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Agh my baby is such a miserable git

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ihaveagrumpybaby · 04/04/2019 19:57

DD is 5 weeks old and is such a miserable git! As much as I love her, she is hard work.

Non stop hunger so we’ve always got a bottle on the go (she’s formula thread with a bottle of breast milk each day). She has reflux which I know is really unpleasant for her but it’s just constant crying and moaning. Then I feel bad getting frustrated as I know she’s uncomfortable and she’s just a baby.

Please tell me she’s not going to be a miserable adult!

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colditz · 04/04/2019 20:01

She's in pain, love. Reflux fucking hurts - I know, I have it. i was a miserable baby too.

Try and keep the head of her cot propped up, and it's worth getting a sling so she can be upright on you.

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ihaveagrumpybaby · 04/04/2019 20:04

Does it bother them all the time?

I feel bad getting frustrated with her as I know she can’t help it. Just struggling in general really Sad

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NotSoSimpleSally · 04/04/2019 20:04

A baby is not a git.

Babies are hard work, it doesn’t make them gits.

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Magpiefeather · 04/04/2019 20:06

My DD cried (what felt like) non stop for about the first six months of her life. I feel for you, it was so so hard. Just to give you hope though, she is now the loveliest little toddler (almost two) I could wish for. Still verrrrry sensitive but absolutely lovely and good as good (most of the time). Hang on in there, it will get easier.

Magpiefeather · 04/04/2019 20:07

*good as gold

hellosis · 04/04/2019 20:12

You should be seeing your hv in the next couple of weeks for your 6-8 week follow up. Please mention how you are feeling, there is lots of support out there.

Your baby is not a git, nor is she miserable, she's just in pain. I know how difficult it is, it's none stop, there is absolutely no let up. How are you feeling in general?

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 04/04/2019 20:25

Have you tried anti-reflux milk. Made a big difference to ds.

needsleepzzz · 04/04/2019 20:27

See if you can get infant gavison, worked great on on baby, she was around 4 weeks when the reflux got really bad

GummyGoddess · 04/04/2019 20:34

Reflux hurts, it bothers them a lot of the time and stops them getting comfortable and sleeping, so then they're cranky because they're tired, then hungry because they've expended a lot of energy on being cranky, than reflux pain because they've been fed, etc, etc, etc. It's a vicious circle.

No judgement on calling baby a git, I have thought unkind things about my baby's before antidepressants kicked in, and I imagine a constantly screaming baby would produce similar feelings.

seven201 · 04/04/2019 21:50

My dd had silent reflux. No judgement here on the git comment! She's nearly 3 now and she's awesome. She was a bloody nightmare baby - none stop screamer! Nearly broke me she did!

SallyWD · 04/04/2019 21:54

My daughter was such an unhappy baby. If she wasn't asleep or feeding she was screaming! I felt I couldn't take her to any baby groups. All the other babies would be content and peaceful while mine screamed the place down. She's now the loveliest child you could imagine. So sweet, polite and caring. She's 8 now.

Aria999 · 04/04/2019 22:08

Small babies just often aren't functioning right to begin with! There could be an underlying issue but lots of babies grow out of this in a couple of months. Hang in there, it does get easier!

Haworthia · 04/04/2019 22:11

You’re allowed to feel frustrated OP. It’s exhausting and crap when you have a miserable baby.

You’re also allowed to say “miserable git”, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

DonPablo · 04/04/2019 22:11

Got any IRL support?

Greenlegobox · 04/04/2019 22:15

They're all gits at that age as far as I'm concerned. And mine was a 'good' baby so absolutely no judgement here either. I agree with GP or hv for help.

Wingingthis · 04/04/2019 22:18

Have you considered possible CMPA? (Cows milk protein allergy)

MazDazzle · 04/04/2019 22:20

My nephew was a proper miserable git. My sister found that a Sleepyhead Delux pod inside a crib that tilted (Chico Next to me) helped him though the night and she also carried him about in a sling all day. I helped her when I could by popping over with meals and whizzing round with the hoover.

My first born screamed and screamed, but was happy in her pushchair. She hated the carrycot attachment, so I moved her up to the pushchair seat pretty quickly. Bizarrely, if I played dance music really loudly and rocked her in the pushchair, she’d fall asleep.

I feel your pain. It’s so difficult when they are miserable. It does get better through!

Keep talking to your HV about the reflux and how you’re feeling in yourself.

Hollywoodcheesecake · 04/04/2019 22:29

My reflux baby has been prescribed ranitidine and it’s been life changing. Would recommend chatting to your HV or GP about it as it’s horrendous to deal with on a day to day basis.

donajimena · 04/04/2019 22:36

My eldest was a git as a baby and is now one as a teen. I've called him worse behind his back too.

Absolutepowercorrupts · 04/04/2019 22:37

Aw op that sounds really difficult, no judgement here for your use of the word git, it's ok all babies are very hard work in the beginning while you get used to each other. I mean realistically you've only just met so it's going to take time to get to know each other.
There are loads of other words you could have used and didn't. Other pp have suggested quite a few things that could help, maybe give some of them a try.
This stage won't last for ever, but it's bloody hard work.
💐wishing you well

Ilikethinkingupnewnames · 04/04/2019 22:41

@donajimena you are meant to be making her feel better 😂 mine is the same

This too shall pass, just keep repeating xx

lablablab · 04/04/2019 22:53

My dd screamed non stop as a baby - mild reflux, bad eczema and teething hell. She hit 2.5 and was amazing! Just the happiest and kindest girl in the world. She's now 6 and an absolute delight.

My ds was the happiest and most content baby ever. He's now 4 and is now a right miserable git! 🤷‍♀️

They're all different, going through different things at different times. Please don't feel bad. It will get better Thanks

donajimena · 04/04/2019 23:15

Ilike oops! I do love him really. OP if its any consolation he has been mostly lovely since around 8mths when the reflux settled.

Pomfluff · 05/04/2019 21:45

Same here (DS 15 weeks), my sleep deprived memories of week 5 was non-stop crying. She couldn’t be left alone for 5mins without a meltdown. It helps to accept that this is just a very repetitive, painful, difficult yet still fairly special season of life. I gave up my expectations of having a ‘normal’ life (going to cafes, shops or restaurants, meeting people, travel etc) and just took each day as it came. Just hang on to the fact that things do improve. I started getting more sleep around week 8 which worked wonders, and DS became more smiley after week 8. Still quite fussy at 15 weeks but I know I can survive this phase.

Part of the reason newborns look miserable is that they don’t know how to socially smile. Once they start smiling back when you look at them it changes everything!

user1471426142 · 06/04/2019 02:45

My 3 week old is miserable too. I’m finding it really hard going as she basically can’t cope being awake but can’t sleep unless she’s in the sling or at night if she’s fed to sleep (doesn’t seem to work during the day). I don’t remember my first being as hard but I think you block out memories of the newborn period otherwise the human race would die out.