Step children

[girlintheglass]

Hi all - some advise wanted please. Have step son aged 10. with DH for 9 years. We have 2 x DC together.
Step sons mother is insisting that DH take DSS out on alone trips when he is with us. DH says no, we are a family I wouldn't leave any of the kids behind. Is this something you all do? Do you give special trips out to each child individually? It's not
Something we do just wondering what the general thoughts are?

We are talking about broken families ie where 1 biological perent is not apart of the home. In which case the statistics state that a child who sees the biological perent on a weekend basis is more confused then a child liveing with a step perent on a full time basis. It's a fact my dss is a well educated man who is an astate agent who also gets a very good wage. If his mother had of been involved in his life he would of been questioning everything and he would not been as successful. The point I am trying to make is no matter what the law says you can not share a child between 2 homes and there not be any conflict it's impossible. Love is so very strong when it comes to our children and sometimes step perents get a bad reputation for picking up the pecies especially step mums. I would not like to be a part time perent. ALL OR NOTHING That's how it should be

Yes I think they should blended family or not.

It's not a trip to a theme park we are talking about but yes time to colour, do a jigsaw etc or reading their favourite book. Taking them to an afterschool activity etc.

It gives 10 minutes to have a chat and connect.

I dont think that is unusual and most families do it but add the word step child into the mix and all of a sudden it is.

Her demand of a weekend day a week when it is pretty much 50/50 and the context isnt but considering all the children's ages and your posts I'm sure it is happening just in a much more casual way.

All kids need some 1 on 1 time, the ex's request is perfectly reasonable.

Perhaps he could have a one on one trip with your stepson, so his son gets him all to himself. It could be that your stepson doesn’t always want to share his dad, and would appreciate time alone with him. However, your DH is right that you and your other children are a family now.

I wish people would read what OP says. The child doesn't want one on one time. His mother made it up.

Thank you @DriftingLeaves