Hi, my ex partner is disabled and would struggle looking after our kids on his own as he is not independent would it be okay if he visited or stayed the odd night? Would this affect my benefits

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Hi, my ex partner is disabled and would struggle looking after our kids on his own as he is not independent would it be okay if he visited or stayed the odd night? Would this affect my benefits

Depends on how often “the odd night” is. 1 night a week, a fortnight, a month?

Well he has hospital appointments for his Disability where he lives so it's extremely difficult for him to see the kids and would need that help with the kids. Which is quiet sad. I know there isn't a set rule but he doesn't contribute to the house he only pays child mateinance

Surely you have a rough idea though of how often you’d want him to come? I would say you’d probably be okay (and in fact it seems sensible) but without knowing how often it’s difficult to say.

As long as he doesn't contribute to your household and has his own house then it doesn't matter how many nights. Like you say nothing stating how many is ok.

What benefits are you on? How old are your children?

It all depends on what you classify as the odd night

Universal credit, it's a difficult situation because you want your children to see their dad. Nothing has happened in the sense of we haven't agreed to any of this. But it's just sad how he can't spend time with his kids so I said I'd ask people's thoughts on it and find out the rules. Especially when he lives far away

The odd night as in once a week then he goes back home. I don't even know if that's allowed

He doesn't have to stay, he can se this children during the day. Surely they are asleep at night anyway.

Blacktop it's a long journey

A pointless one if they are asleep though.

It would be in the day time he could spend time with them.

I understand that, I just can't understand why he needs to stay over.

Because of the long journey

I can't see how it would affect your benefits. If your a relative like your Mum came for a visit and stayed overnight or even your best friend staying it wouldn't I assume.
He would just be a guest for the night. People have family members as guests all the time don't they? (He isn't technically your family but he is your children's family).

Yes, its quite a sad situation when he's disabled and has his own struggles plus wants to see his children

@whatacrazytime

As long as he doesn't contribute to your household and has his own house then it doesn't matter how many nights. Like you say nothing stating how many is ok.

It’s not necessarily as easy as that. If they find out that he’s been staying at your address then you’re likely going to be investigated. He can have his own property and still technically live with you. You have to be able to prove that you’re not an established couple. The fact that he’s the father of your children and is staying at your house will make them very suspicious, its not going to sound to them like you’ve broken up. They can go through all your accounts to see if he’s paid for anything or if you’ve transferred any of your money to him, they’ll check if he’s using your address for any post, they’ll check social media accounts for clues of you being a couple, they may even search your house for clues of him living there. There’s really no reason to have your ex sleeping over, it could get you in serious trouble

Itsjustabitofbanter and that's why it's always best asking first

Add to that they would more than likely suspend your benefits while they investigated. It's what usually happens.

My ex doesn't have a permanent house right now so he stays at mine when he sees the kids overnight and I move into a friends house !

@blacktop there’s a chance of that too. There’s plenty of couples that are fiddling the system, staying together but having separate addresses so one of them can claim full benefits. If the ex is also living alone and claiming benefits as a single person then it could be viewed as serious fraud for the both of them if they’re suspected to be together.

@Bonkerz

My ex doesn't have a permanent house right now so he stays at mine when he sees the kids overnight and I move into a friends house !

Why doesn't your ex just see them during the day? You not staying there when he does makes no difference in terms of the view the benefits agency will take.

I'm not on benefits. I work full time so that doesn't bother me.
I need space. He takes them out during the week but we wanted a routine where I get atleast one night off a month and this works for us and the kids.
He has no stuff here. Sleeps on sofa and once he has a new house they will go there.

Sorry, I only assumed you were as you were saying that what you do in response to OP question so I assumed similar circumstances. Normally I would not have made that connection.

To the OP. If he has no belongings at your home and it's purely to see the kids then it will be fine I'm sure.