You know you're done having babies when...

[Mamabear1988]

Just a lighthearted post.
When did you know you were done having babies?

Yesterday a friend announced their pregnancy and I was just like, thank God it's not me! Lol. Guess I'm definitely done then lol

Yeah I had the same reaction as in the op, tbh

I was out shopping yesterday and I heard a woman with a screaming baby... I just felt this cold fear in my stomach... Thank god that's not me!

For me pregnancy wasn't that bad. Just the night screaming, the relentlessness of a tiny child, the changing, monotony, bottles, limited to where you go and when, the tantrums etc.

@Another40ththread - the baby in question is 8 now and her only problem is how to fit in both football and cricket in the. Rise over season April-May time. W dB though she was number 2 and we never intended any more children, her birth really put paid to any possibility really, physically and mentally.

• Rise = crossover

First moment, during long induction: omg what is this hell?!
Second moment, during 1 hour of stitching me back together after 48 hour labour: dear fucking god who would do this willingly?!
Third moment, 5 day old feeding every 2 hours round the clock exhaustion stitches agony in bits: I have ruined my life, this is the worst thing that's ever happened to me!!
Fourth moment, 1 month old: I love my baby more than anything but I will never ever ever be doing this again!!!

I have a lovely 8 year old, my marriage has pulled through the rough small child years, my career is going great. Not a single moment in there where I have even slightly wobbled about having another.

Helps that DH is 100% on the same page, he was as traumatised as me by the whole thing.

Also, my DS has never looked anything but horrified at the notion of a sibling

@WhereforeArtThouManatee I am less than a year in but feel exactly the same way as you. I wanted a child, one is enough. The early stages are just too awful to repeat.

I quite enjoy pregnancy. I don't even mind giving birth...I'd happily do those bits again. It's the remaining 18 years I can't face!

When you watch the trailer for the new BBC programme following families with new babies and instead of making you broody it gives you the heebie jeebies.

When friends tell you they're TTCing their second, or even third, and you say "good luck!" But really think "nooooo don't it to yourself! Its HARD WORK!"

I knew there and then I was done when I was there with my DD haveing my GS. Now I am a grandparent I done.

When I held a friends twins and one threw up and the other had an explosive nappy.

@Bouncer4me

If you are going through this now, please see your doctor now.
I am going through the same but have spoke to my gp. I started anti depressants and no longer have the feeling of waking up thinking "I can't believe I have to go through another day". I'm also seeing a psychotherapist to talk about what I'm feeling now.
I thought it would be hard to see my gp but once I was there it wasn't.
I thought it would be hard to speak to a therapist but it hasn't been. It's bee calming.
I wish I had looked for help sooner, I'm not right yet but I'm making progress.
Please please talk to your gp if you are struggling, it doesn't have to be that hard

The day after my second caesarean!

Both pregnancies were terrible, both caesareans were tough and there were complications with the second one.

I was just lying in hospital thinking “I am NEVER doing this again!”

Im 23 weeks pregnant with my 1st and am pretty sure im not going to do this again

I was on the fence about having more children. Then my period was late and all I felt was blind panic. Turned out I wasn’t pregnant. Thank fuck.

DC3 broke us. We weren’t really planning anymore but after him, there was no broodiness left , just exhaustion. He’s 7 now and we’re still knackered.

When my last pregnancy was so emotionally difficult (due to a previous late loss) , scans were terrifying and giving birth was just triggering. My son was totally worth it but my husband and I had to pull together so hard to support each other through that pregnancy that I doubt we could cope with another.

That and also hearing about my niece and her fussy feeding , she's beautiful, but boy do I love handing her back to my sister!

Sat looking at a new mummy in the cafe with her mum and all the fussing......bag, bottles, flask of hot water, snow suit and the car seat........i had my bacon sandwich and for the first time i was alone......i could have skipped around the store.......!!!

I just think surely theme parks and holiday centres such as centre parcs, bluestone, Disney have their place? The kids always look super happy in photos.

Maybe they do have a place, I have never been to any- my dc are 8 and 11- but they are not necessarily a Christmas thing.

Of course everyone always looks happy in the photos, no one is going to promote photos of miserable looking people.

There’s enough demand on time and money with local/village/school/Cubs events as it is, without trying to force in a Big Day Out.

Wrong thread! Sorry!!