Newborn won't lie in Moses basket - only sleeping when held.

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Any advice or tips ?

No tips, all mine were like this! It's quite a rare newborn who will sleep happily in a basket.

I had two of these. Co- slept 2nd time around. Research how to do it as safely as possible. Or you could get one of those contraptions where they're in their bed in your bed. Cant remember what they're called.
Hope u get some rest, it's so exhausting!
Congratulations

I've had 4 dc, not one of them settled in a moses basket, into the cot and perfect. Waste of bloody money.

Yep no tips, new born phase doesnt last too long.... I co slept with dc2 so I could function (ish) in life..... good luck. Snuggle up and enjoy.

Yes, DD would only sleep when held for the first 8 weeks. She was fine after that initial time. I think it's quite normal.

DS is 9 months now and still naps on me. I've got him into his cot overnight though. It's a newborn thing I'm afraid.

Tip is just look up safe Co sleeping. My 9 week old is the same even with naps so she sleeps in carrier during the day. My son was the opposite was fine in his cot!

In nature a newborn mammal sleeps with its mother. It’s curious how we’ve evolved to sticking babies in cribs. Can you co sleep for a while?

Any reason why you would want your baby in a cold crib instead of next to you nestling in your warmth?
You'll never get this time back, take it; embrace it and enjoy moaning about sleep deprivation with friends.
Or don't, choice is yours.

I had this too. It was very difficult. In hindsight, I should have not fought so hard to make her sleep alone.

Just throwing it out there that maybe the OP can't co-sleep safely . I couldn't because I have a memory foam mattress.

Anyway, OP, I think this is pretty normal. I had a SnuzPod and used to unzip the side to stay close to DS until he fell asleep, and then I zipped it up once he passed out. I used to use a sling to get him to nap on me in the day.

Sleep deprivation is awful :( but I promise it doesn't last forever.

What happens if they fall asleep on you but you transfer to basket? Putting on white noise (womb or heart noises is good) when you transfer them can help. My DD would fall asleep quite happily on her own in her Sleepyhead and has always been an easy sleeper. My DS who is 3 months tends to need to be held to fall asleep but will let me transfer him now. Unlike PP, I don't want to be holding him all the time, I need space and not to be touched every second! Plus, I have a toddler who needs attention now.

How old is baby? Completely normal. Google the fourth trimester. Somethings that might help

• gently warm the baked with hot water bottle. Remove before placing baby in
• pop a Muslin cloth down your top next to breast in an evening and then pop it in the basket flat for baby to lie on
• Safe swaddling
• use of a dummy
• white noise
• gentle patting on the tummy once in the basket.

Look up the 4th trimester. Your baby is completely normal.

My midwife advised rolling a towel in a c shape and putting it in the basket so it’s around the legs/body (absolutely not near the face). It made my son more cosy and he slept in the basket then, but only if put in it asleep.

All newborns are like this I'm afraid op! In the very early days / weeks we slept in shifts so one parent held sleeping baby while other parent slept for a few hours - swap then repeat! Throw a bucket of coffee into the mix and remind yourself it won't last forever! After the first few weeks things slowly started to improve.

Both mine have slept in the Moses basket and number one was an horrific sleeper.
Wrap in a blanket wait until they’re properly asleep, warm basket up with a hot water bottle, put a hat on the baby and prop the basket up at one end so it’s on a slight incline.

I still co sleep with my eldest but co sleeping with a new born terrifies me, I realise that my personal feelings and choice.

It’s normal but it’s bloody hard work! We used to snuggle our newborn until she was really properly asleep (limbs completely floppy, doesn’t stir if you take a limb and waggle it about) and then gently pop her in the carrycot. If we tried to put her down before she was floppy in those first few weeks, she got suspicious in about thirty seconds - but we used to get an hour or more in the night if we put her down properly asleep like that. Shift sleeping is also great if you can do it - baby sleeps on dad for 2-3 hours in the evening while mum gets some solid sleep, then switch later in the night - but only if you know you aren’t going to fall asleep on the sofa with them.

My 8 week is similar but we are now starting to get 4-5 hours first half of the night and 3-4 second half he's in a snuz pod with the side down thou.

A few things have helped us.

Putting him in when he's awake and happy so he doesn't just wake up in there after being asleep.

Staring a bedtime routine obviously they are to brand new for a routine really so it's more for us but we do bath , bottle and bedtime at the same time every night.

Easy swaddle bag from tommy tipee! Keep him asleep much longer as it stops the startle reflex which wakes him up. We only use it for bedtime sleep not naps

White noise bear ... not sure if this makes any difference but we use one and since we started he's slept longer but that could just him generally developing a sleep pattern

Don't lose hope OP it is absolutely possible for them to not sleep on you. Co sleeping worried me to much so I needed a solution ( I appreciate it can be done safety but for me I worried to much)

I found swaddling helped

It's totally normal. Don't try to fix it. Google the 4th trimester. Your baby has been hugged to sleep for nine months, they didn't want to stop now. They need to feel safe and secure and hugged

Just to say that sometimes the heavy pushing of co-sleeping on a thread can be unhelpful when someone's looking for advice, particularly the near guilt-tripping about "cold cribs". There are lots of reasons why some people aren't able to co-sleep.

My DS was premature, so co-sleeping wasn't a safe option for us. DH worked away during the week so sleeping in shifts wasn't possible after pat leave ended, and we had to get him to sleep alone. I would use a gro swaddle to swaddle him safely. I found them easier to use, there was no concern about his hips with that design, and we'd swaddle him with his hands up near his face so he could get to them for comfort/get his arms out if too hot but his Moro reflex wouldn't wake him (particularly in the early days when he was very jittery). We used to hold him until he fell asleep, then gently transfer him into a Moses basket that had been warmed by a hot water bottle (removing the hot water bottle first), then sit with hands on his chest and tummy or legs, rocking him very gently if he stirred. I also started wearing lavender on my pulse points when I was holding him or feeding him, and we put a tiny amount on the fabric around his Moses basket (nowhere that could touch his skin) and used an aromatherapy diffuser with a tiny bit of lavender in it at night. We did have a Next2Me crib, but he hated it for the first 4 months, I think he found it too vast and felt a bit marooned in it, whereas the Moses basket was more snug, although I did place the basket right next to my side of the bed so was always very close to him. He'd sleep for 3 hour stretches in the early days once he grew used to the Moses basket. Then around 4 months he started waking every 45 minutes during the 4 month sleep regression (that lasted 4 months!!) and I co-slept part of the night with him from around 6 months onwards as it felt safer to do so and he was big and pretty robust by that stage.

I found routine really important (as much as it can be with a newborn!) The nurses in the neonatal unit really stressed its importance, so we always did a bath, a story, feed, and bed, from the day we got home. It seemed mad at the time, but I do think it helped establish sleep cues, and he's now an 18 month old who has slept exceptionally well from about 10 months on.

Good luck OP, the early days can be so tough but you will get there.

Totally normal and will improve eventually. Swaddle suit and holding until completely asleep before transferring helps. Side sleeper cots with side down are better for efficient transfer.

I always found that warming the cot with a hot water bottle while cuddling baby to sleep helped. That way they won't notice the difference between the warmth of your body and the cot.

DD1 was like this. We had an old pram downstairs to use as for napping but she hated it for some reason. (DD2 liked it fine, go figure)

I found long walks with DD1 in the pushchair helped. She would then continue sleeping. She also could fall asleep in a car seat. I think she needed a reason to hold still and then realised how tired she was so conked out.