Need advice on 10 month old weaning

[babies4everx]

Yes I know I should have it all figured out by now but I don't 😣
My dd is 10 months tomorrow, and so far from what I've seen other parents doing with food etc she isn't having anything like that.
I don't have a time frame, eg when she has snacks when she has dinner when she has tea etc. It's all muddled up and tbh I know it's not good. I do need a routine for it. Also the problem is is when I do offer food it's like she isn't really interested but when I offer milk she loves it (she still has 5 a day, I am trying to lower it a bit) she's just had two spoons of chopped up pasta and sauce and that's all she wants, im now going to give her some milk, but is it normal for a baby who's nearly one to not be as interested in food as I thought? Can this make her ill not eating food enough??i feel like I've done this all wrong😰

I try to do a routine but if she isn't hungry it can't stay in a time frame if that makes sense?

Any1?

Please stop worrying, you sound a lovely mum. There’s no need to worry too much she still getting all she needs from the milk. Start weaning slowly just giving her small amounts to start with, just a little on the end of a spoon. The good thing about leaving it late is she can have almost anything. Let’s say you start tommorow at lunch time you have a baked potato take a very small amount mash it smooth with her milk, or a jar . Be patient she may spit it out just laugh and try again, never make an issue of it. Give the milk and try again the next day. Buy a good weaning book from amazon. Once she’s used to different textures and managing bigger amounts start on lumps and finger foods. If you stay calm and enjoy the experience of finding out what she likes by all those funny faces you’ll both enjoy the experience. It’s not a competition so don’t fall into the trap of comparing with your mates, go at your own pace. Most of all don’t feel guilty and enjoy.

@Marmalizes thank you for replying to me I didn't think anyone would. That's relieving to hear. I just assumed by this age it should all be a routine etc and she should be having so much a day, even if she does have something to eat she will only have maybe 2-3 spoonfuls (depending if she likes what I've gave her) should she be having breakfast first in the morning then her bottle? Or is it supposed to be bottle then breakfast?

My DS didn’t have any quantity of anything until over one. Not reliably on 3 meals until 18 months. At 3 he’s now a good eater but in no way motivated by food and only asks for food if he’s really hungry (if we are out and skipped a meal for eg). He’s following his growth curve, no concerns. They’re all different. As a first time mum I tied myself in knots and wasted so much food! Wish I could go back and tell myself it would all work out fine!

Well you don’t want to start the day stressed or struggling to feed a hungry baby solids , so if she wakes fairly early then start with a cuddle and milk but cut the amount of milk by a little. Then once your both dressed and your having your breakfast sit were she can see you spooning yours into your mouth. Give her her own spoon (girls are notoriously independent in a I'll do it myself sort of way) put a tiny bit in a bowl and allow her to copy you and see what happens. It’s not so easy if your in a hurry and have to go to work if that’s the case nursery staff should help. Honestly if your eating fairly health food there’s no reason you can’t give her a taste of what your having. We think babies like bland food but that’s not always the case. If your eating an orange squeeze some of the juice into her mouth, gravy on your dinner give her a spoonful, your veg softened with butter. Within a month when she’s used to solids start with a bottle then when your ready breakfast with drink, then lunch, then a bottle if she still needs a nap. Dinner with a drink then best part of your day bath, milk with a cuddle n bed honestly it’ll be fine. Pick up a leaflet from health clinic or ring health visitor and ask for one to be posted

@moreismore I've wasted loads of food to!

@Marmalizes thank u. I'm still in my teens so I'm still learning everything as it comes along. I'm glad that she's drinking her milk if anything otherwise I'd definitely be worrying

I just cut down on bottles. At 8 months I cut down to three. I also ignored the advice on here about giving milk first, then food - they need food at this age as milk wont be meeting their nutritional requirements for things like iron.

Once my son’s milk intake was reduced he ate more because he was hungrier.

Also, you’re still in your teens? You sound like you’re doing fabulously, and like a really attentive and careful mum. Weaning is a pain, it was a mess when I did it too, but ultimately it’s not a big deal and in a year or so you’ll barely even remember it!

My 10 mo hasnt really shortened on her bottles but this is the routine i have managed to sort for her..
up and dressed with breakfast about 8-8:30 (heinz baby porridge) then i will give her a bottle at some point after her breakfast usually about 10 am which makes her drift off for her nap. Then 12-1 pm i give her dinner (ellas kitchen pouch, started off just giving her half a pounch now she has a full pouch)
then another bottle for her about 3pm for her afternoon nap. Tea about 5:30pm (again another ellas kitchen pouch or jar and then some desert after if she wants it) then another bottle for bedtime at 8:30pm. Hope this helps?!

@FartnissEverbeans thank u for ur reply. I'm 19 so not to young but still find myself stuck sometimes😂 she had 4 bottles yesterday instead of 5 so I thought that was a step forward. I am going to try see if she does the same again today and then in a few weeks have it down to 3 maybe once more foods are being eaten

@boboo18 I also give her Heinz baby porridge in the tub, she prefers the blueberry one I have the peach but I don't think she likes it, it does seem a bit plain so I've not bothered using it anymore

@boboo18 yeah that helps thank u! I will figure it all out eventually I hope 😂😂🥴

2 spoonfuls is more than you think for a little one. She's now at a point where her growth is slowing down, so will eat a bit less. I'd forget baby food and give her bits of yours in her tray. Mine adored toast and cream cheese and cucumber sandwiches at that age.

@Mabelface is it?? I thought she was supposed to be having 4-8😬 that was classed as one serving I read somewhere

If your baby is happy, healthy, gaining weight and energetic, she's getting enough. Look at what she has over a week rather than a day. It's probably more than you think. Her stomach is only tiny. These babies are really good at self regulating what they eat.

@Mabelface thank you! Yeah that's true. She will eat what she wants when she wants x

There you go. Enjoy your little pickle, she'll eat you out of house and home eventually.

My 8 month old has a routine with food because I also have a 3 year old who has set meal times.
I give porridge and a bottle in the morning 7.30-8, he will have lunch and another bottle around 12-1, a snack in the afternoon, dinner around 5.30/6 and then a bottle at bedtime. He dropped his milk intake himself, and eats lots of food at meal times. With my first he was probably having more bottles and less food at this age, but ds2 seems to enjoy food a lot more. Every child is different. If she was hungry you would know!

@MagicKingdom thanks for ur reply also☺️ thanks to all of these replies I feel more confident that all is going well and it is all normal. As said below she will probably eventually eat the cupboards out as she grows 😂

oh good! yeh my DD loves the banana porridge or yogurt for breakfast! sometimes i just hive her rice cakes for breakfast too! you'll be fine, im 21 and feel like people judge me for my age but we all start somewhere dont we xx

@boboo18 I didn't know they did banana flavour. Will have to look for that😁 and yes we do! Being young doesn't mean U can't be a great mum, I love it x

Can people please stop saying 'they're getting all they need from milk anyway'! Not from six months they're not!
Sorry, op - I just see that comment a lot and it's just not true. Don't stress but do try to work towards 3 meals a day sooner rather than later. Good luck!

No one on here said that.