Bedtime for a 9 month old? Is this late?

[ginandtonic78]

For 9 month old nearly 10 months to go to bed around half 9 10pm latest? And get up at 8:30 or 9isham?

It's very late for mine. Ds would have been in bed by 7pm at that age but would have woken earlier. I went back to work when ds was 9 months so him getting up at half 8 / 9 am wouldn't have worked. Plus I liked my evenings childfree!

I'd say that is late but my dd has gone to bed at 7 since 6 months old, and she wakes up naturally atound 8:30/9, but i wake her up at 7 in the week for nursery.

I started an early bed time as me and dp have our evenings together without dd, i think its important.

It’s very late.

My 12 week old is just settling just now.

Is there anything I can do to get her to sleep earlier? I have no time really with my partner anymore and it is showing, I love my dd but need some time for myself and dh too

Dd is 10 months and she's currently in bed at 18.45. She will wake through the night a couple of times for a cuddle and is an early riser but then she needs to be as we have to leave the house at 8.30 ish to walk her big brother to preschool.

I'm a big fan of early bedtimes to keep myself sane.

Start moving your routine back by 20/30 minutes every night.

I'm a big fan of early bedtimes to keep myself sane.
Totally agree!

If I get her up at 7:30 am tomorrow will that kick in a better routine? Even though I know she will need maybe longer naps from getting up early.

It all depends. She is waking up quite late in the morning. Mine both went to bed by 7 at that age but they were always up at about 6am. Also how much does she sleep in the day? When does she have her last nap?

If you want her in bed for the night earlier, try getting her up earlier one morning and make sure her last nap is finished by 3pm at the latest. Then she should be able to sleep for 7pm.

8 month old DS is still not going to sleep until between 9 and 10. Is like it to be earlier, but he's just not having any of it! I'm not too worried as when he does go to sleep, he's normally asleep for the night and waking around 7/8.

Complete opposite to DD who wouldn't sleep until half 9 and then would be up every hour and a half.

I mostly just count my blessings that I got a sleeper this time!

It is late, but with a 9am wake up that’s a 12 hour sleep roughly, which is perfect. Agree with sexnotgender, gradually shift the routine earlier. This might include waking dd up 15 minutes earlier just to get her on track for the day.....then shift it again every couple of days.
Totally agree on needing your evenings, it’s so necessary to maintain good relationships/mental health! I’m a big believer that for children to be ok, parents need to be ok! Good luck!

Mines being going to sleep between 6.30 - 7pm every night since he was about 5 months (his choice!). Wakes up for the day about 7.

My daughter was just like this, she was always up until about 10pm,if I tried earlier she would treat it like a nap and then end up even later. She's 1.5yrs now and will stick to a normal 7/7.30 bedtime so long as she doesn't nap too late, but nothing I tried worked until she was over 1yr (can't remember exactly). So have a shot at others suggestions but if it doesnt work then you might find it changes in a few months anyway (around when she dropped her 2nd nap)

I'm another who feels I need my kids out the way for an evening of peace. Ds1 is in bed by 7 then dd 4 is in bed by 7.30. Both rise about 7.30 which is great for having to get dd ready and to nursery on time.

I don't think it's too late. My 9 month old has a similar bedtime and wakes up around the same time too. It would be too late if we had to be up earlier in the morning.

My daughter would never be sleepy this early. She was never a 12 hour sleeper either. Even at primary school I was lucky if she was asleep by 8.30. Nothing I tried would make her go to sleep any earlier. On the rare occasions she fell asleep early in the evening, she would wake up at 11pm and be awake for several hours.

Unfortunately, at 18 she is now under the CFS team as she needs too much sleep these days.

I had DD with me all evening and then we’d co-sleep. Since I have been putting her to bed at half six my life has changed! She does normally get in with me around 4 and 5 but we doze until around 7. She also naps for 2.5 hours a day which gives me some time to get things done.

Completely sympathise with needing time in the evenings for yourself or your DP, I started feeling like that when mine was only about 4 months! 😂 My DD is almost 10 months now and since she was maybe 7months her typical bedtime is between 6.30 and 7.30pm depending on when her last nap ended.

When does your DC typically nap in the day?

I agree with PPs that gradually changing bedtime/wake-up time by 20 mins a day would probably work.

Literally every kid is different, but I know with my DD if I wanted to change her bedtime I could just do it straight away without the gradual change, might be worth just trying that? Keep your DC awake instead of having their last nap maybe (it will be shit) and then they'll conk out earlier for you?

I also totally get what another PP said though and some kids won't play ball. I'm very lucky that I have a girl who is easy going and will pretty much go along with whatever the daft adults in her life fancy, but a lot of kids can't do that/decide on things for themselves like being a good/crap sleeper, or when and where they will sleep and there's not necessarily much you can do 😕 I hope things work for you!

The thing that strikes me isn’t the late time to bed but the late time up in the morning. Maybe because mine have to leave the house by 7.20am for nursery but that seems a really late wake up time

I was exactly the same as @BelulahBlanca !!! We coslept until she was 6 or 7 months and it was lovely but lonely, I'd just be up there breastfeeding and reading my kindle for hours and hours so she'd go to/stay asleep!

Since we moved her into her own room I have missed her a tiny bit in bed but the relief/space/mental shift from being with her 247 is wonderful!!! She's also sleeping through now for like 12 or 13 hours, again though, I have no illusions, I think we're just very lucky and it's not down to much that we've done

My little one goes to bed at 8pm and gets up at 6:30 , my god daughter has a similar pattern to you though which works for their family .
If it works for you then great , for me I would rather have some evening to myself than the morning but aslong as baby is happy then it really doesn't matter

Its 9 months old ffs its not like she has school in the morning , if that time works for u just keep it

OP at 9 months old i just started putting dd to bed at 7, pulled blinds/curtains so its pitch black, did bed time routine of milk and story and off to bed no problems.

Make sure her afternoon nap is earlier so she'll be tired.

I put my dd to sleep at 6 the other day, no problems

Hi all thanks for the replies! She naps around 12 and then 3ish or 4 so maybe I am going wrong there ? I think I just need to get her up earlier. All though yes she doesn't have to go anywhere in the day but I have no time with my partner really what so ever so it would help, also when she does go to nursery it'd be good to already have the routine ready

12 is late for the first nap.

On weekdays My dd naps at 9:30am for 90 mins then at 2pm for 2hrs ish.