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How many weeks after birth did you have sex?

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BadBehaviour · 30/06/2019 00:06

How many weeks?

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Yogurtcoveredricecake · 30/06/2019 07:25

Over a year. Episiotomy and forceps so completely battered fanny to content with.

GMtoBe · 30/06/2019 07:26

9 weeks. I had a forceps delivery and episiotomy and at 9 weeks my scar had healed so I wanted to give it a go. It wasn't until 15 months after the birth that sex felt 'back to normal' again.

Verily1 · 30/06/2019 07:28

10 days.

Easy births. No tears etc.

It felt like ages!

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ClownTent · 30/06/2019 07:30

Three weeks and it was a mistake!

firstimemamma · 30/06/2019 07:37

11 weeks (straightforward birth, second degree tear).

icannotremember · 30/06/2019 07:40

3 weeks, 10 days, 7 weeks

userabcname · 30/06/2019 07:54

About 4 months. Had a 3rd degree tear that needed time to heal and we took it very cautiously the first few times.

Zippetydoodahzippetyay · 30/06/2019 08:31

8 weeks after both births. But it continued to be sporadic for a long time. To be honest not more than twice a month for quite some time.

sugartitz · 30/06/2019 08:36

Within about three weeks for my first two and then 6 weeks after my last one - I had a third degree tear

LittleCandle · 30/06/2019 08:39

4 weeks after first baby because XH pushed me into it. It was horrific. I don't remember after baby 2 but it was a lot longer than that! I had tears and an episiotomy both times.

PepsiLola · 30/06/2019 10:08

First baby, third degree cut/rip/tear, waited about 2-3 months and even then it was painful.

Second baby, no issues, had sex about ten days after and it was not painful.

Anothertempusername · 30/06/2019 10:11

8 weeks; episiotomy, forceps & 2 2nd degree tears I wanted to heal first!

TooOldForAllThatShit · 30/06/2019 10:21

1st pregnancy - 6 weeks, by the book, but still painful as episiotomy and 2nd degree tear so left it for a few months after which it was all systems go!
2nd - 6 weeks again no tearing but thems the rules!
3rd - about 2 months, c section and twins
4th - 5 days. Very quick VBAC, no pain afterwards, only small amount of spotting after day 3, and I was desperate. Very odd as we'd had sex up to my due date so not like we hadn't had it for ages. It was really good as wellBlush. DH refused at first and his face was like this Shock through most of it!

Luxembourgmama · 30/06/2019 11:25

5 weeks but I felt great and wanted to from two weeks. I wasn't breastfeeding.

Luxembourgmama · 30/06/2019 11:26

I had a pretty bad tear (3rd degree) and an episiotomy but it was well stitched up I felt surprisingly good.

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BadBehaviour · 01/07/2019 01:20

Thanks for all your replies! Wow! I’ve waited 9 weeks and it was pretty painful I wasn’t sure if it was too soon. I had 3rd degree tears. Reassuring to know a lot of people waited a few months.

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Deadringer · 01/07/2019 01:26

1st baby I had an episiotomy so waited 8 weeks, 2nd baby 6 weeks, 3rd baby 4weeks.

BakewellGin1 · 01/07/2019 01:27

Approx 9/10 weeks following failed vountousse efforts and delivery on third attempt forceps. Both myself and baby were battered and I had an episiotomy and third degree tear.

I was terrified to be honest but it was pain free at that point (although could have been helped by lack of feeling I have down there) it's gradually returning and at 15 weeks sex feels more 'normal' and enjoyable again...

LaurenElizabethJayne · 01/07/2019 08:53

10 weeks post partum and still haven't. Not through lack of wanting...I had an episiotomy and vacuum birth so things have taken a while to heal. It's been a combination of that and I haven't got contraception sorted yet (on a waiting list for the coil) and then also being busy with the baby or trying to get sleep when she's sleeping at night.
We have done other things - just not intercourse yet.

Babdoc · 01/07/2019 09:02

Three weeks. Episiotomy and a tear, so needed to heal first.
DH was v reluctant as he was afraid of hurting me, bless him, but I was desperate by then. Our previous shag was what put me into labour, so no sex for 3 whole weeks was as long as I could stand being deprived!

I’d recommend taking it very gently, with plenty of lube, and you on top of DH so you are controlling the movement.

Mummoomoocow · 01/07/2019 09:16

Still haven’t 17 months on

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 01/07/2019 10:39

3 weeks

futuremrsconnor85 · 01/07/2019 11:36

About 7- 8 weeks. I had a third degree tear and was bleeding for 6 weeks.

Buyitinbamboo · 01/07/2019 11:41

The day before my 6 week appointment, I remember because I had to ask for the MAP Blush. I wanted to at about 4 weeks but I was still on and off bleeding and had a 2nd degree tear so wanted to make sure it was completely healed.

MonkeyTrap · 01/07/2019 12:25

I had a third degree tear and episiotomy, we were just over three weeks. The first time wasn’t the most pleasant but it was awful. Think this is very much down to the person.