Swearing in front of baby???

[Foxpaws91]

AIBU to ask my partner to not swear in front of our 4 month old? He swears so much, even when talking to our baby and I really don't like it, I don't like it when kids swear but he thinks it's funny when young kids say 'sh*t' and others, which I personally don't find funny at all. Whenever I ask him to tone his language down a bit he gets in a right strop and says I'm controlling him and I'm stuck up and storms off! Am I just being too much of a fanny?

I swear like a sailor and have done since before kids. My 18 year old now says the odd swear word but that's fairly recent. The other kids never say as much as shit. So it's not a given that your kids will start swearing as small kids. It goes over their heads altogether. Funnily enough if Dh ever swears (very rare) they'd pick up on that.

I wouldn't like it either.

I love a bit of colourful language. Can't be doing with mealy mouthed shit. But never ever in front of the children. It just sounds ugly when they repeat it back.
Call me a hypocrite and slap my arse but it's all nicey nicely in front of the kids. (And no-one can pretend they don't know time and place. We all know when to temper our language.)
Once they reach sixteen, all bets are off.

I dont like swearing and neither does my DH.

I just certainly wouldn't like him or anyone swearing around my DS.

I swear in front of my children and they've never repeated it back. I've always told them that they're words for grown-ups to use but not children.

YANBU. It's unnecessary.

I swear in front of my son, he knows not to say it at school etc. Your child is four months, words used aren’t important as long as lots of words and face to face talking is happening.

I didn’t when ds was little but I’ve got worse as he’d got older (and me). He is mid teens now so knows the words and knows not to use them in front of us. I’m not daft enough to think he doesn’t swear in front of his friends.

But hey, he’s a good boy when it comes to feminist issues so I can’t complain.

I'd hope he would tone it down a bit when babys older, but at 4 months surely it makes no difference what he says!

I swear. Dc post teens do moderately and in context!!.
Imo swearing at a dc is never acceptable but in their company isn't a crime.
If it's not your bag Yanbu to ask him to not do it. Say he won't be popular if he sounds like a mini him....

Thanks for the replies everyone, maybe I am being a bit touchy about it, I know everyone swears, myself included, I just really don't like it when he calls our son a f*@#ing divvy and asks if he's had a sh#t

Calling a baby a fucking divvy is awful.
But this is worse :
Whenever I ask him to tone his language down a bit he gets in a right strop and says I'm controlling him and I'm stuck up and storms off!

Can you speak to each other without it ending up with him storming off?

when he calls our son a fucking divvy and asks if he's had a shit well that's not quite the same as swearing in front of your child, that's swearing at them and isn't really acceptable. Would he like to be called a fucking divvy? What would he say if you did?

I have always sworn in front of mine (never at). They are 21 and 17 and I have yet to hear either of them swear.

No we can't, if I say anything to him or try to talk to him, (I'm not confrontational at all, if I don't like something he does I calmly ask him not to do it) he kicks off and says I'm giving him loads of shit and he's fed up with me and my attitude, usually tells me to get out, throws a massive fit and doesn't speak to me for a day or two. I know this isn't normal.

You have a much bigger problem than him swearing and you know it.
Do you think you would be better off going it alone? Do you want your baby seeing you being treated like this?

I’ve read your other posts. Please make plans to leave him. He’s abusive to you. Go to your family.

I know, he keeps saying he will change but he never does. I'm just scared of leaving and starting again I suppose. I really don't want my son seeing how he acts and thinking its normal, he has an older son from a previous relationship and he acts the same and it's awful.

I think you’re perfectly within your rights to tell your DP to kerb his language in front of the DC.

Go. Before your son ends up emotionally damaged.

Calling your baby a effing divvy is not nice. I’d be very upset by this. Asking if he’s had a shit I could cope with but as the baby is 4 months I wouldn’t be too concerned but I’d be nipping the divvy comments in the bud straight away

The swearing in front of a 4 m old baby wouldn't bother me, i.e WTF is wrong with Rees Mogg?!? But I don't personally like casual swearing or vulgarity around bodily functions such as has the baby done a s or I'm going for a p. That's only because I would find the guy speaking like that a gross turn off and wouldn't imagine wanting to sex him!

Your partner sounds awful, I'd get out now.

ive never ever sworn at my child/called them etc - ever. just a completenogo fromme

i do swear though "in front" of them. Kids know they are grown up words and not ok to use.

i hate parents who call their kids divvys or whatver. the worst mine called called is a monkey!

He needs to get a handle on that, your baby will be verbal in the blink of an eye. Hopefully he isn't directing swear words at you or anyone else, that isn't OK.