This is negative isnt it?

[Bishbashboom]

Please tell me you cant see a line?

Ds is only 8 months old, and our 8 month old on lockdown has really really been hardwork. I'm due back to work soon, but I'd also just got another offer of a job which was an opportunity in a lifetime.

Theres no line is there, it's my eyesight?

How on earth did you get your head round it?

You will be absolutely fine my lovely

I was going to say negative when I saw your first photo, but perhaps not then! I fell pregnant when DS was 9 months, it was a huge shock and I was on the pill. I was getting stuck back into my career, we could finally start saving to buy a house, etc. so we decided to get a termination. Another baby just wasn't going to work for us in the long term. Were you planning to have more children anyway? Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Oh wow @Bishbashboom! I have a six-month old so I understand what a shock and how anxious you must be.

I think if it were to happen to me, I'd try to see the longer-term positives - your kids will be close in age and after the initial couple of hard years, they'll be able to keep each other amused and play together etc.

However - I probably see things from a very different perspective; DH and I had four rounds of IVF to have DD, so a natural pregnancy would feel like a miraculous gift. I know you struggled to conceive but even so, you may not feel the same way, and that's totally understandable.

I guess all you can do is talk it over with your DP and come to the decision that is best for you and your family. Don't be afraid to put yourself first, either - it's you that will have to deal with the ravages that pregnancy and birth inflict on your body; and then the all-consuming months with a newborn.

Good luck in whatever you decide

Thank you, I'm just so so shocked as between dd and ds we lost 12 pregnancies and I lost a tube with an ectopic so it does feel like a total gift, although a huge massive shock

Wow OP!! And several huge hugs. 🌷

DH is over the moon! Dd is not going to take it well at all

Congratulations! X

What delightful news 💐

Oh wow what a shock for you OP! It might be hard for a while but I'm sure your DD will love having a sibling so close in age when she's older

Aw Congratulations OP! Scary yes but also wonderful. Your dd will adjust, try not to worry about that at the moment. Take care of yourself

I have no idea how were going to do this, I'm going to have to turn down the job which is gutting I revised for months for the interview

The one and only time we have in the last 3 months! Damn DH bringing home champers to celebrate getting my new job!

To be honest I was quite pleased! We had tried for such a long time for our first and it just felt like it must have been meant to be. In my head it seemed better to have another straight away while the whole house etc was full of baby things. I was not as pleased 3 years later when I found I was expecting again though!

Thank you! I do feel like that it's meant to be, I held on to everything of Ds even down to size 0 and size 1 nappies we had left over... everything DH said I was hoarding at the time!

Ahhh see, you knew you were having another!

It will be fine... just give yourself a bit of time my 3rd child was 14 weeks old and I found out I was pregnant again. I didn't tell anyone for ages and it took some time to get my head round it.
On the plus side they will do everything together and it's easier have children who are into the same stuff at the same time.
They are 6 and 5 now and me and dh call them the krays as they are so close (not psychopathic murders)

Congratulations

@Bishbashboom it's a big shock but I'm sure you'll find a way to cope if it's what you want. Lovely news after struggling to conceive in the past

Is there no way to still accept the job?

Cross posted. Didnt realise there was second page

Thank you, sadly not I'll speak to them in time but I doubt it it's an nhs developmental role so it wont hold and was so competitive to get.

Never mind, things were just meant to be this way.

Going to take alot of time to get my head round.

Someone bought us a bottle of very fancy champagne for our big anniversary last year but I didnt drink it as I was pregnant, we were saving it for this anniversary.

Dh just text me and said : that bottle will never get drunk, take it back out of the fridge!

I couldn’t until I turned the brightness up on my phone and then I could, it’s very very faint tho I’d wait a couple days then do another. I had a line like that a few years ago but then I got my period so mustn’t have been pregnant! X

Ooops just read through and seen you 100% are!!! Awww congrats 💗💗 just think tho your daughter will be 18mo that’s a lovely age gap!! Xxx

Op why do you have to turn down the job? Why can't you take it, work till you go on mat leave then return?

There’s 17 months between my youngest two, they are thick as thieves and despite a difficult pregnancy and another section it’s been relatively easy! They are 7&8 now and such wonderful friends!

I truly believe everything happens for a reason. It may not be the way you had imagined but I’m sure everything will turn out well :) hope this is a sticky one for you ❤️