Parents of two and parents of one...talk to me

[summerinthecity22]

Hello... deciding whether to have another baby or not.

My gorgeous DD has just turned 2.

In two minds to try for another baby.

Would love to hear from parents of one and parents of two. Why you are one? What's the positives and negatives? And same with parents of two. I know we can only make this decision but I'd just be intuit hear from other parents....

I don't know whether it's because DD has been sleeping through since she was 18 months and I think it's all so easy now...those early months are long forgotten. I just don't know...

Thank you

I am a fairly new parent of two. My boy was perfect at 2 and had slept through solidly since 8 months (bar illness and teething).
The terrible twos seemed to turn up just as my new one came along. A mixture of the transition to no longer being an only, and his age. The baby has been a dream, but he's 5 months now and he seems to be getting more needy, getting frustrated because he can't move, wants more stimulation etc.
I get no time to myself at all, the 2.5 year old has dropped his nap and has also had a sleep regression since putting him in big boy bed when I took the cot for the baby three months ago. He has been waking me up in the middle of the night, he's worse than the baby sometimes. Stairgate is now installed on his bedroom door and the night callings are getting less and less.

So I guess what I'm saying is don't count on your kid not changing. I think they get a lot more demanding after 2. For me, I really wanted a sibling and a family (having two feels more like a family to me) and it's wonderful to see the bond developing between the 5 month old and my 2.5 year old.

Now comes potty training which I have now started twice unsuccessfully. But you'll probably have done that by the time you have your next one.

Wow...thank you, thank you. I didn't think anyone would reply

So many interesting thoughts here.

I'm still in two minds but as other posters have put ...it's really down to our own experience, situation...feelings etc.

I have one brother who doesn't live close by but when we do catch up it's like we saw each other yesterday-it's an ease.

My DH is the middle child of 3. He doesn't really get on with the youngest and is ok to a point with the eldest. However - neither of these situations will shape our thoughts on having another child.

I do have a career that I've worked hard to get to the position I'm in. There's also a lot ahead of me in my career and I am ambitious. I'm back at work part time just a couple of mornings a week - and I'm really enjoying that. I also get the rest of the time fully engaged with DD.

Yeah...still some considerations. I think lockdown is making it a bit worse. We haven't really been able to meet up with playgroups etc so I worry that DD isn't around toddlers her own age.

Much kindness to you all for replying.