All parents should watch this video. Actually, all adults should watch it fiull stop.

[Doodledootoo]

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That actully made me cry

It did have a positive bit at the end, didn't it?

Should be shown over here, would work well at the cinema (not kids' films obv)

thanks for the link, doodle - I was watching it (sound off) when ds (8) appeared over my shoulder - "What's that?" he said, transfixed. Then we watched it together (sound off - much less hard-hitting that way, so fine for him to see), commenting on all the things being copied - and loved the fact that you got a tiny tiny bit, just a little hint, really, at the end of what children should be learning by example. It was that little glimpse that stays with you (if, again, you watch it as a silent movie).

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Thankyou.

That is a very moving and though provoking clip.

Well I thought it was tedious, condescending crap. Look! Bad people! Children copying them! Waaah! Oh, and vomiting or talking on a mobile phone are the moral equivalent of racism and assault... As well as not quite 'getting' the fact that children in violent homes are just as likely to cower and hide as to imitate the violent behaviour.

The vom scene confused me too - perhaps she was still drunk from night before? I just thought it looked like she had morning sickness!

Actually, I found it quite disturbing from the point of view of the kids acting - my DD2 models (OK, hurl the bricks at me now ) and so far she has done "nice" stuff like clothes and toys - when I see little kids in commercials I wonder what I would do if I got called to make her do a scene where she screamed at a cot (even if it was empty as I presume they didn't really make the girl scream at a baby!), or stuck the finger up at someone, or one of those NSPCC ads. I don't think I could let her do it - the money isn't worth putting unnecessary thoughts in her mind (God knows, she's imaginative enough as it is!)

Made me think also of the little things we do that they see and pick up - the times when you are at the end of your tether and you are asking the kids to get out of your way, or being really snappy. Hmm, food for thought.

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I know I constantly need reminding. Didnt have the best example growing up from abusive parents and I am scared that there are ingrained behaviours and reactions in me that I need to be aware of and keep under control at all times. I read ALOT of parenting books and watch ALOT of parenting programmes in a desperate attempt to get it right.

Was trying to collapse DS's allegedly easily collapsible play tent last night and I must have been trying for nearly 40 minutes, getting crosser and more sweaty by the second. In the end I screamed with fury and flung it across the room - in front of my DS. He got up and hugged me and told me he loved me and I felt like complete crap because I know he shouldnt have to see his mother lose it like that over something so small. That video will certainly be in my mind in the event of a collapsible play tent or any other situation where I might be on the verge of losing it in the future.

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I think she was throwing up because she was drunk. I have to say that I remember a lot of moments from my childhood when my dad was drunk and I still hate thinking about now. Being that young and remembering how anxious and nervous it made me feel, I would hate my dd to feel like that.