Refusing to buy a rubbish toy

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My daughter gets pocket money each week. Obviously we’ve not been anywhere to spend any money for a while, plus she had received some money from grandparents, so she had £40 saved up. She saw an ad for scruff a luvs and wanted one - I looked up some reviews and most said they really weren’t worth the quite high price (£30 for a large one). I agreed to her spending £10 on a small one. Ordered from amazon. She was thrilled with it, but I don’t really feel it was worth £10. She has now started on wanting the big one still. I have refused to let her spend her money on it. Part of the reason is the quality is poor, but also that she begged for a Furreal Ricky for Christmas and literally showed no interest in it once she had it, so I’ve been burnt before.
She is massively disappointed and upset at my decision and I don’t know how to help her get past it.

If it’s their money, I usually swallow my objections and let them have it. I remember really not wanting DD to buy an octonauts thing after her 4th birthday, as I thought she had enough octocrap. They both still play with it now sometimes, 6 years later.

You need to find something better to distract her with

Her money her choice. That's what children do with toys.
I do understand though to spend loads of money on a toy and think is that it is disappointing but it will make her happy for now.

I thought the point of pocket money was to spend it on what she wants? She's bound to buy junk because that's what kids do. Just let her buy herself what she wants.

So she got the small one and loves it. That's where the value lies, not with your opinion of the quality plot the product. I understand being burnt with kids purchases where they subsequently lose interest but as they have had a taster with the small one it sounds like this could be a hit. I'd let her get it tbh.

'Of the' not 'plot'. Oh for an edit button!

Surely pocket money is there for children to buy what they want (unless really unsuitable of course)

Ds uses his money to. It robuxs, it wouldn’t be my choice for him to spend it on but it’s his money!

I'd probably suggest waiting a bit, incase the novelty wears off.

I remember trying to talk DS out of buying various plastic tat over the years. Things broke, fell apart, and the penny dropped that plastic tat was indeed plastic tat. Let her buy it and learn the lesson for herself whilst she's still young.

I’d let her get it. The quality probably will be crap- our scruff a love was- but if she likes it she likes it. When my dad was tiny she had a bit of birthday money which she wanted to spend a quite terrifyingly ugly owl cuddly toy. I did not want that in my house and she had tons of cuddly toys, none of whom seemed to interest her much. Anyway- she brought it anyway and is devoted to that bloody owl! 6 years on he still is her bed time companion and constant side kick. Yesterday he came on a bike ride with us, sat doing lock down home school and was the star of my kids all animal musical show they put on.

I was like this with my ds and realised that I wasn't giving him the chance to learn a lesson in how to spend his money on things more worthy. If he now wants something he has it if it's his money and I tell him my thoughts on the quality of I think it's not worth it, then if it falls apart he was warned and learns a lesson to be careful with his purchases.

Dd, not dad. Obs. My dad spent all his spare cash on motor bikes.

How old is she? I think either you give her pocket money and let her spend it as she likes, or you don't give pocket money. Otherwise what's the point of pocket money?

Its her money, let her spend it. We all think different things are worth the money, I’m sure she would think some of the things you spend money on aren’t worth it.

I agreed to her spending £10 on a small one. Ordered from amazon. She was thrilled with it,

It's her money! You're not going to get 'burnt' (out of pocket) at all!

How old is she? I let my son look at the amazon ratings and reviews. I explain to him that I would never buy anything less than a 4 out of 5.

I would also show her some other good options. If she still wants it then let her have it. If she doesn't use it you will have it as an example for all future conversations!

Also, try to quantify it, for example for the same money you can buy

I find after doing the above, my son changes his mind!

Agree that if you give pocket money, you let the child choose what to spend it on. There is absolutely no point in them having it otherwise.

Oh, let her have it. It does look amazingly crap, I have to say! But it's a kid's toy, and it's what she's chosen.

Let her spend her money on what she wants - either she’ll love it passeth all understanding, or she’ll learn about not wasting her money for next time.

Either way, don’t tell her your opinion. No one likes a kill joy or an “i told you so”. I still haven’t forgotten my mum saying that she wished she hadn’t let me buy what i did with my birthday money because it was a waste of money (a jewellery box and some Sweet Valley Twins books ) - it took the shine off my exciting shopping trip and i always felt guilty when i looked at those things from then on.

My dd has one

She loves it and sleeps with it most nights. I thought it was shit

I bought her one of the small ones too

However it’s your dd’s money, let her spend it how she likes

Involve her in checking the reviews. Now the first thing my son asks she he sees a new toy is, - can you check the reviews?

I’d let her buy it, it’s her pocket money.

Her money, her choice. You can’t let her choose what to spend her money on and then say no to a particular toy. My son buys all kinds of crap with his money. Latest thing is a Japanese musical thing called an Otamatone (maybe spelt wrong) that drives us all up the wall and was £30 (!!) but he absolutely loves it. If the toy really is rubbish then it’s a good lesson learnt another way!

Her money, her choice. They are absolute shite though.

I’d defo let her buy it, my daughter has one, ridiculous things but she loves it !!

Also some money goes to the RSPCA when you buy them so that’s a plus too!!