Dirty bathroom

[Emmajones2517]

So this morning I was cleaning my bathroom when my MIL came over to see the kiddies, to cut a long story short we got chatting and she asked how often I cleaned my bathroom.

I clean my bathroom 3 times a week bleach and scrub toilet, sink,all taps, shower head, shower screen,bath, wash all the towels and bath mats and mop the floor.

She was horrified and said 3 days wasn’t enough and I was lazy!!!!

My bathroom is always clean tidy and doesn’t smell. AIBU to think 3 times is enough or is MIL right and I must do more?

God, I've got a 3 and a half month and only get around to do it every couple of weeks. We are not animals so it isn't disgusting. It will get cleaned properly when dh has a moment to do it.

Tell your dh that he needs to clean more 😂

I clean my bath room once a week! Ignore her and carry on spending your maternity leave focusing on your little ones, as you should be!

@Boobiliboobiliboo that cracked me up!

And she said thats my job as a mother and wife to clean it everyday

[being sick all over the place emoji]

Christ I couldn’t tell you, gets a quick wipe round most days but a proper scrub....hmmm
Hubby tends to do bathroom and kitchen as they bother him more than me and the kitchen is his domain.
I’m hoover mad as floors do my head in lol.

And unless you’re using your boobs or fanny to clean, there’s no reason whatsoever that your husband can’t do it!

LOL

Is this better than one them magic sponges?

NO ONE will ever look back on their maternity leave and wish they’d done more housework. It really doesn’t matter. Tell her to piss off.

@Abouttimemum I’m totally with you on that. Yes I like my house clean but spending time with my boys whilst they so young and before I go back to dreaded work is the most important thing to me. I’d hate to miss special moments to clean bathroom more

I study full time & have a 7 month old, my bathrooms get properly cleaned once a fortnight when the cleaner comes and if I notice they are dirty 🤷‍♀️
If anyone said anything about the state of them I would tell them where the cleaning stuff is....

It is not your job 'as a wife and a mother'. Even if your partner works full time he still lives in the house and contributes to the mess so MIL should check herself before talking to you like that.

SAHM and mothers on maternity leave are literally working the entire day (longer than a 'full time' job), and many are up through the night too with feeds, enough of this 'he works' as if looking after children and keeping a house in order don't count as work (plus recovering from your pregnancy and getting to grips with a new family addition if you're on maternity leave).

Tell your MIL that if she's not happy with the bathroom she's more than welcome to come over and clean it herself if it will ease her mind.

I didn't realise straight away. But she would drink a normal amount. When they went on holiday they would go camping and bring their own toilet. When I asked dh he told me that she will only use her own toilet. She has lots of quirky habits. She hates me. She told me that the day I married dh was the day I split her family. That's why she didn't smile as it was 'the utter destruction of her family '. And I thought she was gaining a daughter...All her friends and family that were at our wedding would have known. So I guess that's partly why she wouldn't use my toilet! Bonkers!

Why are people such cu*ts. Why would anyone say that to anyone?
Firstly you don't ask how often someone else cleans anything. Secondly you are coming to visit mum and kids - visit them- don't inspect the house. Thirdly if it really needs doing - then do it and say nothing about it.
Is there a background cultural element? "And she said thats my job as a mother and wife to clean it everyday" This to me seems ....batsh!t

Fuckin MIL's

You are insanely clean. We only clean our bathroom when we are going to have guests. Enjoy your time with your DCs and tell MIL to fuck the fuck right off.

@LittleSweet omg that is awful and she sound a delight 🙈 I’m glad you still married your Husband and proved her wrong. My MIL was fuming when we got married cuz before I married DH she was the only female with the surname and went mental cuz now I would have same name too. @sillysmiles I know I did think it was very rude but I quickly forgot about that and started blaming myself thinking I’d done a rubbish job at being a mother and wife

@PersephoneOP thank you For that. She always says I must have loads of time on my hands because I’m on maternity and don’t work and I’m like what in between feeding, bottles, bums, baths, cleaning, cooking, taking kids to mother and baby groups, food shopping........ I have all the time in the world 😤😩

I don't clean mine as such. I clean the sink every few days and the loo as I go. Shower/bath is even less

But bath is always cleaned and disinfected after every bath

Really? I have only ever bleached/disinfected bath if one of the DC has done a poo in it.

She always says I must have loads of time on my hands because I’m on maternity and don’t work and I’m like what in between feeding, bottles, bums, baths, cleaning, cooking, taking kids to mother and baby groups, food shopping........ I have all the time in the world

Book yourself a spa day. Leave her with the kids all day. See how clean your house is when you get home.

I do a deep clean of the bathroom once a week (mop floor, chabge bathmat, mirrors etc etc) and then I wipe the sink/bath down and clean toilet every other day, I thought this was a normal amount 😓

I clean the bathroom once a week, if that. And clean is literally a quick wipe around the bath, spray stuff on the tiles, scrub and stick some bleach down the loo.

 @Boobiliboobiliboo

OP definitely use your tits to clean the bathroom next time she's round.

Also, buy a cheap bra and pants and sew a j-cloth, a scrubby sponge and a micro fibre cloth to them. Wrap for her Xmas present. When she asks “what the fuck” explain it’s her job as a wife and mother to clean, so you’ve just combined the required materials together for her.

But I can be a cow.

MIL is taking the piss. Ignore. Once a week is fine. Pretty normal I believe. Unless someone is ill of course in which case disinfectant will be out multiple times and all handles, locks, light switches and anything else touched will be cleaned.
Perhaps MIL is jealous of you and trying to break you so when you collapse after cleaning the house from top to bottom every twenty minutes her son will return to her as you can’t look after him as you’re in bed exhausted.
Or perhaps she’s the older generation who believe if you can’t eat your dinner from the floor you are a slattern. Sod that, I’d rather be happy and reasonably clean but have a life unchained from the kitchen sink!

Feel sorry for her and ignore her stupid comments.