AIBU - first week at childminders and left in pooey nappy - very upset :(

[Firstimemam]

My little one started at the child minders last week and today his nan picked him up, he's not been too well and had an explosive poo which is quite unusual for a 12 months old toddler or at least he hasn't had one for a long time, so when I got him ready for his bath, his bum was completely red including the cheeks and if they had changed him straight away, his bum would not look like this. He's never looked like this since he was born. I'm attaching a photo.

Should I raise it with them? Change childminders? Am I overreacting?

It makes me feel really sad as I believe he should be changed ASAP after having had a poo?

They are co-childminders, so it's two of them there at all times, so it's not like they wouldn't be able to do it.

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Bless his little bum. It might be sore because he's had a funny tummy, but either way it should be changed ASAP. I would be upset too, it's hard enough leaving them with new people. I'd raise it with them. Ps metanium has always been our butt kicking nappy cream x

Was he in a dirty nappy when he was collected? Or was the nappy clean but you think he might have been left in a dirty one for ages?

i wouldn't be happy at all. It looks like he has been in that nappy for ages. Was he sleeping for ages and they didn't want to wake him up?

Poor little guy I wouldn't be at all happy however sometimes this happens to mine even if they are changed straight away. My DD is 10 months and teething and her bottom is very red and raw right now. My son has very sensitive skin and he was often like someone who had been burned

Thanks all! He was clean when picked up, so I don't know when it all happened and how long he was in there but I was shocked and upset when I bathed him tonight.

What's the best way to raise it?

Oh poor baby. He looks so sore.

I'd call the childminder and say "x's bottom looks very sore and red. Did anything happen today? Was there any issues with changing his nappy?" Give her the chance to explain.

It looks like he's been left like that for hours and hours the poor thing.

Was his nappy clean when he was picked up from the childminders by nan?

Ask if they noticed nappy rash and offer cream to be used

If it's the first week I would let it go and just ask them to ensure they put cream on him and highlight that he is really sore right now.

If it happens again then bring it up.

Did you collect him in a dirty nappy? Otherwise I'm not entirely sure you can say he was left in a dirty nappy for an extended period of time, particularly if he has had explosive nappies.
Do you supply the nappies? Or do they buy their own?
My ds wee bum can go like this if he is teething or under the weather. Especially if he has loose stools or more so than normal. And it can be like this even if he is changed straight away. I actually went to the drs about it..
Also though my mum used sainsburys nappies for a while and they definitely aggravated my sons skin.

Bums can look that red if it’s a particularly nasty poo even if changed promptly , if he seems happy with them I’d just see how it goes .

Some loose nappies can be quite acidic and cause a red bottom very quickly even with a prompt change. Just ask her to use a cream you will provide.

Devils advocate here could they have used a different brand of wipes or something he might be allergic to? Poor baby.

I don’t think you can accuse them of leaving him in a dirty nappy.

He was clean when he was picked up.

My DS bum looked like this every time he had an upset tummy. Like something in his poo reacted with his skin, no matter how quickly I’d bathed and changed him.

I’m assuming you provide nappies and wipes so it’s not an allergic reaction to something new?

It looks sore, I would ask Mumsnet to remove the picture though.

I agree with PPs I don't think you can assume he was left in a dirty nappy for a long time. Sometimes babies do get nappy rash. But I think you do need to mention it to the childminders also provide your own nappies in case he has a reaction to the ones from childminder and provide cream and ask them to put it on evey time they change him. I find sudocrem works like magic

Might be best to ask to have the photo removed.

I'd think it was either different brand of nappies or wipes.
Teething or funny tummy could cause this too, and not even if he's been left long.

Aw poor thing. This happened to mine though as sometimes they were in the buggy/car/napping and didn’t get changed straight away, it doesn’t take long to be red if it’s a runny poo. So wouldn’t assume they were neglectful based on that alone. I would probably just say his bum was really red so it’s important he’s changed straight away.

For some reason, this used to happen to my son when he was teething - very loose, acidic poos that would send his bum looking like that even though I changed him within minutes. Poor little mite.

My DD has had a poorly tummy this week and even changing her as soon as I notice she's been, she's still got a really nasty rash. I think her poop is quite acidic at the moment so it doesn't take long to irritate the skin

I have a baby the same age, he’s never had any sort of nappy rash until last week when he did a loose poo (teething I think), and although I changed him straight away he was red raw. First and only time it’s ever happened.
As he was in a clean nappy when picked up, you have absolutely no way of knowing if he was left in a dirty nappy.

Poor fella, it looks sore. However I don't think you can really be sure he was left in a soiled nappy because lots of babies get red and sore straight away from any kind of upset tummy type nappy. I know mine always did. Even though I'd change them immediately their little bottoms would look dreadful. I'd just mention it to the Childminder to make her aware.

Op I completely understand you being upset and your poor little baby. I would raise it with them. But I'm sorry if I come across wrong, but you should try and take the photo off. I dont want to offend anyone so please don't misread my intentions. I hope the chat goes well.

Poor mite. When you ring to tell the childminder that he won’t be in for the next two days you can discuss it then. Maybe he had a poo on the school run when the childminder want able to change him immediately.

Please ask Mumsnet to remove the photo firsttimemam. Just to keep safe. It's the internet remember.
Your poor lad, maybe mention it to her without assuming and keep an eye on the situation in future. Does she seem good otherwise?