You know you're done having babies when...

[Mamabear1988]

Just a lighthearted post.
When did you know you were done having babies?

Yesterday a friend announced their pregnancy and I was just like, thank God it's not me! Lol. Guess I'm definitely done then lol

That was me too. When the thought of another actually made my blood run cold.

When I started looking at puppies not prams!!

When I was left looking after my niece as well as my own two, just for ten minutes, at a playground. Youngest ran straight towards the swings, which would hit him full-on. Eldest got stuck at the top of a frame and was screaming. Niece ran straight to the car park looking for her mum. Me, stood there panicking which one to go after first! Could not cope with a third for sure. Done.

The thought of having to walk around for weeks with painful stitches and enormous maternity pads makes you want to run for the hills!

DS is a few months old and I am already very sure he will be my only child.

Some funny replies there - not just me then 😂😂

When I saw beautiful gorgeous babies and was glad they were not mine.

During my 4th labour. I had gone to bed early as I was tired, and woke with contractions an hour later. I felt I was just too tired to have her and didn't want to do it again.

When my surgeon sternly told my husband 'No more children!' after a particularly traumatic CS (placenta previa/accreta) She even offered to 'snip' him herself

I definitely knew I was done, when in hospital having Dd2 and 2 of the other mum's were in my Dd1 class at school. 😂😂😂
I felt ancient, I was 38.

Always wanted another but when my youngest finished primary I realised I didn’t have to do all that shite ever again and it was a joyful realisation. Not felt broody since.

Same applies to birthday parties and softplay.

When I was on the postnatal ward after having DD in September (she's my second), once I was capable of coherent thought I just remember thinking with elation 'I never have to do that ever again!!'

I love both my children more than life itself but found pregnancy and childbirth tough both times and now I am approaching 40 I know for sure I am DONE. No room in our house for a third anyway!

In the final stage of labour with DC2 I thought, thank goodness I never have to do this again!

When someone announced their third pregnancy and someone else thought it was me that was pregnant.

I look at my wrecked and battered house, we carefully and lovingly renovated over a 3 year period, my house couldn’t cope with more kids.

When I’m sat outside the school gates after 2 hours sleep after a night shift picking one up from one school only to leg it off to another to pick the other one up.

When arguing with the little one that shorts are not appropriate in -2 degrees and NO that little flimsy jacket is not going to school today but his thick winter coat is... after a night shift desperate for my warm bed.

When a HCP asks me if I am little ones mum or grandma.....!

When trying to have a bath/wee/shit/ on my own... without success.

Yep...all done thank you and goodbye.

At my six week check when I got the contraception talk. I have DTs and doc said if I got pregnant again, it could be another two and they’d all be in the same school year. My blood ran cold.

When I read someone was pregnant with twins and my first thought was 'I'm so sorry' rather than 'congratulations'.

You start looking on Facebook baby selling sites it work how much (or little) you can get for all the baby stuff.

Unfortunately I have decided that I am just too old to have anymore. I've just had my second at 44 and if I was to wait until he's two to try for another I'd be 46!

When I decided to be sterilised straight after I had dd

When at 46 I'm bloody exhausted from a stressful job and then go home to a tantruming 4 year old...it's just nope I'm done.

I have a 6 year old and a 5 month old.
When the 5 month old was born I was overjoyed and thought I'd have 4 (or 5) children. We designed a house with an architect and I said it HAS to have 5 bedrooms for all the children.
I'm still absolutely crazy about the baby but have postnatal depression and think I can't go through this again and the two I have are enough.

When we had twins.

When others have small babies and instead of 'aww cute' I'm thinking ' you poor thing'. With no family locally and less than hands on husband I found the sleep deprivation so hard, and although I feel more human now it's really hard when events happen that I can only take one to - eg reading activity at school which babies and toddlers arent allowed to go to. Or getting myself to eg a dentist appointment by myself. So trying to juggle three would be even worse. I have a coil but am so scared of having an accident I insisted on the copper coil instead of Mirena so I would know asap if I was pregnant due to still having periods. I would have to very seriously consider a termination if we did have an accident.

I knew I was done when my youngest was a baby. I hated the baby stage and having 2 under 2 was the most difficult time of my life. Same as others have said, when I hear of people expecting or having babies I just think, "Thank goodness it's not me!" Mine are 7&8 now and we are just getting ourselves back on track.

RoLaren that was it for me too - nothing like the likelihood of death from uterine rupture to turn broodiness off like a cold tap.. not very amusing though!

I used to childmind and before that teach am happy managing multiple toddlers, I love kids - but now mine are getting older I know that the three I have are probably the maximum number we can parent well as very distinct individual people with entirely separate individual problems, needs, interests, hobbies and social groups who shouldn't suffer for being just one of a crowd - at least if I'm going to work and have an existence aside from being their mother. At some "peak" times each seperate child needs so much time and attention there's not much left.

After I gave birth to my second daughter I decided that I don't want to put my body through that again.

We would have liked a boy to add to the mix but we've agreed that if the time ever came when we were broody again then we would look to adopt instead.

I've always been very open to adoption. A lot of my family are adopted and I would love the opportunity one day to give a child love and a home that needs it.

But pregnancy wise - NEVER AGAIN!