Newborn support thread anyone?

[Icloud54]

I've got 4 week old DS and just wondering if any mums out there with similar age DC would like a support thread for this tiring stage?

DD always seems to decide to be very awake on my turn. She was just dozing off and then needed a nappy change! 😫

Hi Ladies, can I join you? My little man is a week old today. I'm a FTM and completely winging it. Completely sleep deprived and finding it painful to sit and feed with a 3rd degree tear. Think the baby blues hit me yesterday as couldn't stop crying. He wouldn't latch so bottle fed and seems to be a milk monster and wants feeding every 2 hours

Welcome @GemLou88

Ouch! That sounds painful.
My baby is just over 5 weeks old now and still feeds every 2 hours sometimes 3 if I'm lucky.

Baby blues are awful, I remember still feeling emotional 2/3 weeks on but it's passed now thankfully

DD has a snotty nose today which is making feeding her difficult. We keep getting mucus and milk spit ups as well. Poor thing.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing we have a snotty nose and an insanely gassy stomach here. Not looking forward to the night... Hope everyone else has a good one.

A lot of wind here too @CanAnyMother

Nice to know it’s not just us.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing have you got one of those nasal aspirator things? My friend advised me to get one before my little man was born and she swore by it when her LG was snotty.

@Icloud54 thank you. It's comforting to know this is "normal" to have the baby blues. Sometimes I really feel like I have no idea what I'm doing and every little thing scares me. He had a rash come up earlier and I panicked and couldn't stop crying for him

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Good evening everyone, we have a fussy little one on our hands tonight... took him out in the car for a change of scenery after what seems like a whole day of trying to settle him, he was silent the whole car journey....Pull up outside the house and he’s off again! How does he know we are home 😂 it’s going to be a long night. Hope everyone has a good night 🙏🏼

@Handsoffisback he’s 4 weeks and after two monster poos he finally calmed down.

@Abcd92 glad he has calmed down for you. Hope you can get some sleep now x

The wonders of pooing! Who knew it could be so difficult?!

I'm so fed up. My lo has now stopped sleeping in her crib at all. I was able to get her to sleep in there between 10-1 and then until 3.30 after a feed at 1. This week she has been awake until 1 and then wakes herself up within a few minutes of being in the crib. We are now co-sleeping all night, I'm getting sleep but it pretty poor quality and wake up uncomfortable from being in one position most of the night. Her reflux medication has been changed so we are waiting for them to start working. It's exhausting my partner is as tired too. I wish we could have a friend or family member over to take her for half an hour for some rest but we can't because of covid rules. In 10 weeks of her life we have had 2 and 1/2 weeks where we have been able to see any one else. It is so demoralising knowing that the normal support avenues are out of reach with no end in sight. Sorry for the moan/rant

Hi everyone!

I’m a first time mum to a 9 week old boy...so far everything going okay...but he will NOT be put down anywhere else but my arms for a nap, sometimes a sling if I’m really lucky. It’s getting tiring! Also, I’m watching like a hawk for sleepy clues and the minute I pick up a couple I begin the rocking, dummy, shush-ing but he starts crying and crying (even though he’s been fed, changed and otherwise fine) until I eventually rock him to sleep! Why does he fight it so much when I know he’s wanting a nap?! Nights are fine tbh it’s just the days are absolutely exhausting and sometime upto an hour passes of me sat stuck on the rocking chair!

Also, weirdly nice to hear that I’m not alone with the winging it - the days really do just bleed into one!!

Hey everyone, is it terrible to allow a 6 week old to cry it out? I’ve had a right clingy boy recently & it’s made doing anything around the house difficult as he just won’t be put down no matter how sleepy he is or when he’s fell asleep in my arms. Today I had enough & put him in his crib & let him cry whilst I tidied up his room & sorted the washing out, I was only in the next room but I felt terrible! After 15 minutes of crying he was sound asleep!

@Newmama29

I would say it’s not recommended to leave a 6wo to cry it out but it doesn’t make you terrible in the circumstances you did it. I have let DD2 cry whilst quickly sorting something out.

Have you tried a sling?

Can I ask for advice about slings? I bought an Ergobaby, and DC screams when I try to put her in it. A friend lent me her old Caboo to try over the weekend and the same thing happened.

Any tips to get newborns happy in a sling? Do I just need to keep trying?

Thank you!

I have the Cuddlebug sling and use it with DD. She’s quite happy to go in it as long as she’s not hungry and will sleep in it for ages. She likes to sleep upright on our chests though so this probably helps.

I would say just keep trying when she’s in a good mood or asleep.

I definitely wouldn’t make it a regular thing but I can tell the difference between the cry of him wanting/needing something & the fussing & gurning of just wanting attention. I have a lot of problems with my back so don’t think I could use the sling for as long as he would want me to

Hello everyone!

I had a terrible night last night, I think the worst yet, he initially settled and slept well but then he was awake every hour and I'm struggling today. He's been napping for 2 hours so I'm spending some time with the toddler.

@Newmama29 I occasionally leave my DS to cry for a few minutes if I need the toilet etc and he won't settle, he has a dummy now which works well, have you tried a dummy?

@Icloud54 yeah we have dummies & he does take them, sometimes he just wants to be held all the time regardless