How do people cope with more than 1 child?

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Serious question😂!

I've always wanted children, always wanted 2 children if i'm lucky enough maybe even 3 but since having my first I don't know how I would ever cope with more than 1!

My OH really wants more than 1 child and he's set on it but of course he's at work all day and because he's self employed the work never stops for him. He helps out a lot when he can and I am so grateful for him as he is a brilliant dad but I can't imagine how it would be with another baby. Just the thought of him being at work all day whilst I'm at home with a newborn and a toddler is terrifying. I feel like I just about have it together with my LG and to add any more to the mix right now would just be a no no! I've asked a few people close to me with more than 1 child and they always respond saying "you just cope" or "you'll have a different perspective one day" and I
honestly don't see how I will. I love my baby and she is the best thing to have ever happened to me and i'm so grateful she's in my life and I would love to have more but I don't know if I could do it.

Has anyone been in this position? Did your mindset change?

@KylieKangaroo Congratulations! There's also 5 years between my sister & I and we are really close. I remember the feeling of knowing she would protect me and that she'd be there, this is still as true in our middle-age. As a mum, it was great that they didn't need exactly the same things at the same time and that the older one can understand/negotiate and the younger one learns to be very flexible. For my eldest, being an older brother is a big part of his identity. I think he's more considerate and expressive because he knows that the younger one needs that from him. He's a teen now but he 'plays' with his brother, educates & guides him. He, in turn, is adored by the younger one and understands more about other people's motivations. They do fight sometimes but not badly or often & they both know how to forgive and how to be the first to reach out. They are each other's favourite person in the world. Good luck!

@straysocks that is so lovely to read and made me feel so much better thankyou! Sorry to derail thread OP

It’s been very reassuring reading this thread.