuals what they do but that doesn’t mean the safer sleep guidelines should be completely dismissed.

Women who have PND are often told to put baby in their own room (and bed) from birth if health professionals judge the risk to baby from mum greater than the risk of SIDs. NHS advice is lowest common denominator advice - because SIDs in a full term at least 6 pounder with no health conditions (and where parents aren’t smokers) are really low.

9 months - breast fed

She stopped breastfeeding so much in the night when I moved her into her own room so it was well worth it

I struggle to see the safety aspect tbh

Cot death? But what’s the chances you’re watching over your baby at the precise time they stop breathing anyway?

That rather assumes that women with PND would harm their baby though grumpy and I think a lot or the time (most) that isn’t true - I know when I was struggling i was ridiculously anal and anxious about naps and feeds but baby was at no risk from me. But I don’t want to upset anyone. I do think it’s worth gently pointing out the guidance is there for a reason though. Obviously if you decide to go against it it is your baby and your choice but worth reminding people I think. Sorry if I sound preachy!

lentil it’s not for that reason, it’s to help baby regulate his breathing.

@daisyoranges

That rather assumes that women with PND would harm their baby though grumpy and I think a lot or the time (most) that isn’t true - I know when I was struggling i was ridiculously anal and anxious about naps and feeds but baby was at no risk from me. But I don’t want to upset anyone. I do think it’s worth gently pointing out the guidance is there for a reason though. Obviously if you decide to go against it it is your baby and your choice but worth reminding people I think. Sorry if I sound preachy!

Genuine guidance What’s the reason?

@daisyoranges

That rather assumes that women with PND would harm their baby though grumpy and I think a lot or the time (most) that isn’t true - I know when I was struggling i was ridiculously anal and anxious about naps and feeds but baby was at no risk from me. But I don’t want to upset anyone. I do think it’s worth gently pointing out the guidance is there for a reason though. Obviously if you decide to go against it it is your baby and your choice but worth reminding people I think. Sorry if I sound preachy!

It is standard MEDICAL advice for women with pnd. Similarly mums of premies are often told to sleep their underweight babies on their tummies.

I think a lot of ppl ignore valid medical advice because of people like you lording over bog standard ‘lowest common denominator’ NHS guidance. Honestly I think you need to understand that NHS advice is just that. And it’s never ever a substitute for medical advice.

@Lentillover1900

I struggle to see the safety aspect tbh

Cot death? But what’s the chances you’re watching over your baby at the precise time they stop breathing anyway?

I think the logic is that sharing a room makes baby sleep less deeply. There’s a theory also that hearing your breathing helps regulate theirs, but in truth no one knows for sure.

DD went into her own room just after 6 months. The only time she would wake in the night was when we were coming to bed, no matter how quiet we were. Since going into her own room she’s been sleeping through (touch wood, it’s only been 6 weeks!)

We followed the guidance as it worked for us but I wouldn’t have hesitated to move her sooner (or indeed keep her with us longer) if it didn’t. I genuinely think every parent only had experience of parenting their own baby, and they have to do what’s right - both for baby and themselves.

I’m not lording it over at all grumpy. If you’ve inferred that from my post I’ve obviously phrased it badly. As I’ve said, I think everyone should make an individual decision. I’d have personally felt worse putting my baby in his own room even with PND, but if it helps someone else, that’s fine. I just think it helps to know what the guidance and recommendations are, as we can see here some people aren’t aware.

daisy She was just so flipping NOISY. She moved, she snuffled, she made weird noises. But every time she made a noise (which felt like every flipping 30 seconds) I went from dozy to WIDE AWAKE.

As it was she slept through the night from 6 days old but she was such a noisy sleeper that my mummy hormones just wouldn't let me relax. It was hell on earth. Luckily, we couldn't have another baby so I never had to go through it again. Lol

Aww todays I sympathise - nothing like as bad but boy do I know about it if baby ds has a bogey 😂

I had terrible PND and was never told to put DS into his own room early. It would have made me feel worse as a lot of the way I was feeling was to do with not doing the right things for DS. Being told to put him in his own room early because of my PND would have just compounded those feelings.

2 years for DC1, 1 year for DC2.

It didn't seem to be a problem that they were aware they were moving. Both slept through at about 2.5yo so the timing didn't seem to make a difference to us.

They don't really know why room sharing reduces sids rates but it about halves the risk. Personally I'd be OK with stopping at 4 months considering the risk goes down to negligible at that point anyway so even if it's double it's still lower than it has been so far. But I tend to be cosleeping and breastfeeding at that point and I like the cuddles