Forgive me, I'm "that parent"

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To avoid posting it online/telling the delivery man/calling all my friends, I'm writing on here, because i am So Full of irrational mumpride over nothing, i am being so PFB it is ridiculous, and I'm inviting you to join me (or to roll your eyes so hard your head hurts)

I just got 13m DD's first nursery term report back. It's so bog standard, explores by herself, likes music time, can use a spoon, but i am absolutely bursting with pride. Sentences like "seeks out adults when she's tired and enjoys a cuddle" are making me want to weep with joy.

I had no idea being a parent was going to be like this - i feel like the most ridiculous woman on the planet and i just don't GAF. Is this normal!?

*bitch, I'm a hard faced bitch!

@MisiSam

I know how you feel dh and I took ds 18 months out for lunch to an Italian place the other day, he had his own pizza and milk in a glass! I've never been so proud watching him sit up and eat a meal that we had ordered just for him. Ridiculous

Rereading this for a mood-boost and I'd missed this one completely, that's amazing! What a great feeling!

I need this thread again as I have to tell someone my clever baby can now put rings on a stick AND pack little boxes into her shopping cart 🥰 so proud 🤣

I hear you, when I got DS first nursery journal home for us to look at I was welling up with stupid grinning pride at all the write ups of things he enjoys doing there (with photos) and their comments about what a happy and confident little chap he is 🥰

I would restrict conversations about things like this to the child’s father only and possibly grandparents. Anyone else will be 🙄 inside.

Thank goodness for a thread where people can actually say they are proud! I was reading a recent thread about 'bragging' and asking myself why it seems to be socially unacceptable to tell people about your children's achievements (or grandchildren, in my case).
I am totally proud of all of them, but when I tell close friends about a fabulous school report, I can see the slightly contemptuous expression on their face. If I tell them that one is struggling, they're all over themselves with sympathy.
Is it just jealousy, or what?
Kudos to all of you who have nice, normal, happy and well achieving children. It makes a refreshing change from all the 'my child is having problems' and all the bandwagon jumpers offering the usual 'they must be autistic then' comments. I sometimes think that either all autistic children have parents on Mumsnet, or that every Mumsnet parent has an autistic child.

@MsTSwift that's kind of the point of this thread 🤣

It is the little things. DH and I can hear dc1 (17) and dc3 (8) playing top trumps upstairs, and dc1 is being so lovely with her, and she is so pleased and perky he is taking an interest (a new thing), it’s made us a little misty-eyed...

I secretly swell with pride when (21-y-o) S1 joins in with the "pyaw" sound in the theme music to QI (or the similar sound at the end of HIGNFY, or the Countdown clock).

S2 (17) used to roll his eyes when we did this, but I noticed the other day that he was quietly joining in...

DD (12months) gets weekly observations with pics from nursery. A few weeks ago they reported that she swayed to the music with another child and then leant forward and gave her friend a hug. I cried big, fat tears of joy and pride that my beautiful baby who grew up in lockdown had made a friend within two months of nursery and was showing them affection.

Once I had recovered I read on about how she picked up a dolly and kissed it on the head and gave it a cuddle. She doesn't have dolls at home so she must have learnt this at nursery and I was again completely blown away at how lovely and kind and gentle she is becoming.

I could go on and on to list the achievements but the biggest thing for me is how she settled in - she was declined by the childminder (two hours into her first full session) for being too clingy after growing up in lockdown and I was so scared about sending her to nursery instead - a place I hadn't even seen the inside of in person due to covid (id picked my CM in March so was well settled and had many settling in sessions to see the inside of her place - not that it did any good in the end!) I am so immensely proud of how she has settled, how she is living her best life away from me and it really helps with the mummy guilt.

[quote soughsigh]@ILiveInSalemsLot why is there always someone that says 'just you wait' 🙃

I love DS's nursery reports. They get screenshotted and send to the grandparents. It is genuinely amazing what they can do, I remember when be didn't even know what his hands were and now he can draw pictures and stack blocks![/quote]
I do this too! So frequently I get prodded if they don't get them by the end of the week!

Lovely posts, everyone
I’m a teacher (primary school, not nursery but still) and I do take time over the wording of the personal section of the children’s reports and it’s lovely to think of the parents being thrilled to read them! I recently had a lovely one about my 6yo DD (short report sent home in lieu of parents’ evening).
OP, you’re only that parent if you post screenshots to your social media (screenshots to Grandparents are of course encouraged!)

@MsTSwift

I would restrict conversations about things like this to the child’s father only and possibly grandparents. Anyone else will be 🙄 inside.

only on MN!!

You carry on Op..

My youngest (19) has finished work this afternoon, and has taken a bottle of bubbly up to his Nan, my Mum.. she called to tell me, she's so happy.. I'm proud of him (it's her 1st Xmas without my dad, he passed back in May) it's been a little emotional the last couple of days.

This thread has made me smile so much, thank you.

I still have lots of these moments with my 2 DS now 13 and 15 the latest one being that together they cooked a full Xmas dinner whilst I directed from the sofa ( not able to stand up without pain at the moment).

I am very careful not to over share though as I know no one else is interested in their achievements. I do wish this were not the case and personally I would love to hear more about the achievement of my close family and friends kids no matter how big or small.

I had a moment earlier doing DDs holiday homework with her. She's 4 and was sounding out words all by herself. Perfectly average and to be expected at this point on reception but my god, my baby will be reading soon 😭😂

And baby DS is 10 months and has been taking steps on his own. I cried when he did it for the first time last week

Haha this is lovely!

Awww I love this thread - I hate that feeling of bursting with pride but also feeling like you can only tell a small amount of people so that you don’t ruffle anyone’s feathers.

Hooray a thread where we can say how proud we are! So lovely to hear about your little one, it's the best feeling. My two teenagers are the absolute light of my life, I honestly think I won the lottery. I count my blessings every day (actually that's not true, one of them can be a grumpy wee shit) and I would not change a hair on their heads.

Enjoy your little one OP, it goes so quickly

Getting a bit misty-eyed at some of these. DS is nearly 16, DD is 12 & those moments never really leave you. They put the Christmas tree up together this year and I was a snotty mess at the end of it, because how did my babies get so grown up

I will forever love the health visitor who described DS as 'bonny' and the teacher who singled out DD as 'a person who sees the world in a very different way'. So many tiny moments like these over their lifetimes, but they all add up. I'm in my 40s & have just cried ugly happy tears over a birthday card from my mum. You are not THAT parent, OP, you speak for most of us. It's like the loveliest warm hug imaginable when you see your DC flourish in odd ways, and in the everyday stuff.

I think of these moments and feelings every time I write a report! I’m a teacher and have also worked in preschool, and I write reports with the parents’ pride in mind!

My own oldest dd was told she was a pleasure to teach and a credit to the school, or something like that; obviously I took a photo and sent it to the grandparents!

I cry at DD1s parents eve every time! She's 6 so she's had a few since preschool. Teachers must think I've a screw loose! They usually say something along the lines of 'she is kind & a good friend' makes my blub!

I am really proud of my 19 and 16 yo as they have been so cheerful and funny over Christmas despite 10 months of frustration and disappointment- we have had such a laugh

Never be embarrassed about celebrating your child

Completely normal maternal pride! Treasure these moments, these remarks, try get you through the fussy ness, the night wskings, the tantrums, the answering back. Mine are 9 and 12. I still feel proud if their achievements, however mundane.