need virtual shoulders to cry on - am really sad and teary and guilty and bleuuurgh about ds1 no longer being my only one

[Tutter]

that's it really

ds2 12 days old

am finding it hard to adjust - not to ds2, he's a breeze - but to my changing relationship with (and lack of time with) ds1

Soupy, I always love pics of your kids They are so photogenic. i cant ever imagine the ds's looking like that though; ds2 will be 17 months forever, I'm certain of it!

DS1 isn't really 8, he's still only a baby...

It was honestly only when I watched the montage that I realise I'd done a Good thing giving him a brother. And now a sister.

wow, i rmember feeling that way. vaguely. (hey theres not a helluva lot of sleep happened between then and now).

it gets better.
definately.
he'll be chuffed to bits with having a brother. not yet, no, but before you know it.

Soupy - love the mirror pic, it's gorgeous

Things will change Tutter - I felt the same with DD's, there is 2 yr 4 month gap and suddenly DD1 was no longer my baby

Ohh Soupy, that kept me busy for a while What amazing pics, beautiful, beautiful children.

Tutter, as I nuzzled DD2's tummy this evening and she screamed in delight I told her she's always be my baby. She bopped me on the nose and ran off laughing!

again... I only posted it because I vividly remember the light dawning that they were brothers. (I have, however, been spurred on to replace some of BabyDragon's photos for more up to date ones )

Tutter this really resonates but it WILL pass.I had a 21 m gap between ds1 and ds2. I did feel a bit of an emotional "distance" between me and ds1 in the very early days...much to my sadness, as we'd done everything together and he was my lovely baby etc. But the thing is, ds1 sort of understood. This is weird considering how young he was, but i clearly remember putting ds1 to bed when ds2 must have been 6wks old max.,(as I'd kept this up, preferring dh not to do this one thing given he'd by necessity taken over so many other things with ds1).

Ds gave me his usual cuddly hug and said "Mummy you,re back". The odd thing was I'd felt over the previopus few day s that I was sort of coming back emotionally, realising there was plenty of love and time for 2 little boys. Ds1 definitely sensed the change and was so loving...

Another day around the same stage we were out with the boys' double buggy and bumped into an old neighbour who hadn't realised I was having a second baby. Ds1 was SO proud to announce to her "This is my [ds2's name]", and patted him calmly.

12 days is very early; you will feel better very soon.

Oh I now have 4 children; we have 6 bedrooms here but tonight 3 of them are sleeping in the same room because "it's a bit like camping and we want to talk" .

omg soupy - that montage is gooooorgeous. what fabulous little boys you make.

soupy that is loooovely

More wailing here... thanks Tutter -- great thread - making me cry a lot but some really lovely posts (my DDs are 3 weeks and 3.5 yrs)

Tutter, I've got 21m between my DSs.

I was very surprised by how big DS1 was the first time I changed his nappy after DS2 was born.

And then surprised by how small DS2 was when I did his after doing DS1's.

I love having two now. It was hard for the first year but now DS2 is 18mo, it all seems MUCH easier again.

One thing I really love now is they play boo with each other when they're in their car seats - they're starting to have their own relationship now and I love catching them giggling with each other. Unfortunately it can be because DS1 is sitting on DS2, but hey, it's all about them finding their own way to relate to each other...

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You're doing really well.