DD fell

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Suffering with eminence mum guilt and need some reassurance please!

DD (6 months) was sitting up, fell backwards and hit the back of her head on the skirting board stupidly googled and it said the back of the head is the worst place to hit! It also said if there's no swelling or bruising it's a bad thing - there's none!

I think she's fine, have spoken to 111 and the GP so know what to look out for but I can't stop worrying and want to burst out into tears

Someone please tell me their DC has done the same and is okay! I beg!

Gosh all mine have done this! They are all fine.

Mine all did this. I never worried about it and the internet wasn't such a big thing then.

All still present and correct. Young adults now with no brain damage.

Oh I remember the feeling the first time they get hurt!

Trust me, it’s inevitable and will only get worse.

When DD was about 3/4 months old she rolled off her bed and hit her head on the wardrobe it was awful. I remember being hysterical (she was upset but fine) and rushing her to the doctor who’s first sentence was ‘ so I hear you’ve been throwing your baby about’. It made me smile and cheer up, accidents happen!

She was an early crawler/ walking so loads more injuries and bruises followed! It’s how they learn.

Don’t feel bad. It’s happened to all of us.

My 8 month old has fallen backwards more times than I can count!

Happened several times to both my children. They are completely fine!

I think this happens to all babies. Please stop worrying about it.

I think most babies have done this at least once!

And every child will have accidents it’s part and parcel of being human. Don’t beat yourself up about it

It makes such an awful noise when it hits doesn't it

Did any of yours come out in a bruise or lump? Just concerned it's saying if there's not one it's worse and the back of the head is supposedly the worst place to hit!

Every mum I've spoken to about it so far has made me feel like bad mum saying they've "never let it happen to one of theirs"

Made me think it's not very common!

Also realise I'm giving off very strong first mum vibes right now

I'm more concerned she hit the skirting board than I would be if she had fallen backwards onto the carpet or something

They're talking shite. When babies start being more mobile, they will inevitably bump off stuff and bang their heads. My DD is learning to crawl and pull herself up on stuff and I'd say she bumps her head every day at the moment it feels like!

The back of the head isn’t the worst at all - that’s pretty hard. The fontanelle and the temples are delicate but not the back!

If something was wrong, believe me you’d know. Bookmark this thread and come back in about 3 years - I guarantee it will make you smile to read it back

Also, the other mums are LYING. There’s not a single baby learning to sit that hasn’t toppled over at least once! In a month or two, your baby will fall off the sofa and/or the bed, and in about 6 months’ time they’ll fall up or down a step. 6 months after that, they’ll fall over EVERYTHING and by the time they’re 2 or 3 you’ll stop noticing!

And the other Mums are mean - why would they make you feel worse about this?

Oh love. My DD is 17m. When she was about 3m she had her first injury and that was ME accidentally elbowing her in the head so hard it made a horrible cracking noise! I felt physically sick. But she was born via ventouse! So don't think even that elbow to the head really compares to the way she was born and she managed that fine!

My DD is frequently covered in bruises and we've had a few cuts, scratches etc too. I've never felt guilty about it, we try our best. I can't keep her wrapped in cotton wool and accidents happen. There was a period when she was cruising but before walking that she was having one head bang a week at nursery.

Every mum I've spoken to about it so far has made me feel like bad mum saying they've "never let it happen to one of theirs"

They are talking self-righteous BOLLOCKS!

When DC1 was weeks old I fell down the stairs holding him & crashed into the door frame with his head. He did bruise, horribly. He was also fine, and has just chosen his A levels.

Nobody LETS their kids get hurt it’s just something that happens. Sorry to tell you there’s going to be a lot worse accidents. My 5 year old fell from top of stairs to bottom bounced off the wall and landed in a heap just yesterday I certainly didn’t LET her these things happen. Doesn’t make me a bad mum and neither are you or anyone else whose kids have accidents it’s perfectly normal. We can’t wrap them in cotton wool as much as we would like to. Stop beating yourself up and enjoy your baby

Thank you to everyone commenting about their accidents with their DC and how they're doing fine now - gives me some relief!

My mum friends are the 'perfect' mums that never get anything wrong and seem to have everything together! I feel like the black sheep of the group sometimes

Oh god you need something like my NCT group. Hugely supportive and happy to admit when any of us struggled or screwed up. Still mates 8 years down the track too.

Anyone whose baby hasn’t done this is either lying or... well, I’d gently suggest to them that their babies aren’t as advanced or adventurous as yours, but not to worry, you’re sure they’ll catch up.

I have 3 children, all did this, not the skirting board but the floor, my eldest, at just over a year jumped off the bed onto her dads back but he moved and she smacked the chest of drawers, she is fine. All managed to tumble down the stairs, my youngest fell over and nearly bit through her tongue, dislocated her arm trying to twist out of her sisters grip when she had a dirty nappy and so many more things. Kids hurt themselves when they are living life to the fullest. Oh and although this sounds a lot my kids are now in their teens so have spread these things out and I am a watchful parent!

@HumphreyCobblers it's the skirting board part that worries me the most! Glad your kids lived to tell the tale.. kids eh who would be without them!

I have three kids and with all three I have cracked their head against the door frame whilst carrying them

I think my 'best' was my 6mo old DD falling backwards and hitting her head on the corner of the brick fireplace.
She cried, she was fine.
She's now 3 btw.

Keep an eye on her tonight, but this stuff happens so quickly that even if you'd been watching at the key moment there's likely little you could have done.

@LeslieYep @HumphreyCobblers oh gosh! They're a lot tougher than we think aren't they

Mine did all sorts of things like this as a baby, he's absolutely fine. I don't know any parent that hasn't had something similar happen.

I know it's easy to say 'don't worry' and much harder to actually do it, but you've done the right thing, 111 and a GP have both reassured you, so try and take on what others have said here, and don't listen to Google!