I'm Heartbroken.....

[ScaremyVile]

DP has taken DS away today for 8 days.
I have never been apart from him before.
I couldn't even say goodbye at the airport - I couldn't speak, I just walked away, sobbing behind my sunnies.

Since I got home I have put music on at 'ASBO' volume, sat in the garden (still sobbing into sunglasses) and chainsmoked 3 ciggies - I only ever smoke 3 a day maximum and i've had toasted waffles with melted Galaxy, strawberries and squirty (un)cream for dinner (no small person to set an example for), to be fair that was gorgeous but I still feel absolutely shitty.

I honestly dont think I have ever felt so pathetically heartbroken...EVER - and I was a teenager once!

In fact I seem to have reverted to being 15 again

Feel free to comiserate/berate/empathise....

awww, I'd be the same - never been apart from my ds either

Oh don't - my DH is taking my 10 month old DS to Scotland with a group of friends next month, and I can't go.

I'm dreading it - the house will be SO quiet without them both.

So lots and LOTS of sympathy!!!

it is only 8 days

poor you

am rather jealous at the opportunities you have: peeing uninterrupted, pooing uninterrupted, bathing uninterruped, sleeping uninterrupted, walking round the house naked without people commenting, eating cakes for breakfast and chips for dinner, drinking wine and not clearing up glasses, playing music loudly, watching your own tv programmes, thinking and getting to the end of the thought process, reading a book uninterrupted

Oh dear you poor thing (apart from the amazing food, omgoodness, i'd very much like to come for tea)

I remember feeling sick the first time i was apart from my dds - sick and hollow. How old is your ds?

I think that's the way forward - focus on the positives!!

Aw, sympathies- my Mum takes ds1 and ds2 (sometimes together, sometimes separtately) for a week each summer as respite for dh and I (we still have ds3 as his needs are more demanding). Although the sleep, ability to go out is great I still miss them badly, and that's after a few years of the routine now.

You do adjust a bit though, and the week will fly.

Twig.....

You are making me resentful of my everyday life.

Good job I am off to Dublin on Thursday, granted to see my poorly Dad but three nights sleep without a child in the house. Bliss..............

Oh.....
This is SO a moment where I would have said oh HUGS honey, but seing as we are on mn I shall restrain myself to give you a BLOODY GOOD BIG HUG!

I sympathise so much. I have only been away from my oldest when I gave birth to my youngest. And a few weeks ago my husband took both our kids camping for the weekend. I was lost and lonely. Then I went out with a friend and got so drunk as I cant remember to have been since I was 20. And waking up to an empty house was in the circumstances quite good......

You will be fine. Try some gardening, or decorating.. Start a hand bag collection.... And we will all be here for you.

Yep definitely need to focus on the positives - I will try!

He's 19 months.

Oh sob, sobbity, sob!

I usually feel very guilty/sad/worried when leaving the children. I then proceed to miss them, but still enjoying the freedom in the full.

Oh, we're together - he's just taken him to visit PILs.

He only started giving me kisses yesterday of his own volition - no coersion, no having to chase him first...not even on the promise of a biscuit shiny red apple!

I swear he knew - it was his way of begging me not to let him go...

"please mummy, dont send me away to Nanny - she'll dress me terribly and parade me in front of sniggering extended family members"

... That's my interpretation anyway

Waaaaaaahhh..........

Just said goodnight on the phone - I want him back!

Their house is always cold at night, DP wont remember to check him in the night incase his blankets have come off....

I know what you mean. When my husband took them camping I was scared they would not stay in their sleeping bags, that they would fall down from the bunk, they would not be fed, not get their teeth brushed, etc. But they were fine. It is amazing how the parental responsibility in a man otherwise not used to "mucking" in increases when he is "on his own" with them.

Scary is right... I was away from ds1 for 2 days for a knee op and then for 5 days for the arrival of ds2... and dh coped FINE (and so did ds1).

Even little boys enjoy all boy time with their Daddies!

Aw, Jeremy. I would like to empathise, but I have not had a single night away from my little angels in nearly five years. I can imagine that it is tough though. Have you got some good nights out lined up? I think my instinct would be to round up any/all of my friends and head to the nearest pub. Or go to the cinema and watch a proper film.

OH JV - am I allowed to send you hugs or are you a hug hater? Oh sod it {{{hug}}}

I hate leaving DD at all so I empahise completely. Have some more Galaxy you will feel better tomorrow with a whole new day ahead of you to do whatever you like. Why not plan something nice for their return?

If I was in your shoes I would organise the Nursery and Living room so DD could get to all her toys and I could get to clothes without moving masses of junk first but perhaps you are not the housework avioder that I am!

Oh, you're a lovely bunch...

And yes, on this occasion hugs are very welcome, so long as you dont mind me wiping my snot on your shoulder.

I know he'll be fine, it's selfish really - Its me, but I am still remaining positive about all the joys to come this week though - books, long baths, lots of sleep, unencumbered clothes shopping...might even dip my toe back into my pre-child hobby of coffee-shop-people-watching (jesus - when did I get to be such a rock'n'roller? )

{{hug}} It's ok, i've put on a polythene cape.

Awww...It will go quite quickly, honest. I'm reasonably used to being away from DS for an overnight now and again, but back in Feb I went away for three days leaving him with his dad - I was going to a trading event and at 2 he was just too young to sit in a draughty show hall all day. But there were customers and MoPs with their LOs all the Saturday and I was miserable enough to phone home about 3 times to see what DS and his dad were up to.

Hey, come on, you can get rat-arsed, smoke indoors, watch DVDs featuring your fave fantasy men and shout rude comments at the screen - by the end of the week you'll be suggesting that they make it a regular thing

KM! Dont say that - you'll set me off, my eyes are puffed up beyond all recognition.

It's funny - I've had such a lovely evening really, singing along to prince, painting my toenails, eating crap, drinking beer (I feel so young) but on the other hand my nails look like shit cos I keep crying and smudging!

Aw, JV I'd be bereft too! Think of lots of things you can't usually do and do them all during these 8 days. That'll help!