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Postnatal depression & struggling new baby and toddler

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peonies1988 · 02/10/2020 18:54

Hi everyone,

Never been on here before but just wanted to reach out to see if there’s anyone in the same boat. I’m on baby number 2 (4weeks old) and have a 2.5 year old also. Following birth of first DD, I was admitted to a mother and baby unit for postnatal depression and anxiety. Following birth of my second DD, I did okay for the first week or so but have really taken a downward turn and my PND is rearing its horrible head. Doesn’t help that my baby has suspected CMPI and reflux so she has been sooooo unsettled since birth, she also had tongue tie. On top of this, my toddler (like all of them!) is really challenging - I’m really trying to pay her attention and be patient as I know it’s a huge transition for her but I’m honestly struggling SO much, I cry a lot and it seems like everyone else is holding it together. My husband had to come home from work yday because I had a breakdown. I also have terrible mastitis which isn’t helping but would just love to hear from other mamas who’ve got through this period. Please tell me it gets better x

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YukoandHiro · 21/10/2020 04:34

Hi everyone! Busy week so haven't posted. Everything went really well. My daughter is as born last Tuesday afternoon and active labour only lasted about 4 hours.

So far she's the calmest little baby ever! It's such early days it's too early to call it really, but my first was never this relaxed, even in the earliest, sleepiest days. Also her skin is perfect and nappies totally free of mucous so I'm allow it myself the tiniest hope... and for now just enjoying every peaceful day in case it's the last!

It's made me ever more sad and angry to realise how much I was robbed off first time round and how obviously in pain and unhappy my first was despite my attempts to get her help. I feel so guilty. But now I've seen what other babies can be like the contrast is so stark!

How is everyone getting on? X

YukoandHiro · 27/10/2020 07:17

Just checking in with you all - how is everyone doing?

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