Please give me advice its scary

[jorhat]

My news born is 23 days old,he is always hungry. Twice a day he feeds continuously 5 or 6 feeds,each of 45 minutes.
Like once a day if he wakes up 8pm he deeds for one hour.burps takes hiccups,passes stool then again he feeds for one hour after 15 min he again feeds.then again and then again and doesnt even gives 10 mins gap..its really tiring plus im all dried up and tired what is the problem how can i solve it

Cluster feeding is absolutely normal, but has your baby been checked for tongue tie?
My 1st dc fed like yours, I have a cracking milk supply and so for the first few weeks he gained weight brilliantly, then as my supply settled to his "demand", which was poor because he wasn't transferring milk well, his weight gain slowed, then stopped and he started to lose weight.
It is definitely worth a check on his tongue just to see.

OP, the cluster feeding will get better. Especially the nighttime cluster feeding, as he gets his circadian rhythms and begins to understand the difference between day and night. As for coping meanwhile, I definitely second a PP's suggestion to just settle down with a film or a book in the evenings and just go with the flow. I'm current doing the same with mine! I don't even try to put him down in the evenings... I just feed him on and off and let him nap on me. And if he does it during the night, can you feed him lying down on your side in bed? You'll get more rest that way and if you fall asleep during a feed, that's fine too!

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@Somethingsnappy is it possible that baby do cluster feeding 2 times like today my LO did cluster feeding from 2pm to 8pm slept 8 30 then woke up 10 and again hes on feed till 4 am please tell me everyonee its scaryyy again now two times a day

It is definitely possible and normal in the early days OP. The first six weeks are about baby sucking and feeding often in order to set up your milk supply for the future. It is hard and often nobody has warned new mothers that this happens. Most babies cluster feed in the evenings, but really it can be any time. My baby is like yours, more so than my previous babies actually. If you can get through the early weeks, it get so much easier and you'll forget and wonder how you ever found it so difficult. Your baby is doing plenty of wet and dirty nappies, see they? Can you Co sleep whilst the nighttime cluster feeding is going on so that you can get more rest and nap during and in between feeds? Your baby just wants the comfort of being close to you and sucking at the breast meets all their needs for hunger, comfort, warmth and closeness.
As your baby grows and his tummy gets bigger, he'll be able to go for longer between feeds and the cluster feeding will get less and less and shorter durations.
Keep posting here for support... You can get through this! You're doing so well and sound like an amazing and very responsive mum!

P. S. Have you tried feeding your baby whilst lying down on your side in bed, kind of curled around him? This is a safe position to feed him if you fall asleep.

Is you baby also having some short periods where he is awake and alert, but quiet and not crying?

@Somethingsnappy lying around with him while feeding dont you think can cause problem or its completely fine ? Lots of people told me that it causes milk to go into nose or something... if its completely fine then ill try doing it...my LO cluster feeded only in the evening but these two days he started doing it in afternoon too so its like now all day cluster feeding

@Somethingsnappy yes sometimes he goes quite sometimes he cries

OP you should look up the Wonder Weeks app too, it has a calendar that tells you roughly when to expect a growth spurt (when baby will be fussy for a couple of days and want to nurse for longer periods).

From memory (but it's been a few years!) these are roughly at: 3 days from birth, 9 days old, 3 weeks old (where you are now), then six weeks old and about 3-4 months is the next one after that I think.

It's really hard with your first baby as their patterns change all the time and some are harder to deal with than others, so you might feel like you're going backwards or something is going wrong when last week's actions no longer seem to be working - but that's almost never the case, it's just that growing up is hard work for both mum and baby.

You sound like you are doing a great job. Have faith in yourself. Keep going. X

[quote jorhat]@Somethingsnappy lying around with him while feeding dont you think can cause problem or its completely fine ? Lots of people told me that it causes milk to go into nose or something... if its completely fine then ill try doing it...my LO cluster feeded only in the evening but these two days he started doing it in afternoon too so its like now all day cluster feeding [/quote]
Breastfeeding lying down or at an angle is fine, you'd notice if it went into his nose but I'm betting he is mostly firmly clamped on and not letting a drop escape him.

You've confirmed my suspicions that it's a 3-week-old's growth spurt if his pattern has changed only a couple of days ago.

So baby is getting bigger, he’s feeding more and this is encouraging your body to increase your milk. Like the way someone banging on your door makes you run faster to get to it! It will probably ease off again in a day or two once he’s more settled and your body has responded to the extra demands.

[quote jorhat]@Mylittlepony374 mine one feeds from 8pm till 2am at night.. and at morning 4 to 9 continuously its exhausting and i need time to regenerate breast milk.. is it possible that my milk supply is not enough thats why hes always hungry and also he is always crying im hunger [/quote]
You could mix-feed (top-up with formula) - I did this with both mine to 6 months.

Feeding lying down is perfectly ok and should help you to get some rest. There is a good article on sleeping with your baby here

Yes feeding lying down is absolutely fine and recommended as a way of getting more rest. You can breastfeed a baby from pretty much any angle! If you Google breastfeeding positions and the 'side lying' position, you'll see how it works. It is safe to sleep in this position too, with your baby, so no need to worry if you drop off whilst feeding. You may even find your baby sleeps better! I feed my baby every night like this.

I was also thinking about growth spurts, as PP have said.

P. S. I see that @BunnyRuddington has linked to a great article and that there is a video shoeing the side lying position, near the bottom x

Hello everyone are you guys sure cluster feeding will last 6 weeks please givd me motivation that it will end

OP, all babies are different, so it may not be exactly 6 weeks as it was for a PP. But 6 weeks does tend to be about the time that many women notice that things start to feel easier and they feel more able to cope. Also, babies start to get their circadian rhythms about 6 weeks so can start sleeping better at night. It will improve soon! For example, my baby is 9 weeks and he does still like to cluster feed in the evenings, but not as intensely and it tends to be between about 8pm and midnight, after which he sleep really well. Lots of women notice that babies sleep well and for longer stretches after cluster feeding. Especially after about 6 to 8 weeks.
Have you tried feeding in bed whilst lying down yet?

My boy fed around the clock for 4 months at least. My husband would joke that he left in the morning for work and I was sitting feeding and he came back in the evening and I was on exactly the same spot feeding on the couch. I thought my baby was broken, but now I realise it's very common and I should have just enjoyed it. Actually, once I resigned myself to it, I read a bunch a trashy lit while feeding and now miss it!

And I fed lying down all the time. So relaxing now that I think of it. I soooo wish I had embraced it more.

Don't worry OP.... I don't think the poster above is referring to cluster feeding. 'feeding around the clock' at 4 months is perfectly normal of course. But as their tummies start to get bigger, they tend to be able to go longer between feeds. The first 3 months of a baby's life is often referred to as the fourth trimester (worth googling) as they adjust to life outside the womb and just want to be close to you all the time. If you suspect your baby might be sucking for comfort and closeness some of the time, can you try putting him in a sling? This works for me x

La Leche League is a breastfeeding support charity. They have offices in Pakistan. Suggest you call them asap tomorrow to see if they can arrange a telephone appointment and help you.

www.lllasia.org/lll-support-in-pakistan.html

Guys my LO is crying while breastfeeding,clusterfeeding today happened at night 4:30 am till 12pm (7 hours straight) in the end my breastmilk was lowest,he was crying while strongly sucking... does that mean he is not getting milk now and he cant have more patience for little milk... what should i do ? Should i give him top feed ? Or i should just go on like before please help me

@GrumpyHoonMain thankyou for giving sharing i called them.. their number for karachi is not working