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How many children do you have and what genders?

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Commalia · 25/01/2021 05:57

How many kids did you want and how many do you have?

To parents with one gender families- were you okay having all one gender or kept trying till you get the other gender?

We have three girls and happy with girls, we don't mind a fourth even but not more than four kids. I just feel bad for my husband so would love to hear experience of other parents and how they just knew they wanted or not more kids?

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MarjoryMinor · 25/01/2021 07:21

And gender is a societal construct so the gender issue is to do with how rigid society now is.

SendHelp30 · 25/01/2021 07:23

@MarjoryMinor Jesus Christ 🙄 wondered how long it would take.

CoffeeRunner · 25/01/2021 07:25

I have DS1 23, DS2 19 & DD 9.

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FolkSongSweet · 25/01/2021 07:29

One boy and one girl, would love another (of either sex) but DH not keen. Still early days with dc2 though so time for us to change our minds.

MarjoryMinor · 25/01/2021 07:30

@SendHelp30 try living with the distress gender dysphoria causes a child before being snarky maybe. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Allhallowseve · 25/01/2021 07:32

Three boys all very different wouldn't change them for all the world.
No more for me definitely know I'm done.

mintich · 25/01/2021 07:34

Girl and 2 boys, 3 under 4

PolarnOPirate · 25/01/2021 07:34

2 boys, would love a third boy but if it was a girl she would obviously be awesome like her mother so that would be fine too.

midgebabe · 25/01/2021 07:39

One child

Don't know how she would describe her gender

sashagabadon · 25/01/2021 07:43

Agree with the others. It’s sex ( boy or girl) not gender. That is just an ideology and not everyone agrees with it

chocolatesweets · 25/01/2021 07:48

Ds and dd

The8thMonth · 25/01/2021 07:48

Wanted 3 children.

Had 3 boys and feel no need to keep trying for a girl

diege · 25/01/2021 07:52

6 dcs here, 3 girls, 3 boys (in that order)

SquirtleSquad · 25/01/2021 08:06

I have two biological males but they identify their gender as lampposts

Terracottasaur · 25/01/2021 08:09

One boy. Very happy ❤️ Might have a second - haven’t decided yet. Don’t care whether I have another boy or a girl.

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Commalia · 25/01/2021 08:11

Yes I meant sex - sorry I am not into all the nomenclature for this. I know they can grow up and be whatever they wish and I respect that, just not very well versed into what words to use when. Well noted for the future.

Thanks for the answers. Part of me wants to try to a fourth and would be very happy with another female but just can't deal with people's reactions with a fourth of the same sex. I cant. Already people were so annoying and obnoxious when we announced our third girl.

Two of the same sex is easier to justify for a reason. Not like its in our control and I don't want people to think we kept trying for the boy when I really wouldn't mind a girl. Anyway...

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Greygreenblue · 25/01/2021 08:11

We have three girls and love it and definitely no more! Why would I feel sorry for DH? They are great! He doesn’t “need” a boy

LittleBoPeep95 · 25/01/2021 08:14

I have 1 boy, and 3 girls. If I'm ever out with the girls and my son isn't with us people often comment 'are you going to try for a boy' or 'oh I bet they would love a brother'.

Obviously they don't know i have an older son but these comments piss me RIGHT off. Even when I was pregnant with the girls each time people would say 'hopefully it's a boy so your son gets a brother'. I didn't find out what I was Having and the comments were endless. People seem to have an opinion no matter what! My ex is currently expecting a little girl with his new partner, and people keep saying to my son, 'aw poor you ,four sisters! I feel sorry for you!'

Why do you feel sorry for him? Because sisters aren't as good as brothers? Just fuck off.

Pipandmum · 25/01/2021 08:19

Two stepsons and one of each from me. The older boys lived with us in their teens.
When younger I wanted several kids but didn't get married until 40 and two was enough, especially as my husband had 2 already. But if I had been a decade younger I might have. With friends who have more than two its a struggle as you go from one parent per child to juggling (imagine a Saturday with netball and two separate footie practices to go to all at the same time. You can't be in two places at once), the car becomes an issue, etc.

HappyFlamingo · 25/01/2021 08:32

Mine are boy, girl, boy. Definitely no fourth here - three is more than enough!

Sober4Summer20 · 25/01/2021 08:38

1 boy and 1 girl. I wanted four before we started but the realitys of parenthood meant that we stopped at two. They are fantastic children but I find it all very hard work.

Figgygal · 25/01/2021 08:40

I have a brother
Dh has a sister
I never wanted more than 2
We have 2 boys and a dog which is plenty
Never bothered me not having a girl

Sunplanetearth8 · 25/01/2021 08:41

1 boy, age 5.

Ihaveoflate · 25/01/2021 08:42

One girl - no more for us and I didn't mind what sex we had (didn't find out during pregnancy).

I love my little girl and wouldn't change her but I'm sure I would have felt exactly the same about a boy.

Incacat2 · 25/01/2021 08:43

4 girls. Love it that way. We are completely happy; they are all happy and healthy. Some of the stupid comments we've endured, though, mainly from the older generation. Grit teeth and 'smile.'