What's the worst thing a random stranger has said about your DCs?

[mamadoc]

My DD 3 months is a small person weighed 5lb 4 at birth and steadfastly growing along 0.4th centile since. We have a lot of conversations with interfering old biddies on buses like this:

IOB: Ahh what a tiny baby how old is she?
me: 3 months
IOB: Gosh really she's very small
me Uh huh

but yesterday someone went one further

IOB: Did you smoke in your pregnancy?
me: speechless at the rudeness.

How I wish I had said not unless you count the crack!

and miracle grow in his milk of course

At the bus stop, Random ignorant cow to me: "Oooh she's very spotty isn't she? has she always had bad acne? Have you tried such and such?"

Said to me across my very embarrassed and hurt 12 yr old DD. I have never, ever wanted to hit somebody so desperatly in my life.

"Ohh isn't her hair a lovely colour...." Red haired me strokes red haired dd's head proudly..."You wouldn't want it yourself, of coures, but it is lovely!"

It is almost funny now but my sister's description of my first new born baby as a "scrappy little thing" cut me like a knifen

knife

my sister is pretty much a random stranger!

Oh Henie, that's awful. Your poor DD.

I got a lot of comments about how tall my dd was for her age some of which sound almost accusatory as though I stretch her on a rack at night. She just has a long body combined with long legs. She'll make a great catwalk model later .

The comments that really hurt though were when she was a toddler with fairly short hair (as most toddlers tend to have) and old women in particular would assume that she was a boy simply because she was wearing blue shoes. Even though they had flowers on .

Once when Ds was 3 and in the double buggy (he has CP) this old man stopped me and told me that 'he shouldn't be in a buggy, he should walk' I replied that he has Cerebral palsy and can't walk that far. He then said said 'whats that' I said 'brain damage' and he said......... wait for it!!!

He can't be that brain damaged if he gets you to push him around!!!!!!!!!

my friend with a downs baby told me of some stuff said in the street to her just after we had our babies..
...the worst was 'you know you dont have to have them, you know'...she regularly went homein tears
such cruel ignorant people

everyone to ds...oh,your tall...he is, always has been long and thin but we did notice
its the state the obvious crowd that get me..

People stopping us in the street to gaze at our new baby (who looked a lot like a potato in the early days), and saying
"what a lovely...........pram!"

by tesco checkout chick - 'eeeeeewwwwwwwwwwww' what is that? as she pointed at dd1 and her nasal gastric tube. I was so embarrassed I just pretended I did not hear her. I just wanted to get some damn groceries and go home with my babe who had finally made it out of SCBU!

I have one of those at home - dh and I looked at each other wondering that the 'those' was when we realised she meant a child with down syndrome.

Another checkout chick asking me what dd1's learning capabilities would be??

lots of tsking when we are out and about and dd1 is in meltdown mode. Tell you what tsking infuriates me more than comments.

to DS2, 'oh, red hair. Hmm, where does he get that from poor thing?'.

Mind you, I do refer to him as the Ginger Whinger

not exactly a stranger someone who lives in my road (wouldn't wish to call her a neighbor) can you ask your boy to stop picking on my boy (my DS was 7, her DS was at high school)

I was told off by a stranger for letting my little girl have a go on a bouncy slide before we went shopping - she said I was "making a rod for my own back" by indulging her (by spending all of £1.50 on this). It was none of her business but we actually had a custom of dd having her slides first then we'd go shopping in the market which suited me better than doing it the other way around.

Someone asked me what we called DD, then when I told her she pulled a face, said hmm thats DIFFERENT, is it a family name?? So I said, no I just REAALLLLY like it! Beaming grin, and cursed her all the way home....

Someone asked me today if my 2 DDs are twins. DD1 is 22.5 months, DD2 is 5 months

got told by someone in hospital that "atleast he cant deny shes his, they look so alike"

talking about my hubby and dd.
lisa