Finding tiny baby boring - feeling guilty...

[Mo2]

I hate to admit it, but I'm soooo BORED already of having a new baby. I'd forgotton what a continuous round of feeding, changing etc it is.
Last time with ds (now almost 3) I had a group of NCT friends and we seemed to while away the hours together, but this time there aren't so many people around with babies the same age.
I tried to spend yesterday at our out of town shopping centre and came back miserable, as all ds2 wanted to do was feed or cry (neither helpful if trying to shop).
Spent today trying to make a trip to the park last 8 hours....
Ideas please... I'm feeling like a 'bad' mother who isn't 'enjoying' her baby....

DS2 is going through a totally unputdownable phase and it's really wearing. Constant b/feeding is turning my Brian to jelly and I'm practically sleepwalking. However, some people genuinely do have easy babies who sleep during the day - unfortunately, I'm not one of them.

I'll repeat what I said. I said some people live sexist lifestyles and repeatedly put forward nasty and sexist views and play that sexism out in their lifestyles. And they do.

I have no idea who this Madonna person is. I couldn't have read the thread properly. If they insulted me or anyone else, I missed it.

And as for worrying about every little noise, I'd be more worried if they weren't making any at all.

JBR, when are you going to realise that "sexism" is simply discrimination based on gender. It has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that a woman may want to give up her job and look after her baby or that a man may happpen to enjoy DIY or of course the reverse. Equality is all about freedom of choice not prescribing what the sexes should or shouldn't do.

Hi Jbr! How are you this fine morning?

Jbr - if by sexist lifestyle you mean the woman doing everything in the house and all childcare and the man working but doing sack-all else, then yes, our house is like that (although I do paid work too) and it's driving me insane. It's grossly unfair and we have problems because of it. But some mumsnetters may be insulted by your insinuation that they encourage and collude with this situation, which is not always the case. Before we had children, our relationship was more egalitarian. Now it is not and there have been a thousand arguments in the house because of it. My friend and I are trying to write a book addressing these issues, exploring the general theme of what the hell modern man is up to. Sorry if that sounds sexist, but I see men as the problem because in my experience, they are.

It isn't just about inequality or discrimination based on gender. We constantly have to question ourselves and really think about why we do what we do.

It is sexist to say a man should do this and a woman should do something else.

Sometimes we impose it on ourselves.

Anyway, I've got other axes to grind. I'm currently composing a letter to the Tory party, all the good it'll do.

They are still blathering on about women should stay at home and that marriage is a MUST for straight people but saying that it's immoral for gay people.

I heard Ian Duncan-Smith going on about the 5 inequalities in this country. I've just added another 2 he can tackle.

:-)

jbr, there's no imposition in our case. I have a good balance between work and home life, dd goes to nursery & gets a lot out of that. dh works full-time and enjoys that too. there's more to life than agonising about 'roles'. of course we're all influenced by society and what others expect of us. but I genuinely enjoy my life and my 'role' as a primary carer for our child. personality-wise (and yes, probably that is influenced by society too - but he is rather 'arty' and not at all 'macho'dh would not be suited to being at home more with dd...and I do. so we're all happy.

jbr, you're dead right on IDS: he's a sandwich short of a picnic, living in another age and keeping the Tories out of power

jbr, good for you writing to the tory party. Labour, on the other hand, seem to constantly blather on about getting mothers back to work. btw, I don't just want my DH to play a particular role/task/job - I'd just like him to do something, anything.

Jbr,

"I'll repeat what I said. I said some people live sexist lifestyles and repeatedly put forward nasty and sexist views and play that sexism out in their lifestyles. And they do."

That is not even close to what you actually said. Now it's been deleted you are bottling out.

Well, you go away for a week and ww3 breaks out on Mumsnet, its taken me ages to catch up with whats going on, tho am still a bit stunned!

Mo2, the only advice I can give is when No2 is acting up or wearing you down is to try and take a step back and think of how you feel when you cuddle him, how important he is to you and his smell, it works for me. I know how hard the first 2-3 months are, but it does get better, they get more responsive to you and you to them. Just wait til his face lights up when he sees you, not long to wait for that now, the time goes too fast. I wish I could stop time noe and keep my 4 month old exactly as he is now.
Sorry if this post drags on but it has hit a chord with me as I felt like that with dd (now 3).
I think Rhubarb echoes others feelings (esp mine).