Can he do this?

[MummaJ32]

My son’s father is threatening to change my son’s birth certificate so he’s added onto it without my say so?

He’s only met my son once, when he was 3 months old, not before and we haven’t seen him since. I’ve heard through his family this is what he’s planning?

And also can he take me to court to take my son away? He hasn’t said this but I’m so scared that this is just the tip of the iceberg

My little boy is my world. It’s just been me and him always and I’m terrified

Please help 😥

I think you've hit the nail on the head so to speak KittyHawke80!! (fellow "expert" )

He absolutely should be on the child birth certificate, if you know he is the child father. That is the child's birth certificate, so you should complete it as accurately as possible for them, not you, for your child.

It is a shame he has chosen not to see his child, a child deserves to have both parents in their lives ( unless of course one is a danger to them).

I'm under the impression he is able to apply to the courts for custody, the likely hood if it bring granted is a very different thing.

I accept saying 'Thank goodness someone with a clue has pitched up!' may have sounded a touch supercilious: I was formulating my own post specifically to rebut to two or three bits of unhelpful misinformation from a couple of posters, and had that in mind, but if it came across that I was rubbishing all contributions, then I apologize. For that one sentence.

My ex took me to court after nc for 2 years. He went as far as making appointments at a Cafcass office for initial supervised contact there and just didn't show up..
Dd contacted him at 21. . Tried to have some sort of relationship(as she now had a half sibling) but she dumped him 2 years later..
Calm down op. May all be just talk.

I’m sad my thread has caused a dispute between fellow posters. I will not be commenting further on this thread and wish that no one else does now. Thanks.

Mumsnet doesn’t work like that OP. Anyone can post on your thread regardless of whether you decide you’re done or not.

@MummaJ32 you have nothing to feel sad about. We are all adults on here therefore are responsible for ourselves. This is your life and you wanted advice on a difficult situation so please take comfort in that hopefully you've gained some reassurance and valuable advice to help you more forward with a little more faith in the future