I've just had an awful experience and despite coming to bed shattered, I now don't feel like I can sleep.
DS is 3yo and goes to bed at 7pm, he usually takes an hour or so to settle and fall asleep. Once he's asleep we check on him and take toys off his bed, etc. Tonight DP is at work and I've been chatting to my sister so I didn't do my usual check. I've come up to bed to find him inside his duvet cover, under the duvet and kind of twisted in it. He was so hot i could feel the heat coming from him before I even touched him. He was sweating so much his pj's are soaking and his lips were blue. I literally had to climb onto his bed and tear him out of the covers as he was so wrapped up. He's fine now but I could kick myself for not checking on him earlier. I'm trying not to think of the "what ifs".
God, both of my children almost died during their births, my daughter had multiple episodes where we weren't sure if she was going to make it and I only said to my sister tonight that today is the first time I actually feel like it's all in the past and I can finally relax and move on. Would it be selfish to take him out of his bed to sleep with me? It's not a long term solution and he'd wonder what the heck was happening but I'd feel better for it.