Newborn support thread anyone?

[Icloud54]

I've got 4 week old DS and just wondering if any mums out there with similar age DC would like a support thread for this tiring stage?

Hello! DD is 3 weeks and I am exhausted. Would love a support thread, feeling slightly nervous when I think about the months and months of sleep deprivation ahead...

The exhaustion is something else isn't it!

I've really struggled today. He also doesn't want to be put down and wants carrying/rocking/patting constantly until asleep then doesn't sleep for long when I put him down

Yes please.

DD2 will be 3 weeks on Monday and I’m knackered. I can’t even really complain because she’s sleeping pretty well for a newborn but I am struggling with the broken sleep. I’m also expressing milk which is tiring too.

Sorry you have had a bad day @Icloud54 - and I also find that even the good days are exhausting @BeingATwatItsABingThing

I keep telling myself that it will get easier, but in the meantime I just need to get through each day as it comes and try to focus on the snuggly baby bit, not the unbearably tired bit...

Oh yes please! DD is 6 weeks, sleeps well at night and will have a few naps in the sling during the day but from 5-11pm it feels like she's either crying or feeding. It's so tiring, she won't sleep at all, not even on us in the evening. I feel like we've tried everything and nothing works. She's not got tummy troubles so I don't believe it's colic. Anyone got any pearls of wisdom?

@CanAnyMother

You’re right. It will get better. DD1 is 6 now and sleep was something DH and I had become used to again. DD2 is sleeping a lot better than DD1 did though but I’m wondering if that’s because we’re more relaxed and are co-sleeping rather than desperately trying to put her down or stay awake whilst holding her.

Yes please! My DS will be 3 weeks on wednesday. Hes an angel in the day but is hard to put down in the night, will only sleep on me or DH! I'm exhausted but have had a ton of support from family who have come over to take over a few night shifts for us! Cant believe how much it knocks it out of you.

DS didn't sleep too bad last night, I got one good stretch of about 3 hours.

This morning though, I haven't been able to put him down and he wants picking up constantly.

Hello! Five week old DD here, and the exhaustion is real 🥱🥴

Hi, 6 week old here with colic, finding it so hard seeing her in pain!

Another night ahead ladies.. let's hope we get some sleep 🤞

Hi @Julia37 , I've heard 6 weeks is around when colic symptoms peak and then it gradually starts improving, I hope so!

Hmm - not a great night here. She falls asleep feeding straight away then 90 minutes later is hungry... I keep trying to prolong the feeds, changing her, switching boobs etc, but no joy. Longing for a longer stretch of sleep!

Hope everyone else is having a decent night.

And so sorry about the colic @Julia37 - that must be really tough

FTM to a 5 week old baby boy 💙 you all make me feel better that your babies don’t want to be put down either! He’s brilliant sleeping at night but during the day he has to be on me to sleep & fusses after 5 mins of me putting him down which makes it difficult to do anything! Especially during the hours of 6-10. Going to try him in the sling to see if he’ll settle with that & allow me to be hands free

Good morning! I’m so happy to find that it is normal to be awake basically 24/7 😂. I’m a FTM to a nearly 4 week old little boy who will sleep beautifully through the day, I can hoover around him and he doesn’t even flinch. 8pm-2am however.... near enough every night he fusses constantly, for the first two weeks me and my partner took it in turns to stay up with him all night because he would only settle in our arms. We have finally moved to the bedroom but nothing could prepare me for how relentless the night shift is, even though when the sun comes up and he’s as cute as he is I forget about how bad the night was.
Hope you mummas had a good night shift!

Hello! Can I join? I have an 12 day old baby girl. I do think she’s lulling me into a false sense of security as she does let me sleep in 2 and a half hour stints overnight but I will definitely need support during the sleepless nights ahead!

Hi, can I join too? My girl is 10 days old.
I’m the middle of a particularly long feed after I didn’t hear my alarm go off at 4:30. Feeling like a bad mother now...
She definitely has fussy evenings that require lots of feeding so far and can be quite unpredictable. She’s a bit windy and that’s what we are struggling with at the moment...

Hi

This is a really good link which gives an insight into newborns

babyhintsandtips.com/doctor-tips-colic-bore-your-baby-to-sleep/

Joining in too! I have a 3yo DD already and now also a 6 week old DD. I thought I’d be able to power through the exhaustion as I’ve been there done that but MAN ALIVE it’s something else, isn’t it! Feeling allllll the guilt for DD1 that mummy is basically a zombie and daddy isn’t much better atm.

Currently sat in bed desperate for a wee with DD2 glued to my chest... Daren’t move as it’s the most settled she’s been since 4am!

@milknapplayrepeat

I know what you mean about feeling sorry for DC1. DD1 had 6.5 years of us to herself. Now she has to share us with a baby who takes up nearly all of our time and energy. It’s really hard!

Hi @Icloud54, i hope so, fingers crossed! X

I also have a toddler, 2.5 year old who is currently watching too much television but seems happy enough doing that, I do feel guilty though

Welcome everyone! Last night was 2 hour wakings and he is currently asleep whilst I have a coffee
Hoping he lets me put him down more frequently today 🤞

@BeingATwatItsABingThing @Icloud54

It so so hard, isn’t it?! I’m glad to hear from other mums in the same boat tbh as it’s so hard to find anyone to talk to irl. CBeebies and Disney+ are basically parenting my eldest atm. 😂 (And that’s a laughing emoji to disguise the fact that I’m riddled with guilt about it and feel like I’m letting her down on the daily. I even asked DH the other night if he thought DD1 still loves me. I mean, honestly!)

I’ve been expressing milk as well so that’s adding to the exhaustion and the feeling of having no time. Trying to wind it down now because it’s become too much to juggle.

Hello! Joining in too. I have a 4 week old DD and 8yo DS. Also feeling guilty and like I’m neglecting DS as I can barely put DD down and after school I’m too tired to do much with him. We moved a couple of months ago and I don’t have any local friends or friends with small babies so it’s nice to hear of people in the same boat!

Hope everyone managed to get some sleep last night. DD has slept really well the last 2 nights after hourly wakings all last week 😴 but is cluster feeding all morning and evening so I can’t put her down.