Before my son (10 months) came along my MIL and I got along fine. But since my LO's arrival everything has changed.
At first she was distant and borderline uninterested in him. In the first 9 months of his life she saw him 4 times out of choice. I tried to plan visits, days out, etc etc, but these plans were either ignored, rejected, or cancelled. A couple of times she even stood us up at agreed upon destinations. During this period she did however offer to have him for a full weekend. But I declined because:
A) My son barely knew her then.
B) She is unreliable and scatty. She's known to disappear for days at a time and not tell anyone where she's going.
Now, suddenly, out of the blue she's decided to make a proper effort, which is lovely obviously, but she's brought a really cutting attitude along with her. Since making an effort she's seen him 3 times and each time I've been made to feel awful.
These are some of the comments I had to endure on Mother's Day:
"Why would you dress him like THAT?"
"Mummy doesn't have a brain, does she?" (Said to my son).
"Why do you still feed him at night? All you ever do is molleycoddle him."
"It's completely down to you that he's not walking yet."
"Your home is far too small for a child."
"You're not having a massive party for his first birthday? That's selfish!"
"I wouldn't order a hot chocolate if I were you. This is why you haven't lost all of your baby weight."
I feel like she genuinely hates me, and all I've ever done is try to involve her. My partner says nothing and he doesn't see an issue, which leads me to believe that I'm being over sensitive. She never used to speak to me like this.
Is this solely down to me refusing to allow her access for a weekend in the early days?
Opinions?