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What age do you let your daughter have her ears pierced?

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Scrunchy95 · 28/02/2020 07:43

My daughter is 9, turning 10 in May. Quite a few girls in her year are getting their ears pierced, I assume as a 10th birthday present. She has asked when she will be allowed to have her ears pierced. I’m completely supportive, she should be allowed pierced ears, but it’s my baby girl. She still seems so tiny and it’s weirdly brutal to imagine happening. Then it’s a very noticeable part of her appearance. My gut as a Mum tells me to wait until she is 12 as this is more the cusp of becoming a teenager and a woman. But I remember being her age and desperately wanting to join the crowd with pierced ears. I don’t judge others with younger children with pierced ears this is completely personal. What age do you think it is acceptable to let your daughter pierce her ears? I’m open to influence.

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cansmellfreedom · 28/02/2020 12:37

6 after she asked me herself

MsTSwift · 28/02/2020 12:40

I thought my post was quite funny rather than aggressive! You both come across as rather tense...

SoupDragon · 28/02/2020 12:47

and they look pretty.

Did her ears look ugly before?

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SoupDragon · 28/02/2020 12:50

DD nagged me for years and I was consistent in saying she could have them done between Primary and Secondary school. She did and it was a nightmare - her brothers had to help her faff about getting them in when she had had to take them out! I couldn't do it as something about poking the earring through makes me want to vomit. She eventually got the hang of it.

AudacityOfHope · 28/02/2020 12:51

My DD wanted them done on her 8th birthday so that's what happened.

She sometimes wears them and sometimes doesn't now, age 10.

I'd be less concerned with the piercing than I would be giving her the message that she's allowed to change some aspect of herself when her father says so

sunshineANDsweetpeas · 28/02/2020 12:57

Mine was 11, summer holidays before starting secondary school

Hoppinggreen · 28/02/2020 14:03

soupdragon it’s well know that girls ears are only pretty if they have holes in them, and let’s face it having pretty ears is something we should all aspire to for ourselves and our daughters.

KittyMcKitty · 28/02/2020 14:06

The Easter holiday of year 7. She got a second piercing in the summer holiday between year 9 and 10.

anotherypasswordtoremember · 28/02/2020 14:08

I was 7 and it was a birthday present. Pretty drama free really.

Juliette20 · 28/02/2020 14:10

9.5 Y4 for both of them. I had mine done age 10 in Y4 but am September born.

Reginabambina · 28/02/2020 14:14

I had a really bad experience with ear piercings. My ears grew over my studs. This happened well after my ears had ‘healed’. It started at the back so wasn’t noticeable. By the time my parents noticed they were too far in to remove ourselves. I had to go to hospital to have them cut out. Even if she’s old enough to look after them herself Make sure you check on them anyway.

Juliette20 · 28/02/2020 14:18

Did her ears look ugly before?

I'm not sure if you are being awkward, tiresome, obtuse, or all three at once, but objects just as earrings and other jewellery can in themselves be pretty, and the poster was not necessarily talking about her daughters' ears.

silverperiwinkle · 28/02/2020 14:30

My daughter asked for hers to be done on her 7th Birthday, no issues. They were really good and did both ears at the same time.

MsTSwift · 29/02/2020 08:28

The next battle is cartilage piercing😁 we gave in in that dd1 14. I can’t get too exercised about ears frankly picking our battles!

GemmeFatale · 29/02/2020 11:20

ShriekingBansheela · 29/02/2020 12:46

“Am regretting because DS2 is 9 and wants his ear/ears pierced when he gets to 10”

AuntieStella · 29/02/2020 13:06

Summer between primary and secondary, which seemed to be peak time for all her friends too.

Marcry · 29/02/2020 19:52

I don’t see why pierced ears are a issue? Or grown up? She has said she wants them doing and is old enough to understand the procedure. I would advice getting them done with a needle and not a piercing gun though, not as painful, less risk of infection it’s the safer option. IMO it’s making a mountain out of molehill.

MarshaBradyo · 29/02/2020 19:56

I’m thinking 16 but she’s only 2 and I haven’t got mine pierced so will see how it goes.

cliffdiver · 29/02/2020 19:56

DD1 was 7 (almost 8), beginning of the summer holiday at the end of year 2.

She was too young.

I had to clean / look after them for her and she still can't change them herself.

11 seems like a sensible age.

BeeMyBaby · 29/02/2020 20:00

My DDs had them done for their 7th &9th birthday, I think 7 was a bit too young and 8 would have been better as she would have been able to look after them herself.

HermioneMakepeace · 29/02/2020 20:04

I’ve got a huge problem with it. DD wants hers done but I think it looks common, especially on very young children. It is also really painful and I don’t want her going through that.

greedygutty · 29/02/2020 20:09

snowone · 29/02/2020 20:11

In the summer holidays between primary and secondary school

ParkheadParadise · 29/02/2020 20:11

Dd1 was 3. It was 24 years ago. I can remember coming home, we stayed with my parents and my mum went nuts at me🤣🤣. I'd got mine done for the 3rd time at the same time.

Dd2 is 4 and I don't plan on getting hers done anytime soon.

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