Babysat by phones

[ABonHawks]

I'm sorry
I really can't stand parents that babysit there kids with their phones
Out and about in buggy in a park and your child stuck to your phone or their iPad
Or put having dinner, and you got pepper pig playing non your phone as rest of you eat
Why can't you teach your child to speak to you about what's going on around then ?
Why can't you teach your child to sit nicely while adults eat? Or do some colouring ?
Why has a child under age of 10 been giving a phone ?

I'm sorry but phones tablets not happening in my household till my child goes to high school simple

Ahhh so much knowledge and experience from 10 whole months of parenting.

So much knowledge actually I watched the bad parents and learnt from their mistakes what I'm not gonna do with my child and that includes giving her a phone to watch at a dinner table or in a buggy when we out simple

Lol how did I know she'd have one child under 1yr 😅

My child is still too young for screens but if it makes certain situations easier then yes, they’ll get to play with it.
I struggle to take your advice seriously with such appalling spelling - I judge that more than screen time.

Oh the pomposity of the mother of one child under one. Wait until they are two then come back to us.

Why do other people's parenting choices matter so much to you OP?

Just find it so upsetting,
That parents have kids just give them phone to save them having to actually talk to their kids

My disabled DD (6 can't walk or talk or comprehend when we talk to her) has been prescribed an ipad with a communication app on it by her speach therapist.

Her tablet (which she has had way before the ipad) gives her so much pleasure and happiness, she watches YouTube kids shows and laughs and smiles at them (and knows her way around the buttons!)

Anyone who tried to take that away from her because they thought their way of doing things was superior, would be told to fuck the fuck off! (she would most likely try to attack you from her wheelchair too, feisty wee thing that she is 😂)

Shove your judgement up your arse love! 👍🏻 😁

You are going to get the flaming of your life here, OP!
I absolute agree with you. We are seeing the first generations of kids who grew up with screens coming through to secondary now, and we can tell. The children have no patience and expect to be entertained all the time. A lot of them seriously lack social skills.

I understand how easy it is to plonk children in front of screens, but you are not doing them any favours.

It’s always the kids of parents like this that rebel most when they’re older. I’ve always found that being a bit more open minded and not being at either extreme in any of my parenting choices works best.

Sorry OP, I don't think anyone is going to take advice on parenting older children from someone with one 10mo baby. Good luck though!

Op watching 'bad' parents and being a parent yourself is different. I applaud you for having high standards but after ten months of parenting you really have only experienced a tiny chunk of what it's all about.

Don't let the choices of others bother you so much or you'll become incredibly uptight. Letting a child watch a screen to keep them occupied while the family goes out for a meal is hardly crime of the century. It's a coping mechanism.

Says you, probably on your phone...

I can't say I'm not judgemental occasionally. As long as I can get away from it, I'd rather keep her away from screens too. But in the future who knows?

What's the point in judging though? You do what you do, they'll do what they do and you'll see which kid comes out better at the end.

We can all judge though, based on different things. Screen time, bad grammar etc.

Why can't you teach your child to sit nicely while adults eat?

Are you a time traveler from the days when children should be seen and not heard OP? Clearly you haven’t met many children in your life if you think it’s that easy!

Whilst I agree that I don’t like devices at the dinner table, who are you to judge how somebody else chooses to parent their children. It’s not really your concern is it.

Maybe learn some grammar and spelling while you’re lording it up on your high horse judging the rest of us as well.

My little boy has autism and ADHD, he has my phone or a tablet at meal times as he needs something to concentrate on otherwise he won't eat because he simply cannot block out what's going on around him and concentrate on eating. This was one of the things recommended to me by a paediatrician due to concerns that he can and will decide to go days at time without eating. Funny enough I think I'm going to go with the trained medical professional who actually knows something about my son rather than some random persons judgmental shitty opinion.

OP. How do you have time to reply if you aren't on your phone or a screen?

Don't judge others. Maybe get a hobby.

You find it upsetting? Don't you find child abuse, famine, violence upsetting then? Assuming you do why didn't you post about those?

I've never understood why

We've been out to dinner and you've got the 2 adults conversing. But the two children watching iPads. Why not converse with them too? Even when my children were really young. Going out to dinner was a family affair.

I don't judge them. If that's what they want to do. Go ahead. I've just never understood it.

However. In the house. It's a free for all! In my house right now

I just didn't understand before lockdown in a restaurant. But reading some of the replies here make sense.

I always say. Life is hard. Whatever makes it better. Easier or happier for you. Do it. Life is gone in the blink of an eye to worry about yourself. Let alone others.

Neither of my DC will have their own phones or proper tablets til they are at secondary school but they both have their own Amazon tablets which are completely potent controlled. They have headphones and I have set a time limit on games, apps, videos etc.

My son has Aspergers and when he is on the verge of a meltdown it can work wonders to hand him his tablet and his headphones. He mostly just plays a colouring by numbers game which chills him the heck out.

Remove the judge pants, they'll get uncomfortable eventually.

Where's your pfb whilst you've been posting on mumsnet then? Maybe keep your opinions to yourself about other people's parenting choices. I'm sure there's plenty things people could judge you for. I honestly don't get why this bothers you so much you felt the need to create a thread about it. There's much bigger issues to be bothered about, especially at the moment.

Ok... I'm going to agree with you that in general baby in a buggy with a phone isn't great. BUT you are just getting a snapshot... you don't really know why that scenario exists that day.
As for restaurants... meh. Again, I wouldn't suggest it as a default, but sometimes needs must.

There are no perfect parents - including you!

OP get off your phone and go interact with your imaginary child.

My pfb didn't watch any tv or screens until 18 months.. but I need some time out when they start to nap less or not nap. He had a speech delay by this point, didn't speak at all. So you can't blame TV. I don't watch daytime or evening TV at all myself. We don't have it on in the background even.

I have at times given my DS my phone in the pushchair, but from when he could he wanted to walk on our daily dog walks and it was soooo slow, so he would walk a bit then I'd bribe him into the pushchair and he'd usually fall asleep. So actually maybe he'd walk 15 minutes, watch 15 minutes of something on my phone and then nap. Now he's older he just walks.

I do see kids doing pokemon hunting I think it is or some other similar thing with phones on walks and that isn't my cup of tea, because they walk looking at the phones But it maybe the only way for them to get any outside time, so I figure everyone is different.

My little boy can name loads of birds and flowers, but he also loves you tube. It's about moderation.