As some background, I have a very difficult relationship with my mother. My parents had a terrible marriage and they finally split after 29years of marriage when my sister and I were just entering our 20's. Someone suggested that she may have narcissistic tendencies so I started reading up on it and I can definitely identify traits.
My terror is that I am also a narcissistic mother. I have 3 boys (1 is a newborn) and for example, I get them to help with chores. Just small things like dishwasher each day and put away clothes but this came up on the list of traits. The older 2 also play sports competitively and the younger of the two has been selected as showing particular talent. As such, he receives private tuition whilst my oldest doesn't. He would like to but the coach wouldn't support that but supports his interest more generally . This was highlighted as favouritism and again narcissism. I guess the biggest thing that stood out was asking children to pay for things and I have done this in the past... on their sport rather than fill the house with plastic nonsense...
But am I completely falling into the trap?!? I have really suffered as a result of the parenting I received - am I now just blindly repeating the cycle? I am devastated to think this might be the case! Is even posting here narcissistic?? How do I fix this??