Baby wont stop crying!!!!

[Gabriella93]

I have a beautiful 3 week old boy and I love him so much but oh my god I am at the end of my tether. He does not stop crying all day! He won't sleep at all in the day unless I rock him for hours or drive in the car. Today even the rocking didnt help him so currently sat in the car praying he doesnt wake up.

I dont know what to do anymore. I am a 1st time mum and I just hate my life right now, I dont want to be a mum anymore but obviously I have to be. He is also sick about 4 or 5 times after each feed, the DR gave me Gaviscon but I havent noticed a difference. I am sure something else is wrong, he has a rash and just seems miserable! I am exclusively breast feeding at the moment but dont know if I can carry on. He wants to feed all day as I think it soothes him but then that seems to make him more unhappy sometimes.

Did anyone have a similar experience or does anyone know when this will end??? I cant go on like this anymore. I am so tired and my back is in bits from rocking him all day. I had him by emergency c section so I shouldn't even be driving or walking round holding him so much but I have no choice. I cant eat or shower all day and the house is a shit hole, I hate it!!!

The wanting to feed all the time and screaming certainly brings me back to my days with DD who had reflux. Gaviscon didn't work so we ended up with something different but I can't quite remember the name. Go back to your GP or health visitor. Try putting something under the end of the cot so it is raised when baby is laying down. I remember the days of baby crying constantly and feeling at the end of my tether but it really does get better, I promise. If you feel like it's all too much, put the baby down somewhere safe and leave the room. You won't do baby any harm and you can take some time to gather yourself. It's bloody tough in those early days

Yeah the Gaviscon doesn't seem to help much at all! Did your baby fight sleep as well? He will asleep on me for about 30 seconds and then his eyes are open again! I'll keep harassing the Drs until they help then. He started off as a fairly happy baby and then last couple of weeks he's so miserable, I feel bad for him! When does it get easier? X

It's hard, but it'll get easier. I have a cranky baby too (and my first was even worse) - I found breastfeeding was the thing that soothed them the most. I let them fall asleep on me breastfeeding in a quiet room. Some say this will create an unhelpful sleep association, but at least this way I got some peace and quiet and some semblance of 'rest'. I also went for loads of very long walks with the pram or sling in the early days. Both babies like/liked motion, so this soothed them.

Get a sling!!!! Absolute life saver with daughter number 4 - she wouldn’t sleep any where except on me for nearly 8 weeks!!!! I have a didimos ring sling - very comfortable and mine have all fallen asleep and slept in the well! Saves achy arms and you’re hands free!

Does sound like reflux. Feeding more once over full makes it worse, but is how babies respond to discomfort...damned if you do and damned if you don’t!

Can you keep DS as upright as possible when feeding? Diagonal across your body tummy-to-tummy while you sit up.

That sounds like cow's milk protein allergy!

My DS was exactly the same. I cut all dairy from my diet. Different baby in 24 hours. No more crying or vomiting. No more reflux.

Reflux is a symptom not a cause. It can be tongue tie too but i would put money on it being a dairy allergy.

I hope this doesn’t sound like an idiot but keep checking his temperature.. my little one had a rash that turned out to be viral however a couple of weeks later he had a UTI.. he didn’t stop crying either.. was nothing to worry about but I wouldn’t have known unless I had checked his temperature.
He might just be suffering with a bit of colic or reflux.. but didn’t want to read and run.
Get support from whoever you can too. It’s hard work. You are being a brilliant mom xxx

@bumblenova that's what I am thinking but Drs not taking me seriously when I suggest it. They say because he's putting on weight it won't be that xx

@peachee he had his temp checked yesterday and was fine but I'll keep checking, thank you! I dont feel like a good mum right now xx

Reflux
CMPA
sounds like my DS

@craztchemist yep its the only think that sends him to sleep sometimes. Eveyone says I'm overfeeding him but I thought you couldn't over feed a bf baby? X

You absolutely are - no one can prepare you for looking after a tiny baby it’s on another level. Don’t ever doubt yourself

@matilda1981 what sling would you recommend? I want one thats easy to put him into x

As pp said cows milk protein allergy. Cut out all dairy and possibly soya as well. Make sure you take calcium supplements
Read the labels as milk sneaks in to many things
They say it takes 2 weeks to notice a difference. Both times it worked in two days.

My first gained weight with cmpa just spent months with painful bellyache. Exactly as you describe.
My second just lost weight from the start.

I had this. It's hell but it will stop, it's not forever. I highly recommend a dummy. I never intended to use one but my god, it was my best friend for a few months.

Sucking helps soothe then, produces saliva which helps with reflux, and will help him sleep.

Also a sling, I didn't use one as thankfully mine slept ok in the carrycot, but a lot of friends basically had their newborns constantly in a sling.

I've got a dummy, he does take it sometimes but it only helps every now and again. I'll have to try a sling xx

Cows milk protein intolerance is incredibly common, if you cut out milk from your diet you will Hopefully see an improvement in the reflux within the next week or two.

Hi, I used a didysling - it’s a woven wrap ring sling - unbelievably easy to use, I did watch a couple of you tube videos in the beginning just to make sure I had positioning right - absolute lifesaver! I’ve had 4 children and have used it for all of them but defo more for the last! I can’t bear to part with it, selling a lot of baby items now but can’t bring myself to sell it on!!

@Gabriella93 there are a lot of GPs that just don't know their stuff when it comes to breastfeeding. I had to make a formal complaint the first GP I saw was completely wrong. Mine was also gaining weight but it tapered off and by 6 weeks he was vomiting blood it was so bad.

I second also cutting out soya. And no, you are correct, you cannot overfeed a breastfeeding baby.

Trust your instincts - you know something isn't right.

I agree with @sproutsnbacon. You should see a difference incredibly quickly - it will get better in days.

Okay ill definitely cut it out then. Stupid question but when I check ingredients, is it lactose or dairy i need to avoid or is it the same thing? X

I agree with CMPA. The nhs website will have information. Many cmpa babies are also allergic to soya so maybe think about also cutting that out. The rash is a telltale sign of an allergy

Anything with milk. Lactose is the sugar in milk. Check all packets.